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Some Are Concerned I Keep To Myself

The Penguin

Chilly Willy The Penguin
I have many people have concerned me keeping to myself including my sister that spoke to me a few weeks ago. She should already understand I don't enjoy the area I live at right now and had trouble connecting with people for the 8 years living here.

With many people I interacted in life, I learned you can't really depend on many people, especially family.

I have notice a pattern keep repeating for my life is many people that interact with me cause they feel sorry for me. They say things to make me feel better even though most of them don't truly mean it. I witness this with many people I spoken to.

Some of you may already know I don't connect with the norm. As each day pass by, I loss more and more interest wanting to engaged with people. I don't like many things I see in society and their behavior.

Some of you also know I have been planning a life to live as a hermit. I think this might be the best option for me as many people disappoint me. I learned to accept people owe me nothing and expect disappointment since this is what happens most of the time.

Interesting people say I should connect with more people even though most of them have no issues to connect with people. Most of these people also connect with the norm. Lately,most of things these people are into I'm not.

I'm learning to be a lot happier having very few people in my life. It makes life a lot easier as I don't need to think about many people.

I have proven in many post I can find endless things to enjoy on my own. Other people have their own needs but for me, I like being alone. Mind you, be nice to have a local friend, but at the time being, I not in the mood of searching which could lead to more disappointment. Maybe I will be ready sometime in the future. But for now, my focus is making the highest income I possible can so I don't have a need to depend on many people.
 
I get that sort of concern, too. Only problem is, they end up more concerned when I try to socialize (!) Can't please everybody, or, anybody some days.
 
Yeah, my boyfriend and family worry about how much I isolate myself, but I'm actually pretty happy that way. There are still some friendship I'd like to develop, as social interaction with the right people make me happier, but it's pretty hard as I don't have that much of a social drive and I have a fear of not knowing what to do... :( However I rarely ever felt lonely even though I spent most of my life alone (though it makes team work at school scary for me as I often have no one to turn to and I don't know what to do, but I don't like to socialise with random people who are more likely to not be compatible to me)
 
(though it makes team work at school scary for me as I often have no one to turn to and I don't know what to do, but I don't like to socialise with random people who are more likely to not be compatible to me)
Yes engaging with people can be hard. My previous full time job sometimes there are social events. These are the days I hated the most at work.
 
Don't mind engaging with people on the internet, but in the 'day to day' working life I've done enough of that. Now that I don't have to work outside the home, and always be rushing off to make money, I have more time to myself. I don't miss the forced encounters anymore.
 

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