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ConnorTheFanboy

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hey guys, so I'm twelve and almost thirteen and I have a twin sister. She is going to be the death of me if I don't do something about her. Anyway, she is super obsessive, never leaves me and my business alone, and never shuts up about her favorite tv show and video game. Also did I mention she gives dirty looks if I tell her to please talk about something else or go away. I need help as soon as I can get it. Thanks!
 
ConnorTheFanboy said:
hey guys, so I'm twelve and almost thirteen and I have a twin sister. She is going to be the death of me if I don't do something about her. Anyway, she is super obsessive, never leaves me and my business alone, and never shuts up about her favorite tv show and video game. Also did I mention she gives dirty looks if I tell her to please talk about something else or go away. I need help as soon as I can get it. Thanks!
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Edit: I don't want this to do anything with another person, just me and her.
 
@ConnorThe Fanboy

So you are saying you want to figure out a way to
deal with your sister, and you don't want to seek out
another person IRL to act as a referee or go-between?

What have you tried, so far?
 
I've tried telling my parents about the situation. They worked it out with her, but of course, she did not listen. I've also tried telling her to stop, but she just rolls her eyes and continues being obnoxious.
 
Seems as if she wants your attention, for you to spend time with her. Maybe at this point she doesn't understand that you want time to yourself. Or maybe she does but she doesn't care. Sounds as if she wants the close childhood relationship that you two had. But you've become interested in doing things on your own without her and she misses that.

Had a sister like that too, who was after me to play games all the time. She was always running around with a pack of cards or a board game or a ball or baseball glove. I'd give her time, and play a game or two with her. It just never seemed enough, and I wanted to be alone and draw or read, seemed as if she never really understood that I wanted time to myself. Eventually I did tell her I needed time to do the things I wanted to do. She was sad about it, but I think did understand after awhile.

Don't know what it's like to have a twin, so it might be different.
 
Mia said:
Seems as if she wants your attention, for you to spend time with her. Maybe at this point she doesn't understand that you want time to yourself. Or maybe she does but she doesn't care. Sounds as if she wants the close childhood relationship that you two had. But you've become interested in doing things on your own without her and she misses that.

Had a sister like that too, who was after me to play games all the time. She was always running around with a pack of cards or a board game or a ball or baseball glove. I'd give her time, and play a game or two with her. It just never seemed enough, and I wanted to be alone and draw or read, seemed as if she never really understood that I wanted time to myself. Eventually I did tell her I needed time to do the things I wanted to do. She was sad about it, but I think did understand after awhile.

Don't know what it's like to have a twin, so it might be different.
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Well, yeah, your example is kinda true for me. We play XBox or Wii together all the time, which is nice because I love to do things like that with her. However, when we are not spending time together, she just walks into my room, asks to do something or give her something, and if I say no, she rolls her eyes and asks again, usually with me giving her or allowing her to do something because I'm scared she will harass me if I don't. She also walks in at the worst times, like for example, right when I get out of the shower and she is in my room. That annoys me like crazy. When I tell her to get out, she either says "No!"or rolls her eyes and stays in the room. I give her respect of her personal space, so why doesn't she respect mine? I just don't understand that girl.
 
Tell her you want privacy. If she's not respecting that, then maybe think about installing a slide bolt on the inside of your door and use it when you want to be alone.

Ask your parents what that think about it first and then decide what would work for you. My brother did that when he was about fifteen I think, to have some privacy from his sisters.
 
Mia said:
Tell her you want privacy. If she's not respecting that, then maybe think about installing a slide bolt on the inside of your door and use it when you want to be alone.

Ask your parents what that think about it first and then decide what would work for you. My brother did that when he was about fifteen I think, to have some privacy from his sisters.
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I do have a lock on my door, but here's my problem. Whenever I lock the door, my sister knocks loudly at the door to either:
  1. Get my attention to open the door.
  2. Get my parents' attention so they can force me to open the door because we have a no-locking policy.
So, yeah, there is really nothing I can do about her.
 
ConnorTheFanboy said:
Well, yeah, your example is kinda true for me. We play XBox or Wii together all the time, which is nice because I love to do things like that with her. However, when we are not spending time together, she just walks into my room, asks to do something or give her something, and if I say no, she rolls her eyes and asks again, usually with me giving her or allowing her to do something because I'm scared she will harass me if I don't. She also walks in at the worst times, like for example, right when I get out of the shower and she is in my room. That annoys me like crazy. When I tell her to get out, she either says "No!"or rolls her eyes and stays in the room. I give her respect of her personal space, so why doesn't she respect mine? I just don't understand that girl.
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UPDATE: Sometimes I feel like she has ODD.
 
Okay, so I think one of my problems has changed overnight. Last night, my sister busted the door open to my room to tell my to do something as if she was my mother.After that, she slammed the door because I told her I needed space. My father came up the stairs to see what was up, and my sister said I wasn't doing what I was told like a tattletale, and I said she was invading my privacy. My father stated as long as my door is kept shut, one will have to knock before entering. That's only one of my problems. My other problem is her over-obsessiveness. Whenever I try to change the subject from Steven Universe or UNDERTALE to something else, she either rolls her eyes and continues to talk about either two subjects, or gets up and leaves. How do I get her to change the subject?
 
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