people who cancel last minute

[paloftoon]

People who cancel last minute, especially intentionally, suck. People who cancel last minute, try to make up for it, and if they don't respond also suck in a different way cause they probably aren't doing it on purpose, but don't respect me or my schedule.


Definitely this whole new way of "communication" where it's "not okay" to call and just text or send e-mails really does not help for getting together, especially when I'm busy in real life cleaning up my own place or something like that. . .

 

[garnetflower13]

I have had people do that to me! It is very inconsiderate.

 

[StephF]

I would respond to that by doing the very same to them another time. If they ask why you cancelled at the last minute say" Well, now you know how it feels !"

 

[Astroganga]

I've had people do this, and hsve had people just not show up and assume that I would be ok with that and figure since they were not there at the set time then they are not coming and there is no need to confirm from their side. I have had some meltdowns over it and it is one reason why I am now extremely reluctant to invite people to my place or to meet up somewhere else.

 

[arcan]

I hate this, and I find it very rude when someone does it.

 

[Peeta]

Hell has a special circle for people like this. Also I hate people dropping by unannounced.

 

[paloftoon]

I would respond to that by doing the very same to them another time. If they ask why you cancelled at the last minute say" Well, now you know how it feels !"

I seem to get blamed when I have tried to do this type of thing myself. It's much easier to "run" to something else, but probably the wiser decision than producing more enemies. Plus, some people who have done this don't seem to be doing it intentionally, but I still have to try to make them earn my trust and reciprocation too.

 

[paloftoon]

Hell has a special circle for people like this. Also I hate people dropping by unannounced.

If it's not a special friend or an emergency, I'd probably just say no I can't, sorry. If they don't like that answer, too bad. They are not worth having as "friends."

 

[Professori]

If it's not a special friend or an emergency, I'd probably just say no I can't, sorry. If they don't like that answer, too bad. They are not worth having as "friends."

Whoo, that's a bad one for me!! I really do not handle this kind of behaviour well at all. It is seriously disrespectful and simply disregards you plus the fact that you have set aside time for the meeting. I have had this done repeatedly by people who have committed to meetings for which I have prepared presentations, and these are people from whom I have expected better. I have found that it us a general trend today in which people think that there is nothing wrong with it.

It also says something about those who do cancel at the last meeting - something quite negative about their characters. That is what I use as a basis to make the decision that I will not continue to regard them as friends, and I certainly do mention to them the fact that their behaviour was disrespectful, irrespective of whether they take it well or not.