Private Person?

[Aspergers_Aspie]

A member of staff from the autism charity drop-in I was attending before covid restrictions once said he thought I was a private person. I didn't feel that is entirely accurate. At times I want my own company but at other times I enjoy interaction with staff and other service users doing something 'structured' like playing pool or a board game.
Have you ever been told you are a private person?

 

[Wolfsage]

No I'm Batman.

I think people figured it out on their own.

 

[unperson]

I tell them.

 

[Storm Hess]

A member of staff from the autism charity drop-in I was attending before covid restrictions once said he thought I was a private person. I didn't feel that is entirely accurate. At times I want my own company but at other times I enjoy interaction with staff and other service users doing something 'structured' like playing pool or a board game.
Have you ever been told you are a private person?

Can't really think of saying that as such, but I have said on more than one occasion that I didn't want to be bothered.

There are times I can handle being in social situations, but most of the times I cannot. Since my interactions are limited, i don't have to say much at all...and I'm ok with that.

 

[Aspychata]

I would be flattered if l was told that. Think self-preservation means being private.

 

[VictorR]

"private" - no
"reserved", "quiet", or "contemplating" - yes

 

[Tom]

Depending on what meaning you assign to 'Private' it could be construed as rather rude.

Yes, I'm sure I have been, along with other similar terms like others have mentioned. I wouldn't read too much into it. It may often just be whatever word comes to their mind to indicate you are not a complete extrovert. Many NT's are the same.

 

[Au Naturel]

I think people much preferred me to be "private." They found my clumsiness, stimming, and getting excited over nerdy stuff and my social faux pas to be irritating and annoying. So I gave them what they wanted.

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

I only knew I had Aspergers when I was nearly 30. About 10 years ago. Before that in jobs or college I would really struggle sometimes as I needed to be on my own for a bit, like on breaks. But now I know one of the colleges I attended for example has student support and an area like a 'quiet area' where students can go during breaks.
I loved one of my jobs. It was in a cinema. The only tricky part, was breaks. I left as I was part-time and studying part-time. Due to times of classes, I would've needed to have my shift hours changed. But it didn't occur to me to speak to the manager about this and I left, part of me really regrets this! But some good things have happened since then.

 

[Aneka]

A member of staff from the autism charity drop-in I was attending before covid restrictions once said he thought I was a private person. I didn't feel that is entirely accurate. At times I want my own company but at other times I enjoy interaction with staff and other service users doing something 'structured' like playing pool or a board game.
Have you ever been told you are a private person?

No, but I've been called worse Cold, aloof, arrogant.

 

[The Pandector]

I would be flattered if l was told that. Think self-preservation means being private.

I get it. One of my prized insults was from another manager who was apparently in some kind of competition with me (my contract was consistently about 40% more lucrative than his.) Dissatisfied with a decision he had to live with, "Oh, yeah," he tells me. "You don't solve problems like everybody else." I'm thinking, 'Why, thank you Bill. I know that you do, but I'd be glad to work with you on that.'

I'm fine with people figuring out that I usually keep to myself. I am always most productive when left to solve my own problems.

 

[Progster]

Yes, I have, and what they mean, I think, is that I keep myself to myself, don't talk much and don't share much.

 

[SusanLR]

That's how I would define private also @Progster .
Not so much being alone as not opening up about myself and sharing things about my life.
Here I feel I can be more open.
Even more so than with my therapist.

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

I am happy to chat generally to other service users at the aspergers charity drop-in I attended before covid, when I don't need time to myself. However personal things I only chat to the staff about.

 

[Soleil]

I've been described as quiet and cold. I definitely am quiet, but I object to cold. I can see why people would think that, though.
I am a private person, but that's mostly because communication takes so much effort that I tend to give up and say as little as possible.

 

[DaisyRose]

I am a private person. I tend to tell people things that I want them to know about me. I don’t share things to people I don’t feel confortable sharing. I’ve always been like that. I like to keep my privacy and space separate from work.