Society Not Understanding People With Reading, Spelling and/or Communication Problems

[The Penguin]

There are many people in this world don't know what it like for people having reading, spelling and/or communication problems. There are people might assume the person don't want to learn or was poorly educated. If you are one of those people make these assumptions, you should consider the person background before making judgment. For example, myself, I have a language based learning disability (LBLD) as other may recognize it as dyslexia.

It can be very hard for me to communicate in written form. I need to spend lots of time of what skills I do have to improve my writing to the best of my ability. Though there will still be grammar mistakes, there will be people attack me of this in society from time to time. Other people want to try to help me don't understand it very hard for me to develop a new language skill. It takes me substantial amount of time to learn things. Majority people will give up on me since most people don't have patience.

Pronouncing written words I don't use in my life is extremely difficult for me. When this happens, I will just spell the word. Even if someone teach me how to read the word, it might take me a very long time to have it stay in my long term memory due to memory issues I have.

Me having LBLD made it difficult for me to get jobs in my life. Most employers won't give a person an interview if they know a person have a LBLD or some other type of disability. If I don't tell the employer during the interview, they will detect during the times I have communication issues and will not understand why. I had an employer wrote a good reference letter stating the great work I did and encourage the employer to see beyond my LBLD. Even with the letter, it is hard to find an understanding employer.

With all these difficulties above plus ones I haven't listed can make life survival skills very difficult.

Because of my LBLD, I need to build good relationships with people that can advocate for me so I can have opportunities in life that I want. I'm not doing some low end job when I know I'm capable to do much more.

I'm glad I finally found an employer that gave me a chance. Over the months the employer learned many benefits I can offer to the company.

I'm hoping one day I can have a nonprofit organization to help people with LBLD to have more opportunities in life like I was able to have.

 

[Kirsty]

You do very well expressing yourself on threads. I know it takes time to write what you want to say.

 

[Mr Allen]

I know it shouldn't, but poor spelling/grammar annoys the heck out of me! Your equals you're! FFS how hard is it?!

 

[Kirsty]

I know it shouldn't, but poor spelling/grammar annoys the heck out of me! Your equals you're! FFS how hard is it?!

I know you don't mean to be hurtful towards The Penguin, but what comes easier for one like yourself can be a life-long challenge for another with a language based learning disability. I would ask yourself why it annoys you so much before posting these kind of comments as it can come across as rude and inconsiderate to other people.

 

[toothless]

im not diagnosed with dyslexia [though a specsavers expert said he thinks i might have it,i am unable to write so its never been picked up before] but i struggle with writing/typing to and make lots of mistakes and i dont understand a lot of language,my autism and my intellectual disability affects me greatly in this way.
i wish people understood differences.

as a formerly non verbal person, i also got very frustrated at the amount of people who looked at my communication device as i was typing because they coudnt wait a few seconds for me to talk-honestly everyone did it,very annoying.

 

[The Penguin]

I know it shouldn't, but poor spelling/grammar annoys the heck out of me! Your equals you're! FFS how hard is it?!

There is enough people in this world like yourself feel this way. I feel your comment is not adding any value for the thread I have created. Should you need to express your frustration for someone not good in grammar or spelling, there are several websites have threads of that topic. If there others feel the same way, please share these type of comments elsewhere.

 

[Judge]

Simple point to be made.

If we can't collectively tolerate each others' manifestation of autism and comorbid conditions, we might as well forget any expectations of Neurotypicals understanding us either.

Besides, observing and tolerating the traits and behaviors of other fellow Aspies might help us to achieve a greater understanding of ourselves. We give each other perspective that we might not easily find in the real world.

 

[Mia]

Often encounter people Penguin that ridicule other's grammar and spelling. Also am dyslectic and reverse both numbers and letters at times.

Think it might be that others don't have anything to add to the topic, so they critique the structure or parts of a question or statement. Sadly have concluded that it makes others feel superior to do so.

 

[AnthonyH]

Finally someone gets it! Motor dysgraphia for me, never been able to write legibly my entire life. Well, I can if I write at a snail's pace but that leads to cramps so I need to stop every five minutes. People always assumed I was lazy or in some lighter cases I just wasn't applying myself, and they would always brush me off whenever I tried to write legibly and get cramps. This lead to me getting severe writers block and an aversion to writing in general, which I've mostly overcame over time thanks to different writing techniques and the application of computers. (Thanks science!)

 

[The Penguin]

Finally someone gets it! Motor dysgraphia for me, never been able to write legibly my entire life. Well, I can if I write at a snail's pace but that leads to cramps so I need to stop every five minutes. People always assumed I was lazy or in some lighter cases I just wasn't applying myself, and they would always brush me off whenever I tried to write legibly and get cramps. This lead to me getting severe writers block and an aversion to writing in general, which I've mostly overcame over time thanks to different writing techniques and the application of computers. (Thanks science!)

Writing legibly is a challenge for me too. It takes me too much time to write neatly.

I do hate sometimes at work my boss wants me to use the white board but i'm glad this is a rear thing.

Another reason writing on paper don't work for me I'm dependent on technology to help with my writing. Plus, because I know I have issues with spelling, I can write out my thoughts on the computer with many errors and make the corrections afterwards. This would be very difficult to archive the same task if I was done on paper.

 

[wyverary]

For me, it's pretty much the same as people having a problem with my lack of innate social skills. All of us have "deficiencies" and judging someone just because they have trouble with writing, maths, spatial perception (me!) is the ultimate form of superficiality. I try to educate people as best I can, but failing that, I want nothing to do with them.

Also, this thread reminded me of this:

 

[midlife aspie]

It seems to be human nature to judge first and ask questions later, if at all. I think most of us here represent 2% of the human population for more than neurological reasons.

 

[The Penguin]

It seems to be human nature to judge first and ask questions later, if at all.

Very true.

I know even myself I have my own judgment system. I do ensure I have an open mind to give a person a chance to show when my judgment system can be wrong. I find having an open mind is very important since the closed mind approach might can get yourself into trouble. I'm also understanding with someone that something that is beyond their own control.