Special interest infringement/ denial

[Rocco]

When my special interests are infringed upon, mocked, complained about, or I am prevented from participating in them, I get "upset." I don't know how better to describe this?
My mind gets scattered to the point I NEED to indulge in painting or whatever other interest I am absorbed in. If I don't or am prevented too long I get irritable.
I feel, lately in general, that I am "wasting" my life in a well paying career that I "dislike" at times with a fiery intensity.
I feel like I should be chasing a dream of self employment, and that I cheat myself in mundane labor to "earn a living."
Then I feel I am being childishly selfish to want instability in stead of a pension....
Anyhow, infringed special interest time is disruptive to me. Very disruptive. Thoughts?

 

[The Penguin]

A business is a viable if you want to start saving now if that your new path. I would ensure you have several months money saved to cover living expenses and money for investments. But to start I plan a day you have time off at a peaceful place to work out your future.

 

[AsheSkyler]

I refer to my interests as an addiction. Although lately I feel that Vulcan is a better fit. I can do without for a while, maybe dabble a bit to get by, but when the pon farr takes me, you bloody well let me indulge and relieve myself of the stress or I shall challenge you to kal-if-fee, and there ain't no Option C to it. After a few hours, I'm fine again. Yeah, totally going with Vulcan from here on out. I need to draw and draw I will.

As for the self-employment thing, I suggest making it a part-time second job to test the water. If it shows to be very promising, capable of meeting or exceeding your needed income, and you can handle all aspects of the job from product to marketing to paperwork (or can afford an accountant or salesman to handle the parts you struggle with), then go for it.

 

[Randomperson]

Well Rocco, how much do you like/dislike your career, scale of 1-10 would be fine.

How many years until your pension is secure?

How many hours per week do you work vs how many can you indulge in your passions while not at work?

How would you get by if you gave up your pension and career to self employ? How many hours would you spend working to make ends meet and how many would you have left for your passions. Would it even be feasible? Most self employed people work much harder to get by ( 80-100 hours a week instead of 40).

 

[The Penguin]

I feel this video relievent for this post

 

[King_Oni]

Hah.. a topic that has been going round for many therapist visits in my life. My interests/obsessions and the balance of real life.

For me it pretty much comes down to a desire to have 24 hours for myself and my interests, and while I understand that's impossible in most cases, that's probably one of the big struggles I have in life as well.

I've considered self-employment as means to indulge on interests more, yet the issue might very well be; how marketable are your interests, and how much can you keep focus. Yet, I'm not much of a single interest person. I'm all over the place, and that might make focus a bit harder. I'm not that interested in being a musician and recording/writing 24/7, sometimes I like to paint, sometimes I like to craft things, sometimes I end up playing a game I'm obsessed with for a few hours straight and other times I infodump on any of my interests. That's pretty much what my day looks like, and thus committing to a single thing would make me pretty miserable.

 

[Nitro]

Is totally agree with testing the water as a part timer until a business grows.
There are many factors that have to be added in to your business model for future needs and wants,including a form of retirement finances.Often trying out a job on another's bank account will show you what it takes to run a chosen business and lets you decide if it fits your needs or needs modified to suit you better.

 

[Randomperson]

Personally if I had the financial backing to do it, I would like to build a set of those display glasses that go with apples tablet devices that could read and count cards in black jack with the tablet and use the heads up display in the glasses to tell me when and how much to bet to beat the odds over the house. And if feasible add a pair of velocity scanners, one set to roulette ball, one to the wheel, to determine the section of the wheel the ball should land on reliably enough to beat the house odds, it would be a fabulous way to accrue wealth quickly and then retire to do what I want when I want with no worries about finances, but being 1 step ahead of poverty is not the position to accomplish this from!

 

[Rocco]

I should say my main beef here is infringement of interests. I also wish to make a living off of my paintings/ interests. Realistically I know I cannot, however the desire persists.
I have no organizational ability, nor administrative. I could not run a full official business in my own. I barely even do paperwork now, let alone to maintain business.
I just know that waking at 3:30 am 5 times a weeks is very unhealthy for my sleep schedule. It disrupts my life and attitude.

 

[Ylva]

Make it clear to people that interrupting is rude and that you don't want their opinions on things that don't concern them. If it's rude to tell them that, it is still more rude for them to comment on it in the first place.

 

[icesyckel]

My wife would like to start a business one day, and I think it is fun to discuss, but the reality is that I feel self-employment is too much responsibility and not enough vacation. It's good for some, but most people who have their own business and are successful hate start to hate their boss

 

[DogwoodTree]

I am self-employed, in a position I pursued wholeheartedly when the opportunity became available. Most of the time, I enjoy it, even though it can be really stressful. But I've gotta say...it's not as glamorous as it may seem. It's not like I get to sit and indulge in whatever most appeals to me at any given moment, and like others, my "obsession" fluctuates. Even when it's pretty focused on one topic, it's not always on the portion of that topic that needs to be worked on at the moment. Does that make sense?

To take an obsession from intense hobby to income-producing career is not all fun and games, and actually can take the fun out of it at times. Maybe realizing that self-discipline is actually more important when self-employed will help put the appeal of it into perspective? Not saying you couldn't do it, or that it wouldn't be rewarding. But if the motivation is so you can devote most of your time to follow whatever rabbit trail draws you in when indulging in your obsession...it just doesn't work that way.

For me, it was kind of the same dose of reality when I had kids. Having a baby doesn't mean rocking and snuggling all day, feeling all warm and fuzzy all the time. It means extreme sleep deprivation, nasty diapers to change, putting someone else's needs first all the time, and having your heart live in someone else's body.

 

[Nitro]

My wife would like to start a business one day, and I think it is fun to discuss, but the reality is that I feel self-employment is too much responsibility and not enough vacation. It's good for some, but most people who have their own business and are successful hate start to hate their boss

lots of your time must be devoted to your work and you have to learn to live without time off...it is a ton of responsibility and I hated driving the desk