Possible to outgrow AS? or just miss-diagnosis??

[CoolStoryBro...]

Forget that or just miss diagnosis bit lol

 

[CoolStoryBro...]

-I'm not great at keeping a convo going but I'm not terrible at it.
-I'm shy about expressing myself emotionally to some of my mates(Like if something really **** happened or exx gf ****...)
-Above normal hearing and not great but have improved a lot recently at processing two or more auditory inputs into my brain simultaneously
-Working up the confidence to call a friend about something(like going out), but It's something I've made massive progress with
-Trying to remember the tune to a song from the song title is almost impossible for me, or only sometimes vice versa
-I go quite inward when I am depressed...
-I'm moody in a weird way... Sometimes I would find it so hard to find words for a convo or to make it sound rite during social situations while at other times I could be the complete social center and be completely smooth and efficient in manner.
-I find it kinda hard to follow two convos at once
-I sometimes have habits/ticks, as in the slightest face movements, when I am '100% alone' but I completely suppress them even near the presence of anybody.
-I never express myself as being stressed(as in ever, most of my mates think I'm the most laid back ****er on the planet) I always seem to quickly or slowly change the feeling into confusion, shock or whatever else...

Thats the only sort of real stand out symptoms I have. Is that enough to diagnose somebody??? I'm also good at Maths and Physics, the kind you always here AS'es are good at

 

[jayraytee]

As far as I know you don't grow out of aspergers syndrome technically, because it is the way your brain is wired. You can over time work things out in order to function normally. What I mean by that is for example people on the spectrum don't read body language intrinsically, but they can learn it and memorize it and appear to be reading body language like everyone else. So outwardly they may look and act like everyone else, but the processes are still diffrerent. When I have discussions with people I memorize the conversation and replay it later in order to understand meanings of things said that can be taken two ways, I use the entire context of the conversation to figure it out. If I get stumped, I will go over and over the conversation endlessly. So, while I seem to socialize normally to everyone else, I actually go through a lot more stress than they do to socialize.

People often think I am shy because I don't make small talk generally, but I am not shy at all. I don't feel much of anything when talking to people, I just usually am entirely uninterested in what they are saying. I hate small talk. I hate to socialize. It is too much work for too little return. I would rather gather data for my interests. When it comes to being in a room of people talking, my problem is I feel like I have to listen to every conversation going on and try to keep up. It can be too much, overstimulating, I might not even realize how much stress it is causing me at the time but after I leave the place I will be super tense.

Now, it is also very possible to be misdiagnosed as well, when I saw a doctor they went over and over things to make sure that I didn't have social anxiety, because a person could have that for example and obsessive compulsive disorder and a couple of other things and seem to have aspergers. Sometimes its difficult to tell even for professionals who know all of the 'disorders' and their signs. I actually quit going to see that doctor because she was never quite sure which I had. She said I had signs of both aspergers and social anxiety, but never settled on either one. So I went elsewhere.