Reaction to other people's behavior

[Duna]

It's just me?

Whenever someone acts in a harsh way, I instantly react the same way.

Like I hear someone cursing, I feel the need to curse back, even if their outbreak didn't have anything to do with me. On there side if someone is friendly, I'm friendly, too (unless I know exactly they are pretending).
I don't know if this is something "new", I rember times when such things didn't touch me. But maybe I was like super-masking then, because people said they envied how cool I was (then I'd have been dissociating myself.from the situation, I think).

Thing is, I hate to react this way because it makes me feel more of control and makes difficult situation even more difficult. Rationally I know it's not how to react, but I can't help it. It's like for a hundredth of a second I'm out of it, and then ration sets back in and makes me feel bad because I acted in a way I didn't want to.

Latest real-life example:
Neighbor shouts at the dogs, cursing them, and I start to scream, like primal scream loud. It's stress-relieving, but other neighbor called asking if I need help.

 

[Outdated]

I don't think I have reacted as strongly as you've written about here, but a friend told once told me that I should be myself around other people instead of just showing them a mirror of themselves.

I'm not always very successful at doing that.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Mirror neurons.

 

[Duna]

Mirror neurons.

Funny, just the topic of next week's chapter in my biological psychology course.

 

[Duna]

I don't think I have reacted as strongly as you've written about here, but a friend told once told me that I should be myself around other people instead of just showing them a mirror of themselves.

I'm not always very successful at doing that.

When I was very young, I always said what was on my mind. But then, many little children do this.
So I was taught not to say whato on my mind, but what is "socially acceptable, empathic, and political correct". I had no clue what that was, so I said nothing (ok, sure I said things, but nothing in terms of opinions).
Then people said I had no opinion. By then I already stopped giving a cucumber (Spanish expression, don't want to use rude words right now) about what other thought about me. I kept my opinions to myself, unless someone really pressed me, and then it was their fault if they didn't like it.
And this seemed to work for me and the rest of the world.

I think after my last breakdown I simply unlearned this "keeping my mouth shut". And maybe it's because I'm still recovering from that breakdown, my tolerance for stress is still very low.
No idea.

 

[Fino]

I'm the opposite and don't visibly react to anything.

 

[Suzanne]

No, you are not the only one!

When I was 5, I realised how dangerous I could be, if my buttons were pushed, so to speak and thus, have never acted on my emotions, but that does not mean, I am blase and as you say, I wish I could be the opposite, becaue it is draining. However, it shows that we HATE injustice and that is good, otherwise, we would not care when others get hurt etc

I would not be one to just walk away when someone is being attacked physically or verbally. However, now, I would video that scene and send it viral and then, I would alert the police and then, I would try my hardest to help the victim. Of course, that is theory, since I have never been there. But, do say, that my theories do tend to come a reality, when a it comes up.

So, to sum up. I am glad to be this way.

 

[Progster]

This doesn't really happen to me - I don't react emotionally to other people unless the anger or swearing is directed at me. Then it depends on the situation - I may react defensively, or get angry back, or I may not process and shut down and not react at all.

One thing I have noticed, though, is that I'm sensitive to the general mood - if there is a tense atmosphere, that affects me and can be overwhelming.

 

[Duna]

I'm the opposite and don't visibly react to anything.

That's how I was before I had the breakdown. I hope I can go back to that, I'm working on it. Showing emotions doesn't work well for me or others.

 

[Duna]

One thing I have noticed, though, is that I'm sensitive to the general mood - if there is a tense atmosphere, that affects me and can be overwhelming.

That happens to me, too. Though I learned to filter it out of my perception. It still works as long as I'm not forced to interact.

 

[Duna]

No, you are not the only one!

When I was 5, I realised how dangerous I could be, if my buttons were pushed, so to speak and thus, have never acted on my emotions, but that does not mean, I am blase and as you say, I wish I could be the opposite, becaue it is draining. However, it shows that we HATE injustice and that is good, otherwise, we would not care when others get hurt etc

I would not be one to just walk away when someone is being attacked physically or verbally. However, now, I would video that scene and send it viral and then, I would alert the police and then, I would try my hardest to help the victim. Of course, that is theory, since I have never been there. But, do say, that my theories do tend to come a reality, when a it comes up.

So, to sum up. I am glad to be this way.

Yes injustice is a no-go!
And being "dangerous" - not on purpose, but I did some physical harm to others when I was a child. Not on purpose, but during the usual kid-interactions. Someone thought they could bully me - well, they were wrong. But it was a problem because I had (and still have) no boundaries, once I get into defensive mode.

As to video something... I'm a very private person and always have been. My best friend (male) had a relatively dangerous stalker (female) and my X's ex is psychotic and did once attack me. All this didn't help improve my trust in people, women in particular. But as long as it was kept "private" I was able to handle it.
This social media crap makes me very anxious, not because of how people could see me if I were to be filmed doing something, but because I would be recognizable to strangers.