Some advise... long story..

[Lee92]

hi guys basically mine and partners son is 2 half years old. We basically said to ourselfs a few months back he's not where we think he should be development etc.. so we took to doctors explained everything etc.. he's been referred to speech and language and we have our health visitor involved now also she is coming to our home in a couple of weeks to see our son and we think she will refer him to a Paediatrician. What can we expect when we see one what sort of questions etc.. here's a little bit about our son he's a lovely happy little boy he gives the best cuddles.. but has trouble sleeping wakes pretty much every night.. has trouble eating and obviously his speech is not there as what a 2 half year old should be it's just babble he can say around six words but even they are not clear at all. He gets very frustrated by all this not being able to comincate with us and gets aggressive pinching , biting etc.. he does tiptoe sometimes and does seem like he's in his own little world sometimes his eye contact is ok to be fare which a lot of people say they have none? Or very little If anyone has a 2 half year old and has these same symptoms? Please get in touch or advise from anybody would be great. Also he's due to start nursery within next few weeks which we fill he is no where near ready for but hopefully will do him the world of good!

 

[FreeDiver]

Well, from what you said, I can't draw a conclusion on what you're son is dealing with. But I would see what happen when he enters the nursery. At that point, he will be interacting with other kids in a noisy environment. See how your son reacts to that new environment. If it scares him and causes him to be withdrawn. Then chances are, He may be on the spectrum. I'm no doctor here, but I'm basing this on my own personal experience.

 

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[Streetwise]

i don't want to frighten you but there are diseases specific to boys that match those symptoms (not the cuddling )you need a neurologist involved it could be lack of stimulation! socialisation! we cant experience him like you do !!! don't get hung up on the word autism it never fully describes anyone let him show you what he cares about not what educators think he should care about a lot of people have suffered because they are labeled with autism, he has worth because he is a living being not because he is neurotypical

hi guys basically mine and partners son is 2 half years old. We basically said to ourselfs a few months back he's not where we think he should be development etc.. so we took to doctors explained everything etc.. he's been referred to speech and language and we have our health visitor involved now also she is coming to our home in a couple of weeks to see. our son and we think she will refer him to a Paediatrician. What can we expect when we see one what sort of questions etc.. here's a little bit about our son he's a lovely happy little boy he gives the best cuddles.. but has trouble sleeping wakes pretty much every night.. has trouble eating and obviously his speech is not there as what a 2 half year old should be it's just babble he can say around six words but even they are not clear at all. He gets very frustrated by all this not being able to comincate with us and gets aggressive pinching , biting etc.. he does tiptoe sometimes and does seem like he's in his own little world sometimes his eye contact is ok to be fare which a lot of people say they have none? Or very little If anyone has a 2 half year old and has these same symptoms? Please get in touch or advise from anybody would be great. Also he's due to start nursery within next few weeks which we fill he is no where near ready for but hopefully will do him the world of good!

 

[Dadwith2Autisticsons]

hi guys basically mine and partners son is 2 half years old. We basically said to ourselfs a few months back he's not where we think he should be development etc.. so we took to doctors explained everything etc.. he's been referred to speech and language and we have our health visitor involved now also she is coming to our home in a couple of weeks to see our son and we think she will refer him to a Paediatrician. What can we expect when we see one what sort of questions etc.. here's a little bit about our son he's a lovely happy little boy he gives the best cuddles.. but has trouble sleeping wakes pretty much every night.. has trouble eating and obviously his speech is not there as what a 2 half year old should be it's just babble he can say around six words but even they are not clear at all. He gets very frustrated by all this not being able to comincate with us and gets aggressive pinching , biting etc.. he does tiptoe sometimes and does seem like he's in his own little world sometimes his eye contact is ok to be fare which a lot of people say they have none? Or very little If anyone has a 2 half year old and has these same symptoms? Please get in touch or advise from anybody would be great. Also he's due to start nursery within next few weeks which we fill he is no where near ready for but hopefully will do him the world of good!

Your son's signs and symptoms sound like what our two sons had at age two and a half, regarding the speech delays, the eating and sleep difficulties, the being in their own world at times, the frustrations that led to biting and pinching, the tip toe walking (Dylan), decent eye contact, and the extreme cuddliness (Dylan) and separation anxiety (Aaron.)

