Oops, l wish we were still friends....

[Aspychata]

Do you still have friends you cut off because they broke your boundaries? I stop myself from calling, emailing, texting. But l wonder how they are doing. Their life has been up and down for about five years. I met her and she had a little suitcase. She almost got kidnapped in Texas by a felon. Then she moved back, thanked me for my advice, bought a home. And lost a job as a result of mortgage rates that climbed. But l know not to call.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I had a good friend. It was work-related, but I thought the friendship was more than that. Then, something I did or said ticked her off and it was over. Period. I made a few inquiries which were rebuffed. It saddens me, but I knew she had done that to others in the past, so it is not so unexpected in general. Just unexpected at the time.

 

[DaisyRose]

I had a great friend, but she chose a man over her values. She ended up going to Ukraine for her husband who was not a very good person. I feel bad because I think she can’t find anybody else, so she sticks with this loser. She kept lying to me about how things were going. I grew tired of her lying and cut her off. We had some really good times together, but it was cut short.

 

[Aspychata]

Yup , @DaisyRose this happens where we chase a pipedream that doesn't exist except in our tiny dysfunctional mind.

 

[DaisyRose]

Yup , @DaisyRose this happens where we chase a pipedream that doesn't exist except in our tiny dysfunctional mind.

When she told me where she was going, I lost it. Why would you give your life up for someone who wouldn’t do the same? It’s very dangerous and reckless.

 

[Aspychata]

We just stand aside, you have to let people make their decisions. @DaisyRose

 

[DaisyRose]

We just stand aside, you have to let people make their decisions.

Your right. I knew if I said don’t do that, she would’ve still went. I stood aside and said, if that’s what you want to do, then do it.

 

[Aspychata]

Nobody said life is easy. We find this out on our own. But when you are lucky enough to find a true friend that is at the same emotional IQ as you, you won the lottery.

 

[Alexej]

Do you still have friends you cut off because they broke your boundaries? I stop myself from calling, emailing, texting. But l wonder how they are doing. Their life has been up and down for about five years. I met her and she had a little suitcase. She almost got kidnapped in Texas by a felon. Then she moved back, thanked me for my advice, bought a home. And lost a job as a result of mortgage rates that climbed. But l know not to call.

Could you send a message along the lines of "Hey - I was thinking of you today. Hope things are OK for you" or something along those lines?

edited for spelling

 

[Misty Avich]

I've never cut off friends, except the ones who bullied me, but they weren't friends obviously, though I was disappointed in them because I thought they were my friends.

 

[Forest Cat]

This is a quincidence, yesterday evening I was thinking about maybe contacting someone I haven't talked to in a long time. And then I saw this thread now. It has been 12 years so I'm not sure if contacting him would be weird now. But I recently found out he lives in the same area as me. And everything that happened 12 years ago was just plain stupid, it doesn't really matter anymore. I don't know, I probably won't do it. I think too much time has passed, it would just be weird. I think. Maybe.

 

[Misty Avich]

I sent a friend request on Facebook to an old classmate I knew all through school, but she blocked me. This isn't the first time this has happened. I had no idea I was so awful.