Are we at an age in human history where all notion of common sense just simply doesn't exist anymore?
Are parents and likewise other forms of guardians/whatever forms of authority figures that exist just so adamant in resorting to military-era styles of discipline and/or punishment simply because of the fact that not only did those things exist during the time periods they were conceived but also because such methods of rearing were a trend?!
This is the year 2020. I sincerely doubt that punishments older than the Declaration of Independence,such as writing "I will not do [bad thing I wasn't supposed to do] ever again" x number of times in a multiple of two thousand, or being smacked across the arse with a leather buckle hardly make any sense anymore, nor would they get any kind of message across other than "Hey kids, did you know that when your parents were kids, Social Services didn't exist and it was okay to abuse your child both mentally AND physically?"
Humanity is proving itself to take a large, gargantuan gorilla step backwards in time if parents nowadays from the same year that LEGO's made their debut are actively conscious that it is in fact the year 2020 and hardly anyone does those things anymore, yet they still believe it's okay to knock your kid's psyche around like a racquetball with promises to haze one's aft end with a belt, embarass them on social media AND in public (as a punishment, mind you!), make them scribble a promise to misbehave one specific way ever again for the duration of the Cold War, or even something as flusteringly insane as, oh I don't know, SEND ONE OUT OF THE ROOM AND DOWN THE ROAD WITH LITTLE MORE THAN THE SHIRT, PANTS AND SHOES THEY HAVE ON SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU ATE THE WRONG BAG OF CHIPS
Is THIS how we have agreed to treat our children?! Is THIS something that a group of people can gather round at a table and say to each other, "hey, this is okay, let's do this from now on" and every single almond-sized brain in that room will agree to that and think it's okay?!
Am I the ONLY person here that exists not only in this region of North Carolina but in the entire conceivable over that first got wise of this at the age of fifteen, realized that something about it wasn't right, wasn't even human or realistic, and KNEW something was up? It could not have been a blind coincidence that the very first time I got punished for missing ONE LEAF after raking the entire yard of my uncle's house, I went back in, called my best friend from middle school, explained what was happening down to the last detail, and lo and behold, he himself also knew SOMETHING about that method of discipline made zero sense whatsoever. I even told about this event to my OTHER friends who were in my class and sure enough, they agreed that not only were my uncle and aunt clearly in the wrong from such outdated methods of discipline, they too had the agreement that there may have been a mental aspect to this (and it should have come as no surprise given that my aunt Dorothy was well in her 70s, looked like a stoned dog on two legs when she walked and had not one but two tumors in her brain, according to my cousin Jada), so, yeah, I can safely say I wasn't the only one who called bull[bleep] on these little punishments they gave me.
"But Uber", you may be asking, "weren't YOU in the wrong during these things happening? Don't you think they were trying to teach you a lesson about life with these things?"
On one hand, to be honest, you would be KINDA right in that regard, but keep in mind these people were my aunt and uncle, who were only drafted to take care of me because my mother was in the process of divorcing my biological father, who I do not want in my life at all because he amounts to little more than a headless Jabberwocky who is so brainlessly stupid he keeps forgetting he has motor skills, and being that the process of divorce in the United States is a legal matter and for some it takes a good amount of time, naturally it is a process that requires multiple steps and so, because of things happening that requires one to stop everything they're doing to perform those steps, of course there won't be time to take care of the children, so someone else has to take up the mantle.
You might have the opinion that my mother made a poor choice in sending me to my uncle/aunt's house for that part, but also keep in mind that somehow, these two characters that call themselves my uncle and aunt, have mastered the art of manipulating people's minds through word of mouth alone, and how they achieved this over decades of time is anyone's guess but my theory is that they speak in such a way that other people would hear what they are REALLY saying, but the listener's themselves only hear the speakers' side of the story. I know, it's confusing to think about and the way I explained it may be a little confusing, but it's the only way I could get this out there.
Back to the point, NONE! of that is an excuse to resort to manipulative behavior towards your lessers, much less let alone mentally abuse them to the point where they go full on hermit to themselves and shut down their emotions completely.
All this does is break your spirit, well, to others it would, but for me? I turned to rebellion towards this at a VERY early part in my teenage years, because I was that smart to it. They dumb things down for you in a way that makes you feel like you're still in preschool, to distract you and control your mind, to make you believe that time has not moved forward at all and nothing has changed. They speak changes into the world around you as if they already happened, and it's only based on how they view their use of power. These people that you live with forever (some of you anyway, I know I do) start to get wise to the fact that they still have power over your life, and because of this knowledge, their power grows.
They start to realize that a belt is more than just for spanking, it's for backing you into the head of your bed and commanding you to sit like a dog.
They start to realize that yelling is how you scare a child into being obedient, not just an expression of anger.
They begin to realize that making new rules to fit their own desires for obedience, or changing ones that already exist for the sake of keeping you in line is a new form of discipline and is the new way to ensure obedience...hmm, now where might I have seen that one before?!
WAKE UP, PEOPLE!
I may only be the firstborn son of a middle-class family still learning discipline, and not know anything about parenting in general, but even I know this isn't how you do this [bleep]!!!
In the end, one question still remains...
Do we want our kids to grow up knowing how to face the world? Or do we want them to be robots?!