Aaron, age 8 now, was an extremely picky eater, and spit out, threw and tore up food often at that age. He had a very limited diet of four foods at age 2.5, because of texture and taste sensitivities, and he spoke then only about six words unclearly, too. Wherever I went, he followed me. He needed precise routines to sleep. He started lining up toy items and organizing them, and showing more and more rigid routine needs, like needing things certain ways, done at certain times, and by a certain person. He was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder at age three by a psychologist from the local school system, after the pediatricans had no clue about the reasons for the delays. We decided to homeschool our children though.

Aaron is higher functioning now, and functions close to his peers his age for most things. He learns best best visually, through his IPad, workbooks, educational DVDs, but he likes learning kinesthetically, too, through experiments and creative educational lessons.. His speech is mostly normal now. His sleep improved, and his needs for rigid routines has lessened through the years, too. He still has eating issues, as he likes mostly carbohydrates, and foods not too soft or hard, but he tolerates more foods. He is now hypersensitive to smell mostly. He does not have many behavioral issues, but is rather polite and proper if anything. He has become less clingy, and more independent. He loves Math, science, and singing.

Dylan, our other younger son, is age 5 now. At age two and a half, Dylan also had even severer eating difficulties than Aaron. His diet was limited to about three carbohydrate foods, and he would vomit at the sight of anything else. His sleep was far more disturbed and erratic, with him having severe difficulty falling asleep, and prolonged or many nightly awakenings. He on rare occasion babbled when he was a toddler, but mostly stayed silent. He was very energetic throughout the day, and he would rarely walk but run, and he would climb indoors and outdoors. His eye contact was great, and he had a great smile. He had less meltdowns though than Aaron at age two, and had less need for routine. But, he liked spinning himself, tip toe walking, and flapping his hands a lot. He had more other sensory issues than Aaron, too, with his needing clothing textures and drinking cups to be just right, sounds to be lower, lighting to be dimmed or off, and temperature to be perfect for him.

We sensed Dylan had Autism too, at two to age three, based on his signs and symptoms, but no doctor or pediatrician wanted to diagnose that, as his smile and eye contact threw those doctors off perhaps, or due to incompetence at knowing what Autism could entail. One doctor said he did not look Autistic. Many others said to wait, as boys will be boys. By age four, we got frustrated at those doctors and drove Dylan four hours away to an Autism specialist. Dylan cried hysterically and sat in his stroller playing with his IPad and refused to be examined at that new place, and by that new doctor. Luckily, we brought in extensive written evidence and past medical reports, and several videos of Dylan behaving in numerous environments, that showed his eating fears, tiptoeing, hand flapping, spinning, babbling, and sensory fears, and other delays, and that combined with answering that doctors numerous questions confirmed Dylan had Autism Spectrum Disorder, too, and after noticing how he navigated that IPad and feared change.

At age five now, Dylan still has yet to progress very much with speech. On very rare occasion he can speak a couple of very short words, and some letters and numbers, but nothing more but a few echo sounds, on rare occasion, too. Mostly though he is silent. He cannot follow instructions, so we are even unsure if he understands such. He was also diagnosed recently with ADHD too, and that would explain why his hands and feet have to keep be moving, and why he seems to like messses, or things scattered about. Dylan's sleep has gotten better though, as we removed sensory triggers, or added sensory needs. His diet is still extremely inflexible and limited, but one day we hope things will better there. Dylan is extremely affectionate and clingy to this day, and shows more routine needs than before. We are unsure if he will developmentally progress much more, like Aaron had done.

 

[Lee92]

Thanks for all your positive feedback. We are just taking it step by step. We both think definitely nursery will be the biggest step for his progression and hopefully he's ok there but yeah step by step all we can do at the moment thanks guys!

 

[Alaska]

Hi Lee92. Welcome to AF!!!

I do not wish to discourage you, but you can not depend on just any pediatrician to correctly diagnose your child. If you think there is a good chance that he has Aspergers or Autism, then you need a specialist in Autism. You need to do an internet search and find an Autism specialist in your area, and make sure your referral is to them.