Rules?

[BruceCM_Aspergic]

Does anybody get told 'there are no rules'? Strangely, almost as soon as you try to discuss the idea, 'rules' start popping up. If, for instance, you blurt out, 'that's stupid,' that's called 'rude,' as if there's a 'rule' against being rude! Well, generally, there is, of course but that's the point I'd try to make, which shouldn't need making. Any ideas, please?

 

[superboyian]

I remember being in a forum that my other mate created (he was my school friend) and basically, what happened was that he decided to setup ridiculous rules, but then the forum didn't turn out so good in the end as he decided to close it down because he couldn't take the pressure.

It was after all a bravenet forum. :lol:

 

[Chris]

Never been told there aren't rules, rather had what 'manners' are shoved in my face a lot. I'm not saying I'm rude/impolite, I consider myself to have very good manners (when necessary. ), it's just obviously when we're younger we have to be taught certain things.

I wish someone could tell me more social rules - me and Willow both think a lot of the time like there is some sort of social rulebook that people follow to get a long with each other so well that we didn't get a copy of...

 

[142857]

I think that most people instinctively know the rules, pick up on the rules, without it needing to be spelt out for them. That is why they say that there "are no rules", because they are following them at a subconscious level without even realizing it.

And when you fail to follow the rules (which they are unaware of the existence of) they seem to assume that you are doing it on purpose, trying to be rude or obnoxious or antisocial or something. When in fact you simply lack the instincts.

Which is why a lot of people assume aspies are shy. It isn't that we are quiet because we are shy, but rather that we are wary of putting our feet in our mouths.

 

[BruceCM_Aspergic]

Most NTs I know, at least, don't accept that they do it instinctively. It was always claimed that these things can be learned. Anybody know of any teachers of them!?

 

[Kit]

On Zomg and I2, I was told there are no rules but actually there are. Just don't spam it or post personal information like someone's home address or their phone number or their email. On Zomg, don't post porn. Plus you can get banned from I2 for being under age and threatening to do things that would violate the TOS or trying to slander it by saying there is child porn on it and you are going to report it. There is no child porn on the forum.

I think on ASD Relationships, the owner said there are really no rules there but someone once joined there and spammed it and his account was deleted instead. I even doubt trolling is allowed there and attacks.

 

[Krazie243]

Hahaha, rules? Never heard of 'em. They don't exist. I belch on command and say, "Oops" rather than "Excuse me" because I think it is funny and typically others do too, lol.

Honestly, there are many ways to approach society philosophically speaking. If you wish, the 'no rules' concept can be a completely valid one. The idea of social contract theory is based on this. The idea is that there are not really any rules, but for the sake of self preservation and confort we for-go certain evil tendencies and desires so that those same ones are not done to us. People think burping is rude because they don't want to hear it. But I don't mind hearing it. In fact, if an attractive girl belches I applaud her.

Ultimately I think people come up with what they think is right and wrong in such a way that they are never hurt or harmed but that they appear to be the living embodiment of perfection. A truly enlightened person realizes that sometimes people they dislike are doing the right thing, even if it hurts them (because the world does not revolve around them) and that at times that person can have their own evils. All people are both good and bad, and their actions are products of who they are. So anyone who even wants to approach the 'no rules' philosophy had better be ready for some interesting times =)

 

[BruceCM_Aspergic]

The rules used to allow for 'difficult' things to be said IF it was really needed or would be constructive, etc. Only there's no practical difference between 'brutally honest' and simple meanness since I can't tell the difference and everybody claims they're doing the former. Any serious attempts to discuss it?

 

[Krazie243]

And that is why there should not be rules. They don't make sense. People make these abstract rules that only non-AS folk understand. Brutally honest and simple meanness IS the same thing. Doesn't matter if you intend to not hurt feelings. People need to stop sugarcoating their actions. Brutal honesty is the politically correct term for simply mean. That is just the way it is. You can dress up any evil in a white dress: "I went to the poor area of town the other day and performed an act of garbage removal on behalf of the community" --translated as: "I went downtown and shot some fool because he was acting gangsta"

 

[Dani Evar]

The Universe is none other than a set of rules, balanced or critical constraints. But I hold that the kind of Human I know is always a vagrant exceptionality allowed here, even in the Dark. Thus practical aspects of the Universe can always be viewed anew from weird angles. Against any collective background, Pure Freedom is in creating, in creativity, and in choosing to see what others fail or refuse to see -- and so naturally and essentially not in 'destructive things', though that might still appear offensive to others.

 

[Dani Evar]

Bohemian. The Moment. Authenticity.

 

[Krazie243]

Sorry Evar, without even a hint of where that all came from I'm seeing a boatload of words flying right over my head.

 

[Dani Evar]

Don't worry, pal. I myself will recall the branch I bore.

Sorry Evar, without even a hint of where that all came from I'm seeing a boatload of words flying right over my head.