Hi all
I believe I may have Aspbergers. I haven't had any official diagnosis yet, but I believe I may qualify. I have always struggled with emotional intelligence, and have had an obsession with two things all my life; art, and psychology (which began when I got tired of not understanding everyone around me). I hope you can excuse my ignorance; I'm very new still to the notion that I may have Aspbergers, and have only really started learning about it a few months ago. I plan to speak to a professional about it.
I'm in my late 20s, and am female. I have learned from other forums and posts online, that women with Aspbergers tend to behave differently to men. From what I understand the main difference between men and women, is that while many men may voice their opinions openly, and are not afraid of being who they truly are (unedited versions of themselves), women supposedly are prone to hiding it, and trying to blend in as normal, which means they can go undiagnosed for years. Women also supposedly are more prone to have a higher chance of being abused, or neglected.
I would have to admit that this has been very true for me. I have always been extremely conscience of wrongful behaviours, and tried to blend in. I've occassionally slipped up, and am all too familiar with that look people tend to give you when they don't understand what is wrong with you, and so have taught myself when to correct my behaviour, and how to mimic appropriate behaviour from watching others. Faking it til I make it, so to speak. One of my biggest flaws definitely seems to be trusting in people, even in lies that they tell. I have been guilty of being too guilable, and this has caused much grief for me in the past, especially in romantic relationships. I have better learned to detect lies, and bad intentions now that I'm older, but I find I am constantly on high alert, which can be extremely exhausting, and causes me to avoid people, which can be very lonely. I also find I relate better with men, possibly as women tend to have more a complex emotional intelligence, which makes it harder for me to understand many women. This can be bad for me too, in the sense that I'm learning that men tend to always want to be more than just friends, which generally ends the friendship, and this leaves me feeling even more lonely.
I have improved much over the past few years, and am more open about who I am, but it hasn't always been this way. My worst years were when I was still in school; primary through to highschool, and even university, were rough for me. My family don't believe me when I say I think I have Aspbergers, and seem to prefer to ignore the issue, and refuse to help me. I feel the reason for this is that my mother, and sister, possibly have Narcassistic Personality Disorder, which is another thing I've just learned about, but that's another story. The reason I mention this, is because it has made things much more complicated for me (I won't explain it here, but if you google the disorder, you will understand why). Many people wonder why I'm going no where with my life, and it's because I've spent most of my life pretty much learning to live, which has proven to be quite challenging on my own.
Anyone with advice, or who can relate, would be most appreciated.
I believe I may have Aspbergers. I haven't had any official diagnosis yet, but I believe I may qualify. I have always struggled with emotional intelligence, and have had an obsession with two things all my life; art, and psychology (which began when I got tired of not understanding everyone around me). I hope you can excuse my ignorance; I'm very new still to the notion that I may have Aspbergers, and have only really started learning about it a few months ago. I plan to speak to a professional about it.
I'm in my late 20s, and am female. I have learned from other forums and posts online, that women with Aspbergers tend to behave differently to men. From what I understand the main difference between men and women, is that while many men may voice their opinions openly, and are not afraid of being who they truly are (unedited versions of themselves), women supposedly are prone to hiding it, and trying to blend in as normal, which means they can go undiagnosed for years. Women also supposedly are more prone to have a higher chance of being abused, or neglected.
I would have to admit that this has been very true for me. I have always been extremely conscience of wrongful behaviours, and tried to blend in. I've occassionally slipped up, and am all too familiar with that look people tend to give you when they don't understand what is wrong with you, and so have taught myself when to correct my behaviour, and how to mimic appropriate behaviour from watching others. Faking it til I make it, so to speak. One of my biggest flaws definitely seems to be trusting in people, even in lies that they tell. I have been guilty of being too guilable, and this has caused much grief for me in the past, especially in romantic relationships. I have better learned to detect lies, and bad intentions now that I'm older, but I find I am constantly on high alert, which can be extremely exhausting, and causes me to avoid people, which can be very lonely. I also find I relate better with men, possibly as women tend to have more a complex emotional intelligence, which makes it harder for me to understand many women. This can be bad for me too, in the sense that I'm learning that men tend to always want to be more than just friends, which generally ends the friendship, and this leaves me feeling even more lonely.
I have improved much over the past few years, and am more open about who I am, but it hasn't always been this way. My worst years were when I was still in school; primary through to highschool, and even university, were rough for me. My family don't believe me when I say I think I have Aspbergers, and seem to prefer to ignore the issue, and refuse to help me. I feel the reason for this is that my mother, and sister, possibly have Narcassistic Personality Disorder, which is another thing I've just learned about, but that's another story. The reason I mention this, is because it has made things much more complicated for me (I won't explain it here, but if you google the disorder, you will understand why). Many people wonder why I'm going no where with my life, and it's because I've spent most of my life pretty much learning to live, which has proven to be quite challenging on my own.
Anyone with advice, or who can relate, would be most appreciated.
sorry
