Reminiscing, Nostalgia & Memory Lane

[Calvert]

Reminiscing,  Nostalgia & Memory Lane

Does anyone do any of the above? I sometimes would go over past experiences and events in my mind. Sometimes I would recall social situations that I did really well in or think about how others could have turned out I had approached them better. 

Maybe you do the same? Think about the good & bad that has happened in the past and how things could have been different. Maybe you remember old friends or people you knew who you don't keep in contact with anymore or have maybe fallen out with? Maybe you recall how life used to be and realise how much things have changed now (whether for better or for worse)? Maybe you remember groups, forums or similar that you were apart of and how they no longer exist, or if they exist how they have changed? Maybe you remember people you knew who, if you saw today, wouldn't recognise them anymore (how much they have changed either for better or worse)?

I often remember good times and long for them to come back.    Then there's times i've seen some old friends and how much they have become a different person and sometimes changed completely.   

I went back to the first council estate that I grew up on some months ago. It has been around 10 years since I was living there or had been there. A lot of bad stuff happened in that place but I also remembered some good stuff as well, as me, my bro and some friends walked through it and just reminisced.


It can be a bittersweet experience. What are yours?

 

[Emor]

When I look back on the past I get angry and pissed off because I'm a negative person and don't remember that many positive things.
In the summer holidays it's terrible when I start to think about school and I'll start head banging and pleh...
I honestly hate looking back at the past, it gets me so stressed out.
It's not as bad as I used to be where I'd punch my self in the face pretty hard over it and constantly I'd be calling my self stupid and I just hated my self but yeah.
Basically I try hard to not look back on the pass or obsess over events.
EMZ=]

 

[Ana54]

I get nostalgic about wierd things. One of my favorite memories is finding, on a class trip around Europe, that our hotel rooms had bidets in them,.

 

[poodlepiglet]

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[Julia]

Used to do it in a negativ way during my mid teenage years (13-17), the time I had the most social problems....
I had so many nights when I couldn´t sleep because everytime I closed my eyes, memories of situations where I did bad socialy poped up before my eyes, and I got so embarrassed I couldn´t sleep anymore...
But at the moment I´ve learned to live mostly now, and only remember good stuff, which is so much better

 

[Calvert]

I had one of those moments again today. A friend uploaded a bunch of old photos from a few years back to Facebook. Some of the photos made me feel sad because it was of social situations that I wasn't a part of (long story but basically my brother was best friends with people I knew and I was trying to be apart of the group but my brother didn't seem to want me coming along). That was before he knew I had AS so things are sort of better now. Anyway, then I seen a photo in the album that I actually took. Although I wasn't in the photo itself it made me feel happy as it brought back memories of that particular social situation (the only time I was actually invited along back then).     

So yeah, mixed feelings when I think of the past and it was interesting also to realise how different we were back then - before everyone got jobs, girlfriends, went to Uni and sort of moved on in their separate ways.   

If only I had made more of an effort to go outside instead of sitting in my bedroom playing games. Hopefully this Summer will see everyone meeting up again and going out, provided jobs don't get in the way of that.

 

[Ana54]

I reminisce about:


The 1998 ice storm in Quebec and Ontario (state of emergency)
My road trip with Stan when he came up to get me
Fun me and Stan had when our friend lived with us
My manic moments
My popularity and no lack of friends years ago on WP
Stays in mental institutions
Church in Brockville, where the congregation can actually participate
First grade, and my friends being real genuine friends and it was simple so I made friends easy, and their birthday parties were fun. Their parents were social climbers so they had everything, tons of stuff.
The New Year's Eve party where kids as young as 5 got giddy from champagne and/or alcoholic punch
The day of my grandmother's funeral where everyone was happy, not depressed, except for my grandfather
The birth of my son
My life living at the YMCA in Edmonton and starting psych treatment for the first time
Shopping sprees for clothes
My trip to Europe
My talks with my friend on YouTube, which are not close to over yet!
Looking at the nice stuff in IKEA
My few enjoyable days right at the end of my stay in Vancouver
Bringing my special stuffed bear, Lars, to a teddy bear breakfast and playing with him in other kids, putting him in a high chair and pretending he was the baby
Calling America's Most Wanted with my friend on her stepdad and playing America's Most Wanted and trying to start one ourselves called Most Wanted, posting info on it and missing kids and fugitives all over the place
Other things too.

 

[142857]

Someone on this site (Ruby I think) mentioned having a "videographic" memory.

From what I understand it means visualising and playing back in great detail events from the past. I find myself doing it with events that happened before most of the members here were even born.

I suspect that "regular" people don't remember stuff this way. I had never realized that there was anything unusual about it until it came up on this forum.

Another thing I do is remember something that happened in the past, or start thinking about someone that I have unfinished business with. Then I start thinking about what I would like to say to them if I saw them again and before you know it they are answering back and we are having a very real conversation... in my head. Once I catch myself doing it I stop. I'm SURE that this isn't healthy.

 

[poodlepiglet]

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[Julia]

I am thinking most of the time in dialogues with people I know, although they never happend, but I don´t think it to be unhealthy, as long as I know they aren´t real

Also, If I remember scenes of my past, I remember them like a film, that means, I can see myself in the scene, but can´t relate with the person I see as me

 

[Calvert]

I can relate to the videographic memory thing. I would sometimes use it to go back to social situations.

 

[Ana54]

I reminisce about Texas even tho I was miserable there a lot. I never acquired a Southern accent down there, but after I came up here, as the months went by, I started using a southern accent sometimes and more and more! I wonder who else does this.

 

[Quasar]

Someone on this site (Ruby I think) mentioned having a "videographic" memory.

From what I understand it means visualising and playing back in great detail events from the past. I find myself doing it with events that happened before most of the members here were even born.

I suspect that "regular" people don't remember stuff this way. I had never realized that there was anything unusual about it until it came up on this forum.

Yes, I too learned not all that long ago that most people do not think this way. But whenever recalling an event from the past, it plays out like a film for me. Some memories are more vivid than others though. My strongest ones were when I had the strongest emotion involved, both good and bad.

In response to the OP: yes, I reminisce about my past often. Usually its wishing I could have changed or did something different, and wondering what would have happened if I would have.

 

[Double-Think]

Hello All

Newbie here -_-, As for Nostalgia, i would say yes.. way to much! Mostly when i'm listening to music, i sort of revert to a really calm state. I would say that reminiscing and nostalgia tend to be interwoven for myself, how about anyone else?

 

[IdahoRose]

I experience nostalgia on a fairly frequent basis. I miss my childhood and preteen years. I always regret taking those years for granted. I miss being innocent and fascinated by the simple things in life. I miss feeling like everyday was an adventure, and that I was the "hero" of my own life story.

I miss little things like playing Mario games with my brother and sister, eating coffee cake and drinking chocolate milk as a Saturday morning ritual, and having to wake up/be at home by the time my favorite shows came on. Most of all, I miss my old obsessions. I've tried reviving them, but it's just not the same. Once I get tired of an obsession, that is the end of that. The magic is gone and there's no getting it back.

I just know that, once I reach, say, my late twenties, I'll probably start getting nostalgic over the way my life is and the things I'm obsessed with right now. Maybe I should quit spending so much time thinking about the past and enjoy the present. After all, this won't last forever...