Self-diagnosed

[Divrom]

Hi, I'm self-diagnosed with Aspergers though thinking about going for a proper assessment.

What bugs me is that on some things I seem to be textbook Aspie, but on others I am way-off.

For instance, I'm told that I should be good at Maths, but I'm not. It makes me panic. I don't really understand numbers.

I'm not meant to understand irony, but I have a vey sarcastic sense of humour. In fact, my favourite comedies are probably the most sarcastic ones. If anything, I'm probably too sarcastic, sometimes thinking someone's being sarcastic when they're not and not realising that my sarcasm may be going too far.

Hmmm, lousy intro. I'm a dad to 3 great kids with a patient (most of the time!) wife. I work part-time as a therapist. I know, right?!

Empathy is another one I only half match. Sometimes I am probably overly empathic. Other times, it's as if I know I should be, but I just can't turn it on and I feel like a robot or empty inside.

 

[IContainMultitudes]

Hi, welcome to Aspies Central!

 

[Divrom]

I've just thought of another way that I don't think I fit the criteria: sex-drive.

Apparently, Aspies don't have a very high sex-drive. If anything, I'm a freakin' sex addict. I have the libido of a 14-year old boy.

How many of you believe you have aspergers, even though you may not fit some quite important aspects of the criteria?

 

[Bay]

Welcome to AC! There are a lot of folks here that are self-diagnosed, and there seems to be lots of differences and contradictions as to what typical symptoms are. For instance, I am terrible at anything having to do with numbers, so although many people with AS excel at math not all do.

I also have a rather dark, sarcastic sense of humor. I have read that Aspies often do have this sort of sense of humor.

As to empathy, I sometimes wonder whether saying that Aspies do not have empathy is too simple. It's true that I cannot read people well generally speaking, but when I can it seems that I feel it too deeply, if that makes any sense. I can relate to the sense of being a bit robotic but I can't say that it has ever bothered me much, although it seems to bother NT folks sometimes.

Anyway, hello to you, Divrom.

 

[ladydragon]

Hello

I am also very bad with math, have been my whole life. However there are times when I do become obsessed with budgeting, and calculating adding and subtracting the crap out of series of numbers, I think it kind of feels like a stimming processes to be honest. But I cannot multiply or divide worth a darn. Algebra and fractions give me a headache, however I love using a calculator.

I don't get irony either, but am very sarcastic in a rather cynical-brash way. I usually don't realize that others have been offended by my sarcasisms till it is too late and they have decided to move away. :/

I think that it is false that aspies and maybe autistics are not empathetic; I know for myself that I do feel it, or am also sometimes shocked by my lack of it sometimes. Like when someone dies, it has been shocking sometimes to find that I don't really feel anything about it, but I am not sure if you are supposed to feel sad if you never knew someone in their life, or you didn't know them for a long time. Shrugs

Anyways, like a book that I am now reading said, "if you seen one aspie you have seen one aspie" I think none of us are totally alike, our personalities and pasts makes part of who we are and how we think also.

Funny you being a therapist, I am seriously thinking to go on and get my Bachelors in Psychology and potentially continue onto get a working child psychology degree, as strange as it seems, I love psychology and all the different parts you can study in there, plus I learned a lot about my own self and people around me from getting my Associates degree in Psychology.

Welcome to this Message board.

 

[Arashi222]

Oh welcome to AC....yes yes I am terrible at math as well. The thing with AS is that it is spectrum just like Autism so no worries there are alot of people here to chat with and get support from.