Ok, so here it goes... I am just going to tell you my situation and see if anyone has any helpful advice or opinions.
My friend introduced me to a guy about a month ago. We have seen each other in person a few times, but they have all been very busy, chaotic social settings with a lot of people around. I had already noticed he definitely was “a typical guy”, and recently found out after he did a Facebook live that he is an Aspie. I would never have known if he hadnt said it during the live stream. I don’t feel any differently about him knowing he has Aspergers, I just don’t have much experience with Aspergers/Autistic people. I have been doing a lot of research but I feel like it would be best for me to ask people who either have Aspergers or have a lot of experience with Aspies. I started messaging him on Facebook, before we ever met (July 3rd), but before the conversation could really get going, my sister picked up my phone and said something very random and unrelated to try to be funny. He was kind of weirded out by it (his sister asked my friend if I was sane lol), and so a I have not really contacted him through any message platform until last night. We have met in person 3 times and he has always been very sweet and polite, I catch him staring when he thinks I am not looking, he seems pretty nervous around me (according to my friend who knows him much better than I Do). I have also been told it’s a big deal that we have taken too pictures together (he’s an athlete) and he puts his arm around me or on my lower back which I guess he doesn’t normally do. I sent him one message about a week ago and got no response, which was fine I didn’t really expect one, I just wanted to let him know he had a good match and that I was rooting for him. I finally got the courage to reach out again last night and we talked on and off for about 30 minutes... I eventually just jumped to this message.
“Well if your interested, and you ever have some free time, we should hang out. Maybe go get some coffee or something lol. ”
He went silent after that and has read the message but didn’t reply. My friend is telling me it’s not necessarily a bad sign, because she thinks he would have just straight up told me no if he was interested. SO I think maybe I overwhelmed him and caught him off guard and he didn’t knows what to say so he just didn’t reply. I know for a fact he has told his family about me, and the way his friends look at me I am pretty sure they know who I am too. But he has yet to confirm to me directly whether he is interested in me or not. I don’t want to rush him, I just want some sort of validation that he thinks I am at least attractive and worth getting to know to see where things go. But I don’t see me getting that anytime soon. I just don’t want to be barking up the wrong tree? Is there any dead giveaways that he is interested I should be looking for? What is the best way for me to communicate with him since from what I have read, subtle hints and body language are going to go right over his head. He is the first person in over a year that has gotten in my head without trying and that I am actually interested in. I haven’t gotten butterfly’s just being around someone in YEARs. So I don’t want to push him away or scare him off by over doing it or overwhelming him. Please help me!
My friend introduced me to a guy about a month ago. We have seen each other in person a few times, but they have all been very busy, chaotic social settings with a lot of people around. I had already noticed he definitely was “a typical guy”, and recently found out after he did a Facebook live that he is an Aspie. I would never have known if he hadnt said it during the live stream. I don’t feel any differently about him knowing he has Aspergers, I just don’t have much experience with Aspergers/Autistic people. I have been doing a lot of research but I feel like it would be best for me to ask people who either have Aspergers or have a lot of experience with Aspies. I started messaging him on Facebook, before we ever met (July 3rd), but before the conversation could really get going, my sister picked up my phone and said something very random and unrelated to try to be funny. He was kind of weirded out by it (his sister asked my friend if I was sane lol), and so a I have not really contacted him through any message platform until last night. We have met in person 3 times and he has always been very sweet and polite, I catch him staring when he thinks I am not looking, he seems pretty nervous around me (according to my friend who knows him much better than I Do). I have also been told it’s a big deal that we have taken too pictures together (he’s an athlete) and he puts his arm around me or on my lower back which I guess he doesn’t normally do. I sent him one message about a week ago and got no response, which was fine I didn’t really expect one, I just wanted to let him know he had a good match and that I was rooting for him. I finally got the courage to reach out again last night and we talked on and off for about 30 minutes... I eventually just jumped to this message.
“Well if your interested, and you ever have some free time, we should hang out. Maybe go get some coffee or something lol. ”
He went silent after that and has read the message but didn’t reply. My friend is telling me it’s not necessarily a bad sign, because she thinks he would have just straight up told me no if he was interested. SO I think maybe I overwhelmed him and caught him off guard and he didn’t knows what to say so he just didn’t reply. I know for a fact he has told his family about me, and the way his friends look at me I am pretty sure they know who I am too. But he has yet to confirm to me directly whether he is interested in me or not. I don’t want to rush him, I just want some sort of validation that he thinks I am at least attractive and worth getting to know to see where things go. But I don’t see me getting that anytime soon. I just don’t want to be barking up the wrong tree? Is there any dead giveaways that he is interested I should be looking for? What is the best way for me to communicate with him since from what I have read, subtle hints and body language are going to go right over his head. He is the first person in over a year that has gotten in my head without trying and that I am actually interested in. I haven’t gotten butterfly’s just being around someone in YEARs. So I don’t want to push him away or scare him off by over doing it or overwhelming him. Please help me!
