Reactions at stimming…

[artsygirl_103]

How do you cope or react, when you know, you‘re already in an overload and some people just STRESS you out…
I had a very stressful day today at work, and before I was really tired, started stimming (biting my nails and fidgeting on a ring I have) (it was nearly time to leave)
And I just hate it when somebody says any kind of stupid (sorry) comment like „don‘t bite your nails“…
I‘m reacting quite irritably, because I don‘t have energy anymore and it‘s really not helpful, because i just try to hold it together until I‘m home…
And I‘m really really really trying to find other ways for stimming, but it‘s not always possible for me!

How do you react? Sadly it‘s some kind of thing (the stimming) the people don‘t unterstand, because the situations aren‘t big of deal for them (NT)

I really like my job and most of the time it‘s perfect, because I have a lot of routines and every day is nearly the same!
But somtimes (when they happen) comments like those just stress me out, because I already know, nobody would really unterstand how it feels…

(And yes, I already gave them a Book on Asperger Autism - they haven‘t read it till now and that was months ago)

And now I‘m straight going into a shutdown… Completely overwhelmed, tired, have no more energy and every kind of conversation, bright light indoors, sounds,… stresses me out…

You don‘t even have to react, I just wanted to put my thoughts down here…
Thanks for reading!

 

[kriss72]

I don't know if I can give much advise, I have spend countless meetings sitting on my hands in order to keep them quiet and locking my feet around the legs of my chair to keep them quiet (I'm audhd) and sometimes I realize that I have just been jumping and done hand flapping of pure excitement in front of a whiteboard at work - I have also been told to not bite pencils, finger nails or to look people in the eyes when I was in school...

I talked to a psychologist at one time who told me, maybe it's better for me to not sit on my hands, that it might be better to just do the stimming - I'm also in my 50'ties so might be more easy to not care about what others think... I came to a point, where I thought, yes I'm autistic and I stim, why should I feel bad about it, it's painfull to not move or stim, so now I just do it... but I'm also wearing a sunflower lanyard and have pins on my bag saying I'm ND and audhd.

 

[artsygirl_103]

I came to a point, where I thought, yes I'm autistic and I stim, why should I feel bad about it, it's painfull to not move or stim, so now I just do it...

I can understand you very well, I‘m also Audhd and since my diagnosis I started stimming a lot!

But i notice I feel much better with it so I do it more often now! Sometimes I‘m already doing it for a while and only notice quite a while later THAT I‘m doing it!

Also in my case it‘s gotten „worse“ lately:
If I don‘t stim, I get tics (eye twitching, stuttering,…). So actually it‘s better to stim because i‘m not as stressed out and don‘t get tics as much….