Socially need to reset

[Owliet]

I was invited to go to a games night. It happens sporadically once every month or two, however, I seem to find that I’m up to my meter level of socializing and I don’t really know how to word this as a means of saying so before the weekend hits because I don’t want to appear overtly dismissive. However, to throw more complication feelings, I haven’t really been having another good week and besides I’m currently not feeling 100% well. I also have this logic that I don’t need to bother to network or socialize with colleagues as I won’t be calling them colleagues in a few months time, sO why bother when I’ll be dropped again afterwards. But I do need the reset and I don’t know how to word it nicely without being blunt.

 

[Gerontius]

I'm in the same boat (except for the fact that I have not been exposed to the Children of Contagion & ended up with a cold. Seriously--little kids & their contagious diseases. Name a more iconic pairing.)

What I'd say is just "no thanks; I'm booked that evening." You do not need an explicit plan; they do not need the explicit details. You might be going to the opera, or a concert, or the movies, or you might be staying at home building a blanket fort. This still doesn't matter.

You've been catching a rough time of things lately; I think you'd do well to take this time to yourself. Games night for a company that has caused you a ton of stress wouldn't work that great anyway. I hope you enjoy the evening off!

 

[Aspychata]

Just say you have a cough. You want to heal before you go anywhere. Perfect.

I haven't been doing well with going out either. I went to huge box store- l was in stressed mode. Don't stand close to me, l can't afford emergency room visit because you have covid or something else. Lol

Since the pandemic, l just accept that l maybe don't feel social 6 days out of a week. And it's okay.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I don't blame you for not wanting to socialize with those people. Just beg off and don't think about it. I do socialize, but it is mainly centered around outdoor activities. Just got home after an afternoon ski in a state forest near me. The socializing was around a fire afterwards with some treats. Such low key socializing and activity is more my style than a night of games in what may be a noisy environment.

 

[OkRad]

Many are still social distancing and masked. Then a lot are not. It's a weird mix.

 

[Xerces Blue]

I would say "I can't make it"
My friends wont ask why.
But if they did I would make my displeasure known via vocalizations and say "I'm not feeling well" or claim prior commitments.
If my best friend asked I would say "My social battery is drained" and he would probably say "You're welcome to come if you change your mind"

 

[Owliet]

I'm in the same boat (except for the fact that I have not been exposed to the Children of Contagion & ended up with a cold. Seriously--little kids & their contagious diseases. Name a more iconic pairing.)

What I'd say is just "no thanks; I'm booked that evening." You do not need an explicit plan; they do not need the explicit details. You might be going to the opera, or a concert, or the movies, or you might be staying at home building a blanket fort. This still doesn't matter.

You've been catching a rough time of things lately; I think you'd do well to take this time to yourself. Games night for a company that has caused you a ton of stress wouldn't work that great anyway. I hope you enjoy the evening off!

Just say you have a cough. You want to heal before you go anywhere. Perfect.

at least I don’t have to go this weekend as I am sick.

Maybe you`re like me and you get a feeling that you have to explain everything and justify everything

Yeah, I feel like this a lot, all the time.

 

[Aspychata]

at least I don’t have to go this weekend as I am sick.


Yeah, I feel like this a lot, all the time.

Sorry you aren't feeling well.

 

[Forest Cat]

Yeah, I feel like this a lot, all the time.

I have always done that, it took some time before I realized that most of the time I don`t have to explain myself in detail. I think it`s exhausting, having to explain everything or justify what I do, but it`s like a reflex. I think I`m doing better now, I worked on it.