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Rickxxxblaine

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rickxxxblaine

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Hello, my name is Joachim, I'm a self diagnosed Asperger. We call it TSA here in France.
I'm quite a lucky one, as I'm a successful engineer and even have my own business that's running well. No employees of course...

I heard about Asperger syndrome when I was younger and found that resembled me but never really paid attention before I read a blog from guy who discovered at 30 he had this 'problem'.

I had a girlfriend at the time and she didn't believe me even after I had some basic tests. Then she read about it and was even more convinced than me !

It's difficult for me to be here writing but I'm kinda lost in my life. I left my girlfriend with huge difficulties but still live with her (for how long ?) and I have no friends and nowhere to go even making 100k a year. Finding a place to rent here in Paris is quite a problem when you're not an employee.

I don't know, I doubt about every decisions I make especially that last one and i don't have anyone to talk to.

I'm usually the one that finds the solutions and I don't know what to do now with my life. I don't even remember what I was trying to say when I started this message...

Am i crazy ? Is she really that mean ? Or am I making this all up ? Is that normal couple life or a really insane relationship ? No-one can answer, especially with such little information...

Anyway, I don't want to complain about my life (that's really not that bad) all day long or find people that will feel sorry for myself. I want guidelines, what's acceptable, what's not, things obvious for lots of people, but not for me.

Thanks for reading me.
 
rickxxxblaine said:
Hello, my name is Joachim, I'm a self diagnosed Asperger. We call it TSA here in France.
I'm quite a lucky one, as I'm a successful engineer and even have my own business that's running well. No employees of course...

I heard about Asperger syndrome when I was younger and found that resembled me but never really paid attention before I read a blog from guy who discovered at 30 he had this 'problem'.

I had a girlfriend at the time and she didn't believe me even after I had some basic tests. Then she read about it and was even more convinced than me !

It's difficult for me to be here writing but I'm kinda lost in my life. I left my girlfriend with huge difficulties but still live with her (for how long ?) and I have no friends and nowhere to go even making 100k a year. Finding a place to rent here in Paris is quite a problem when you're not an employee.

I don't know, I doubt about every decisions I make especially that last one and i don't have anyone to talk to.

I'm usually the one that finds the solutions and I don't know what to do now with my life. I don't even remember what I was trying to say when I started this message...

Am i crazy ? Is she really that mean ? Or am I making this all up ? Is that normal couple life or a really insane relationship ? No-one can answer, especially with such little information...

Anyway, I don't want to complain about my life (that's really not that bad) all day long or find people that will feel sorry for myself. I want guidelines, what's acceptable, what's not, things obvious for lots of people, but not for me.

Thanks for reading me.
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Hi, my new best friend! I'm in the exact same situation...living with my boyfriend and don't expect it to last much longer because he's very insensitive to my Aspergers and makes me feel worse. You're not crazy, you matter,too. I'm not a good advice giver, but I am a great listener if you ever want to talk. I don't have family or friends so I'm well acquainted with loneliness and not having anyone to talk to about relationship stuff. Welcome to AC! I'm Sophie,btw.
 
Hello Sophie, it's nice not to be 'all' alone. I think we can try to talk a little bit. My main problem seems to be similar to yours. I live in my ex-girlfriend's home and her daughter and I really appreciate don't feel that I can matter. I can't ask anything or even once in a while give my opinion/feeling without her dismissing it. It's really hard to live a life full of do's and don't. Lastly we fought about money cause I started to earn quite a bit. She owns a house that's worth 200k and she asks me to pay a lot of stuff because 'I earn more' than her. I told her she's wealthier than me, I only have the money I made the last six month and it's the business money, not mine ! So she told me she wants to enjoy life and not live like poor people. In fact she wants me to pay for daily expenses while she puts money in real estate ! If I do what she wants in some years, I'll have nothing and she'll be the landlady of 2 or 3 apartments ! I can't agree with that and we agreed it was time to separate. Am i too greedy or something ? I always thought I was a generous person, am i wrong ?
 
Hi & welcome,
Living with an Ex isn't a good situation usually. If they have any resentment they will torture you until you leave. Sauve Qui Peut! ;)
 
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