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Kayla55

Kayla55

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Gee, I've tried so many times to stop advice, stop helping and basically act like my doctor, pls book an appointment.
Even at work, don't advise boss what's wrong, that involves a raise when you strategise how to fix it, this way he wouldn't have given project to newbie.

seriously, it has to stop. And this is what my wanna have business is about, directing my energy, focusing on my own needs. Not uplifting others in business when we supposed to be there to make money and I don't have guarantees for boss or customer loyalty points. Honestly, nothing ties my good work to my bank account.

what do I do, so many people fail to understand how important my financial freedom has always being to me, how do I let people know in a polite way that I'm unavailable now, and that I refuse to take calls due to my interests.
don't want to seem like a trouble-maker or a gold-digger?
 
Kayla55 said:
what do I do, so many people fail to understand how important my financial freedom has always being to me, how do I let people know in a polite way that I'm unavailable now, and that I refuse to take calls due to my interests.
don't want to seem like a trouble-maker or a gold-digger?
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I believe gold-digger may mean something different where you are from. Here it implies a woman who goes after rich men just for their wealth.

But as for a polite way to tell folks you are unavailable you can say just that. "Sorry I'm unavailable at the moment to fit that into my schedule". I think the important thing is to try to not feel bad about making and taking the time and space for you, your interests, and your needs.
 
I'm battling at moment with competing for approval, whether it be who gets noddy badge at work, I just can't keep up with this kind of when I'm useful, when I'm good enough and now you found new favourite and with Nt it's not necessarily requirement to innovate, they simply have secret hidden code to mingle.

What can I say money doesn't buy friendships, nor do favours/useful gain friendship.
Seems honest performance doesn't gain favour with boss, they prefer to pass buck to buddy system.
So I need to be happy too.
 
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