Overprotectve parent

[paloftoon]

This wasn't a big deal, but the situation made me sad. I'm pretty sure this student was on the spectrum if I remember correctly.

The student pretended to be his mother on the phone. I could tell by the voice, but I didn't make the accusation over the phone. I waited until I saw the parent and child in-person and asked if the mother had ever spoken to me once. She said no. Then I explained that her son [might've] posed as her over the phone. She didn't deny this. However, she just said that she had permission slip forms in now. She was asked to submit permission slip forms much earlier before she signed up for the event, and had at least one month to submit them to me by e-mail or fax. If she was having issues, she would've let me know during that time frame. It just upsets me that a parent would promote this kind of behavior.

 

[AsheSkyler]

...How is it overprotective to let a kid pretend to be the parent? All I'm gathering is that she's been sick or busy (or forgetful), so the kid was helping her out.

 

[paloftoon]

Well, if the parent was that sick, the kid could have indicated that, or the parent could've indicated that on the day I met them in-person. That did not happen, so that scenario is highly unlikely unfortunately.

 

[AsheSkyler]

True dat. It was definitely in the area of dishonesty.

 

[OliveOilMom]

My mother was overprotective so I was going to chime on here about the effects of that on me and how I think being overprotective can influence a child, but I don't see anything in the original post about anybody being overprotective. What am I missing? Are you calling yourself overprotective for noticing what the kid did and being disturbed by it? I don't get it.

 

[musclecarman]

that is one really cool skill of his he should have more practice you never know when it comes in handy in life.

 

[paloftoon]

No, I am saying the mother was overprotective. The mother was saying that everything was "alright" because she showed up to an event with her child. The mother completely ignored the fact that I knew that her child was pretending to be her on the phone. Her reaction directly implies that I am attacking her son wrongfully or that what I am bringing up is too negative and not a big deal. I am saying that this kind of dishonesty is a big deal.

The mother is being overprotective because she thinks it's okay to allow her son to pretend that he is her over the phone. She is also implying that I don't need to know that I am speaking to the mother herself or her son despite the fact that I am a school staff member and that this was an official school event. It is a big deal. There is potentially liability involved.

My mother was overprotective so I was going to chime on here about the effects of that on me and how I think being overprotective can influence a child, but I don't see anything in the original post about anybody being overprotective. What am I missing? Are you calling yourself overprotective for noticing what the kid did and being disturbed by it? I don't get it.

 

[dragonwolf]

No, I am saying the mother was overprotective. The mother was saying that everything was "alright" because she showed up to an event with her child. The mother completely ignored the fact that I knew that her child was pretending to be her on the phone. Her reaction directly implies that I am attacking her son wrongfully or that what I am bringing up is too negative and not a big deal. I am saying that this kind of dishonesty is a big deal.

The mother is being overprotective because she thinks it's okay to allow her son to pretend that he is her over the phone. She is also implying that I don't need to know that I am speaking to the mother herself or her son despite the fact that I am a school staff member and that this was an official school event. It is a big deal. There is potentially liability involved.

That's...not overprotectiveness, but rather more along the lines of negligence and plain old bad parenting.

Overprotectiveness is something like when a parent doesn't allow a fully capable 15 year old cross the street by himself.