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Spot a fake... Can you?

Gomendosi

Gomendosi

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Weird coincidence, I have previously been told by somebody after I mentioned Aspergers to them, "oh yeah, you've definitely got it, I'd know if you were faking it" & I thought about this a lot since, then today I read an article that said the top fake thing guys hate most about women is when they are so vain as to think we won't notice hair extensions!
The next fake thing blokes hate is false eyelashes & surprisingly fake boobs don't get a mention, probably cause dudes love boobs whether they're fake or not.

What I was curious about is if we Aspergical persons are, theoretically, more observant than most, can we spot "fake" more often or more easily? Also, what do you think of people being fake in their representation of themselves?
 
I don't know that we're more observant. I certainly miss a lot of things. An Aspie friend of mine isn't always so observant either. Can't really comment on fake anything in others without being a hypocrite. I colour my hair and I fake being normal to fit in. lol
 
I don't see the reason why people "fake" things in their appearance or try to be someone they are not. I easily spot people I think are pretenders and I stay away from them. Someone who is uncomfortable with you they are is not someone I want to spend much time with. Too vain and/ or insecure and needy.
 
Dying one's hair, jewelry, piercings, makeup, etc. is not necessarily a sign of vanity. Some people just like doing it, and it can be sort of empowering to take a little more control of one's appearance. Rather than trying to hide who they are, they are turning their appearance into a sort of extension of their personality. There is nothing "fake" about that, I do not think. Some people do it out of insecurity, perhaps, but I do not think one can make that judgement based solely on the way the person makes themselves look, and to do so is patently unfair. I do not think it is any different than picking out one's own clothes.

That said, no, I am not very good at spotting "fake." Or maybe I am, but I just do not care. I am no Holden Caulfield, for sure. (always despised that book) :cool:
 
Gomendosi said:
Weird coincidence, I have previously been told by somebody after I mentioned Aspergers to them, "oh yeah, you've definitely got it, I'd know if you were faking it" & I thought about this a lot since, then today I read an article that said the top fake thing guys hate most about women is when they are so vain as to think we won't notice hair extensions!
The next fake thing blokes hate is false eyelashes & surprisingly fake boobs don't get a mention, probably cause dudes love boobs whether they're fake or not.
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Why did the article mention hair extensions and eyelashes as "fake" but (so far as I know) not include make-up?

Is it wrong for someone to have fake lashes or hair extensions if it creates the look they want? Someone else wears a certain shirt because it creates the look they want? Is there a significant difference?
Fake boobs can actually have some sort of bad effect on lymph nodes, or something. But I haven't heard of bad effects from hair extensions.
 
wyverary said:
Dying one's hair, jewelry, piercings, makeup, etc. is not necessarily a sign of vanity. Some people just like doing it, and it can be sort of empowering to take a little more control of one's appearance. Rather than trying to hide who they are, they are turning their appearance into a sort of extension of their personality. There is nothing "fake" about that, I do not think. Some people do it out of insecurity, perhaps, but I do not think one can make that judgement based solely on the way the person makes themselves look, and to do so is patently unfair. I do not think it is any different than picking out one's own clothes.

That said, no, I am not very good at spotting "fake." Or maybe I am, but I just do not care. I am no Holden Caulfield, for sure. (always despised that book) :cool:
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I was thinking of more extravagant signs of vanity - like hair extensions and plastic surgery. Some people spend rediculous amounts of money and risk their health to try to fit into a supposed "ideal." This is a sore spot for me since I was "friends" for the briefest of time with women who were like this. I thought they were interested in me as a person, but I was wrong. I "looked" a certain way - that was all. When they got to know me a bit, I was too weird and honestly - I found them shallow. So yes, I am judgemental because experience has taught me to stay away from people who are excessively concerned with their looks.

Jewelry, piercing, and hair dye is not what I mean. I mean women who drop hundreds of dollars weekly to have mani/ pedis, and highlights, and skin peels. There is nothing wrong with expressing yourself through fashion and make-up. And it would be naive to think part of our confidence isn't derived from our appearance, but it does cross a line when a person bases all of their self-worth on how people respond to their physical appearance.

I do admit that I make quick judgments of people. Perhaps this is a failing on my part. But I find within seconds I know if I want to continue a conversation with someone or not. Sounds funny - but I pick up on people's energy. If their energy "feels" wrong, then I'm out. It is a gut thing. Never much of an issue anyway. I don't get out much.
 
On the Appalachian Trail in the Smokey Mountains we met this guy...FAKE! Every group of backpackers he met he'd ask "oh what State are you from?" which became the State he "lived in." So he started out "living" in NY and by the end of the trail he was telling people he lived in Arizona or California...?

Fake boobs yuk!!!!!!!!! When a woman with fake boobs lays down they the girls dont' go down to the sides. I'd think women would dislike men with a fake personality. Observant-after I read Dale Carnegie I notice a lot more on women. Plus having been a photographer, ditto. So for me, a woman with a fake personality [it's in the eyes...] or just totally materialistic [fake] is a turn off. Not that I'm Count Dracuala or anything [hey! he owned a Castle...] V^^V


Gomendosi said:
...fake boobs...

What I was curious about is if we Aspergical persons are, theoretically, more observant than most, can we spot "fake" more often or more easily? Also, what do you think of people being fake in their representation of themselves?
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