Question...your thoughts on perfection...

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

Do you like your Christmas decorations to be perfect and your planning or do you like a relaxed vibe or just the with the flow?
I can be very organised and but I have learnt to go more with the flow.
I do sometimes have a little bit of a perfectionist eye as an artistic person, I think it is helpful.
But I just love to make it look as nice as possible although I often try to make it nice.
But I feel as an autistic you just do not have the means or energy to wear yourself out making it look like a high degree of perfection like pinterest Christmas decorations
However I do love party planning but I often like a party by myself without the stress of others where I do it all for my own enjoyment. Because people just make it more stressful.
And I cannot explain how many Nye celebrations I have enjoyed by myself just having my own celebration.

 

[Jumpinbare]

Relaxed definitely. My tree is still in place from 2 years ago. It's not in the way, and taking it down just to put it back up the next year seems wasteful. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

 

[Sherlock77]

I literally am a perfectionist, and very meticulous in many things... It's good and bad at the same time

One downside I experience is that when I fail at something, my first thought is how much of a failure I am, even when it's often something out of my control... I do know is a wrong thing to do, I am trying to deal with that better

 

[SusanLR]

Relaxed for Christmas.
No parties, no family, no friends. Silent night for sure.

I do love the decorations and lights of the season.
In that aspect I am perfectionistic. In anything artful or aesthetic I like perfection.
I call it my exercise in futility as it can never be exactly perfect.
I must make things as perfect as possible even if that is impossible.

 

[Rodafina]

your thoughts on perfection...​

Wasted effort.
Impossible standards.
Burnout inducing.
Inflated ego.
False reality.

I should not be so conceited as to think I can be perfect (although I sure did for a very very long time).

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I don't mean to be critical of those who are perfectionists. I'm just being dramatic because I have wasted so much of my life striving for perfection. What a silly idea. Accepting imperfection is so much better, so much more freeing, and feels so much healthier. Tired of wasting my time on impossible things.

 

[wards]

I used to try and perfect everything I did and projects I undertook, with age I have learnt to stop caring as much, and it really has lowered my stress levels lol.

I let my wife and daughter decorate the tree, and it looks lovely, growing up my brother and I would decorate the tree and my parents would adjust and move it all which used to upset me, I wouldn't do that to my kid, you need to build their confidence.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Do you like your Christmas decorations to be perfect and your planning or do you like a relaxed vibe or just the with the flow?
I can be very organised and but I have learnt to go more with the flow.
I do sometimes have a little bit of a perfectionist eye as an artistic person, I think it is helpful.
But I just love to make it look as nice as possible although I often try to make it nice.
But I feel as an autistic you just do not have the means or energy to wear yourself out making it look like a high degree of perfection like pinterest Christmas decorations
However I do love party planning but I often like a party by myself without the stress of others where I do it all for my own enjoyment. Because people just make it more stressful.
And I cannot explain how many Nye celebrations I have enjoyed by myself just having my own celebration.

I am far more of a perfectionist when it comes to decor than my wife, and when I say that, I do put more thought into it. I wouldn't say I "stress" about it, because I enjoy the artist and creative side of my brain. Whether it comes out "perfect" is up for debate, but I will put more energy into it and appreciate the end results. My wife doesn't really have an "eye" for decor, color palate, etc., which is fine, she will yield to me on these sort of things. So this week coming up it will be my job to decorate the house, put up the tree, etc. My wife is working all week and I have a few days off. Then this weekend, we have family coming over and we are hosting Christmas at our home, but I have to work through the holidays (we work every other holiday, and this year it's my turn to work Christmas). So other than after 8pm, I won't be home to visit with family and help my wife.

 

[tree]

@lovely_darlingprettybaby
"I cannot explain how many Nye celebrations I have enjoyed by myself just having my own celebration."

New Year's Eve?

 

[Judge]

Do you like EVERYTHING Christmas decorations to be perfect and your planning

Yes. Making some things I love sometimes a struggle. Where a hobby may intertwine with obsession.

Then throw OCD into the mix.

But my past employers all loved it, even when it cost me plenty. It's a curse more than any blessing.

 

[Xinyta]

Perfectionism is a psychological demon in my book. One that seeks to torment all who desire being perfect.

There will never be such a thing as perfect. Perfection is subject to perception, as much as the idea of 'normal'.

I honestly go back to a episode of Courge the Cowardly Dog, when I think about perfectionism and those that strive for it.

 

[Fino]

I think I understand what you mean, but I try to reserve the word "perfect" to descriptions of God. Nothing we do or are can be perfect.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I literally am a perfectionist, and very meticulous in many things... It's good and bad at the same time

One downside I experience is that when I fail at something, my first thought is how much of a failure I am, even when it's often something out of my control... I do know is a wrong thing to do, I am trying to deal with that better

I am a semi perfectionist where I can be perfectionist in some areas but in others I do my best.
I do not know if i am an ambitious sort because I think the most important thing for me now is to be happy
When I fail at things I worry
When I fail at things sometimes I am hard especially with art depends on how bad the failure.
But it does often bother me

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

Wasted effort.
Impossible standards.
Burnout inducing.
Inflated ego.
False reality.

I should not be so conceited as to think I can be perfect (although I sure did for a very very long time).

---

I don't mean to be critical of those who are perfectionists. I'm just being dramatic because I have wasted so much of my life striving for perfection. What a silly idea. Accepting imperfection is so much better, so much more freeing, and feels so much healthier. Tired of wasting my time on impossible things.

I used to try so hard for perfection a lot but the art therapist I worked with was like...
Laura it does not need to be perfect
For me to be honest I think it did help with my art whereas I was not so hard on myself to achieve some perfect standard.
It helped me let go of that ideal.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I used to try and perfect everything I did and projects I undertook, with age I have learnt to stop caring as much, and it really has lowered my stress levels lol.

I let my wife and daughter decorate the tree, and it looks lovely, growing up my brother and I would decorate the tree and my parents would adjust and move it all which used to upset me, I wouldn't do that to my kid, you need to build their confidence.

I was like that for a while, take on perfection and get as busy as I can doing it all.
Even while sick.
I can still have a bit of that side but as I get older I relax

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

@lovely_darlingprettybaby
"I cannot explain how many Nye celebrations I have enjoyed by myself just having my own celebration."

New Year's Eve?

Yes

 

[Jumpinbare]

NYE for me is staying home in the evening, maybe watching the ball drop, but otherwise doing what I would do any other night. Completing one more orbit around the sun just doesn't make me want to do anything special.