Saying hello

[cadas]

Hi, although I've made a couple of posts on here I'm aware that I didn't come here and say hello first.

I was recently diagnosed with ASD. It was a formal diagnosis and was slightly odd in that I was unaware that this was even an issue.

I'd had some issues at work. I'm a GM of a fairly substantial business, and after three years or so of success and hitting every target, I was blindsided by a disciplinary action brought by a subordinate. My attitude sucks. I couldn't work out why as I was trying so hard to be a good boss but for some reason the fact I couldn't relate to some people became a major issue. I was referred to EAP and the psychological there suggested a referral to an autism specialist

So I find myself as a 47 year old 'aspie'. That was two months ago

Do I feel relieved....no. It's very challenging. Work has not been kind, they've demanded all sorts of reports and treatment plans from my psych and are quite openly saying I've got four weeks to 'resolve this' or I will be removed from my job. For me it's not the end of the world, they can't demote me (legally) and the other jobs on offer are actually quite interesting. Not going to make it easy though.

Challenges for me; I have a serious issue in perfectionism. It governs my life and has done for 47 years. I'm at the stage where perfectionism has destroyed my self esteem.

The other stuff (social skills, etc) I'm not comfortable with but have learned enough coping skills to manage.

So hi.
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[Cosmophylla]

Hi cadas, welcome to AC and thanks for an interesting introduction.

I hope you find some solace here as you are coming to terms with things and trying to get through your work situation.

There are quite a few of us on here who discovered autism at midlife, or later. That said, everyone here is very supportive and friendly. I'm sure you will feel at home.

 

[StephF]

Welcome to the forums, tell your work that if they fire you, you will sue them for constructive dismissal.

 

[Elemental]

Welcome to our community cadas I experience issues about my attitude quite a lot too & my last job ended because of this. Best of luck; you sound like you are in quite a strong position legally regarding your current work difficulties.

 

[laurag9g9g9]

Hi, although I've made a couple of posts on here I'm aware that I didn't come here and say hello first.

I was recently diagnosed with ASD. It was a formal diagnosis and was slightly odd in that I was unaware that this was even an issue.

I'd had some issues at work. I'm a GM of a fairly substantial business, and after three years or so of success and hitting every target, I was blindsided by a disciplinary action brought by a subordinate. My attitude sucks. I couldn't work out why as I was trying so hard to be a good boss but for some reason the fact I couldn't relate to some people became a major issue. I was referred to EAP and the psychological there suggested a referral to an autism specialist

So I find myself as a 47 year old 'aspie'. That was two months ago

Do I feel relieved....no. It's very challenging. Work has not been kind, they've demanded all sorts of reports and treatment plans from my psych and are quite openly saying I've got four weeks to 'resolve this' or I will be removed from my job. For me it's not the end of the world, they can't demote me (legally) and the other jobs on offer are actually quite interesting. Not going to make it easy though.

Challenges for me; I have a serious issue in perfectionism. It governs my life and has done for 47 years. I'm at the stage where perfectionism has destroyed my self esteem.

The other stuff (social skills, etc) I'm not comfortable with but have learned enough coping skills to manage.

So hi.
P

Welcome! It'll get better. I've gotten a lot of good advise here. I think you should do what it takes to get out of the spotlight at work if you feel that's the right job for talents. It's hard to get any therapy for aspie....use it! When you let your wall down...You'll see you can use your uniqueness too your advantage.

 

[Astroganga]

Welcome