Are parents and likewise other forms of guardians/whatever forms of authority figures that exist just so adamant in resorting to military-era styles of discipline and/or punishment simply because of the fact that not only did those things exist during the time periods they were conceived but also because such methods of rearing were a trend?!
This is the year 2020. I sincerely doubt that punishments older than the Declaration of Independence,such as writing "I will not do [bad thing I wasn't supposed to do] ever again" x number of times in a multiple of two thousand, or being smacked across the arse with a leather buckle hardly make any sense anymore, nor would they get any kind of message across other than "Hey kids, did you know that when your parents were kids, Social Services didn't exist and it was okay to abuse your child both mentally AND physically?"
Humanity is proving itself to take a large, gargantuan gorilla step backwards in time if parents nowadays from the same year that LEGO's made their debut are actively conscious that it is in fact the year 2020 and hardly anyone does those things anymore, yet they still believe it's okay to knock your kid's psyche around like a racquetball with promises to haze one's aft end with a belt, embarass them on social media AND in public (as a punishment, mind you!), make them scribble a promise to misbehave one specific way ever again for the duration of the Cold War, or even something as flusteringly insane as, oh I don't know, SEND ONE OUT OF THE ROOM AND DOWN THE ROAD WITH LITTLE MORE THAN THE SHIRT, PANTS AND SHOES THEY HAVE ON SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU ATE THE WRONG BAG OF CHIPS
Is THIS how we have agreed to treat our children?! Is THIS something that a group of people can gather round at a table and say to each other, "hey, this is okay, let's do this from now on" and every single almond-sized brain in that room will agree to that and think it's okay?!
Am I the ONLY person here that exists not only in this region of North Carolina but in the entire conceivable over that first got wise of this at the age of fifteen, realized that something about it wasn't right, wasn't even human or realistic, and KNEW something was up? It could not have been a blind coincidence that the very first time I got punished for missing ONE LEAF after raking the entire yard of my uncle's house, I went back in, called my best friend from middle school, explained what was happening down to the last detail, and lo and behold, he himself also knew SOMETHING about that method of discipline made zero sense whatsoever. I even told about this event to my OTHER friends who were in my class and sure enough, they agreed that not only were my uncle and aunt clearly in the wrong from such outdated methods of discipline, they too had the agreement that there may have been a mental aspect to this (and it should have come as no surprise given that my aunt Dorothy was well in her 70s, looked like a stoned dog on two legs when she walked and had not one but two tumors in her brain, according to my cousin Jada), so, yeah, I can safely say I wasn't the only one who called bull[bleep] on these little punishments they gave me.
"But Uber", you may be asking, "weren't YOU in the wrong during these things happening? Don't you think they were trying to teach you a lesson about life with these things?"
On one hand, to be honest, you would be KINDA right in that regard, but keep in mind these people were my aunt and uncle, who were only drafted to take care of me because my mother was in the process of divorcing my biological father, who I do not want in my life at all because he amounts to little more than a headless Jabberwocky who is so brainlessly stupid he keeps forgetting he has motor skills, and being that the process of divorce in the United States is a legal matter and for some it takes a good amount of time, naturally it is a process that requires multiple steps and so, because of things happening that requires one to stop everything they're doing to perform those steps, of course there won't be time to take care of the children, so someone else has to take up the mantle.
You might have the opinion that my mother made a poor choice in sending me to my uncle/aunt's house for that part, but also keep in mind that somehow, these two characters that call themselves my uncle and aunt, have mastered the art of manipulating people's minds through word of mouth alone, and how they achieved this over decades of time is anyone's guess but my theory is that they speak in such a way that other people would hear what they are REALLY saying, but the listener's themselves only hear the speakers' side of the story. I know, it's confusing to think about and the way I explained it may be a little confusing, but it's the only way I could get this out there.
Back to the point, NONE! of that is an excuse to resort to manipulative behavior towards your lessers, much less let alone mentally abuse them to the point where they go full on hermit to themselves and shut down their emotions completely.
All this does is break your spirit, well, to others it would, but for me? I turned to rebellion towards this at a VERY early part in my teenage years, because I was that smart to it. They dumb things down for you in a way that makes you feel like you're still in preschool, to distract you and control your mind, to make you believe that time has not moved forward at all and nothing has changed. They speak changes into the world around you as if they already happened, and it's only based on how they view their use of power. These people that you live with forever (some of you anyway, I know I do) start to get wise to the fact that they still have power over your life, and because of this knowledge, their power grows.
They start to realize that a belt is more than just for spanking, it's for backing you into the head of your bed and commanding you to sit like a dog.
They start to realize that yelling is how you scare a child into being obedient, not just an expression of anger.
They begin to realize that making new rules to fit their own desires for obedience, or changing ones that already exist for the sake of keeping you in line is a new form of discipline and is the new way to ensure obedience...hmm, now where might I have seen that one before?!
WAKE UP, PEOPLE!
I may only be the firstborn son of a middle-class family still learning discipline, and not know anything about parenting in general, but even I know this isn't how you do this [bleep]!!!
In the end, one question still remains...
Do we want our kids to grow up knowing how to face the world? Or do we want them to be robots?!
) It is thought a moral failing. "Nothing wrong with you. You just need to (blah. blah, blah)!"
