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Still waiting for a diagnosis which was missed as a child

Alison Jones

Alison Jones

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I have always been treated for depression. I have now have evidence that i was a difficult child. I had the most traumatic upbringing, no- one has understood. I have now decided to fight for a diagnosis. I also have ocd and ptsd without diagnosis. Wish me luck if you dare. No-one has understood me accept my husband and my sons and my autistic friends, i didn't find my husband until i was 46 as I couldn't keep a relationship with men. My husband has the same condition so we understand each other. There is hope of finding someone out there in the big bad world.
 
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Thankyou very much, the only thing mental health have said is "you seem like a stable and intelligent lady", maybe i should let it all out instead of trying to conform to what society has said i should be like.
 
I didn't begin to unravel this mystery myself until at the age of fifty-five. Having been formally diagnosed many years ago with chronic clinical depression, social anxiety and OCD. With no thought of forms of autism at the time.

Looks like you came to the right place though to explore yourself, through the comparison and interaction with others. Welcome to AC.
 
Alison Jones said:
Thankyou very much, the only thing mental health have said is "you seem like a stable and intelligent lady", maybe i should let it all out instead of trying to conform to what society has said i should be like.
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When a person is trying for a diagnosis,
the most helpful thing to further that is to
say and do whatever it takes to present a
clear and accurate picture of oneself.

Anything else is a pointless cover-up.
 
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Anything else is a pointless cover-up.
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Indeed, it's a critical point for those who are adults who like myself have never been formally diagnosed. That the older you get, the more apt you may become at masking your autistic traits and behaviors just to survive and perhaps thrive in a Neurotypical world.

So yes, in the event you seek such a formal diagnosis, you have to be able to let down all your guards and shields so to speak. To let them see who you really are.
 
welcome! You will definitely find some support here, a lot of the members are really helpful and may be able to suggest some helpful pointers in terms of getting a diagnosis. from the short introduction you gave, it really sounds like you've had a tough time, and could use some guidance at this point. Everyone here is very kind, and we're happy to offer help and advice if you need it. Getting a successful diagnosis can often be quite an adventure, i hope it works out for you. :)
 
Judge said:
Indeed, it's a critical point for those who are adults who like myself have never been formally diagnosed. That the older you get, the more apt you may become at masking your autistic traits and behaviors just to survive and perhaps thrive in a Neurotypical world.

So yes, in the event you seek such a formal diagnosis, you have to be able to let down all your guards and shields so to speak. To let them see who you really are.
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I have done all the online tests and they say that i have diverse aspie. The NHS make us wait for a year from referral my doctor has said.
 
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Alison Jones said:
I have done all the online tests and they say that i have diverse aspie. The NHS make us wait for a year from referral my doctor has said.
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I waited 6 -7months ,I'm in n.e . England the figures are 6 months-2 years .
Oldest person diagnosed in the UK was a man of 83 years
 
Alison Jones said:
I have always been treated for depression. I have now have evidence that i was a difficult child. I had the most traumatic upbringing, no- one has understood. I have now decided to fight for a diagnosis. I also have ocd and ptsd without diagnosis. Wish me luck if you dare. No-one has understood me accept my husband and my sons and my autistic friends, i didn't find my husband until i was 46 as I couldn't keep a relationship with men. My husband has the same condition so we understand each other. There is hope of finding someone out there in the big bad world.
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Welcome, Alison Jones.
Believe me that there are many on this forum that understand it well. Yes, we wish you good luck and hope you come whenever you need some support. We may not solve your hardships but we will be there along the way when you beat them. You're in the right place.
 
Late to the party myself. There are many on this forum you'll find understand your position more than you might think ... it surprised me.

It's really nice to hear you have a supportive partner. I too have struggled on the relationship front so that's nice to hear. I'm in the midst of ptsd so that seems an impossibility right now, especially given my history.

I self-diagnosed earlier this year, then went to see a psych for confirmation and more information. She was very understanding and even said that I do not present as ASD so "no one can tell" but after speaking with me and discussing the criteria for diagnosis she confirmed that I was on the spectrum.

Sounds like we get to a point in our lives (usually 30-50) when the mask slips and we cannot keep up the charade. We keep waiting for the time everything will "make sense" and we will suddenly wake up and "get it" and feel "normal". I thought this would happen when I was 30. It didn't. I felt worse. Now I have a diagnosis I feel more "normal" than I ever have. Knowledge and information and understanding and self-awareness is all I needed.

Good luck... ask lots of questions.
 
Hi & Welcome,
Glad you have found an understanding partner. It is good to never give up.
 
What happened to the autistic gardener, it was a very good show along with monk and the brand new the good doctor. I understand them all.
 
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