Rant!

[Frito64]

I an a self-diagnoses aspie, read about it last year, and reading many (but not all) of the symptoms reads like my autobiography. Also, many of the threads here and on other forums I can totally relate to - most of us with it are pretty much in the same boat.

I have told family and a couple of friends about my discovery, and some of them don't understand why I think I have it. they say "oh, everyone feels uncomforatable in different situations, many people have very few friineds, etc." but you know what? They are confident, married with kids, have friends to go places and do things with, etc. They just don't get what it's like to have never been able to fit into the groove, to be totally alone in a crowd, to want to be able to talk to people and connect with them and are totally clueless how to go about that. Even my mom (she's 80, so I cut her slack in this) doesn't get it. Okay, she is unsure of her self in certain things, doesn't speak up when she should at times, but that has been since she got older. She had friends when sh was younger, got married, (along with my dad) raised me and my sister, etc. She doesn't get it. Most of my NT family and friends don't get it.

They should try never being able to ask out a girl, try not having a close friend to be able to call and say "hey, do you want to go to a movie tonight," try not being able to speak up when you know you should about something, try being overwhelmed when trying to talk in a group . Why can't they all understand?

 

[epath13]

They don't understand because they haven't experienced it, they may never understand or accept it, or maybe they will, just give them some time...
Even after I got my diagnosis my mom couldn't accept it but then she started reading about Asperger's some more and told me once, "I can see it now, and I can definitely see the symptoms in your dad as well"...something like that.

 

[HelloDizzy]

Most people just aren't going to get it; it's neurological. You can explain it, you can print out symptom lists, you can even get a psychologist to explain it to them, but they tend to not comprehend what it's like.

 

[Gomendosi]

There’s a duck in the corner with a sign in front that says “THIS IS A CUSHION” in big bold letters, because the sign has told them it’s a cushion that is what most people will see as they are always taking things at face value. Also a lot of the time if it doesn’t have a label on it, well that’s worse, cause then it’s open for debate as everyone has their own opinion about things.

If I remove the sign that says “this is a cushion”:
Person 1) Oh look, there’s a duck
Person 2) No it isn’t, it’s in the corner, must be a lampshade
Person 3) No I saw a sign earlier, that’s a cushion that is
Person 2) Who asked you then…
Person 3) I was only saying!
Person 1) Did you here it quack just now?

Okay, I admit I am being slightly silly but it comes down to this, the only person that cares what they all think is you and you know the truth, so concentrate on that!

 

[Confuddlement]

I get what you mean Frito64, I am awaiting a diagnosis as two different medical professionals have said they garuntee I have aspergers, yet my family can't understand it. They think if I had it someone would have noticed before now. To be honest this is a time when I would like support from various family members and I'm just not getting it. I've never felt more alone. I don't understand how I'm the one with social difficulties sometimes!! People are just confusing, I'm trying to just go with it!