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Strange but True

Maiki

Maiki

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:relaxed:Most people that know me would never think-- Aspergers-- THAT'S her deal. I fit society's picture of 'productive, successful citizen'. I have a wonderful husband that loves me (and I him) despite our respective faults. He is not so sure that depression, anxiety, let alone high-functioning ASD actually exist. Or, if they do exist, they should never be used as an 'excuse'. Did I mention I love him?! I truly do. He is not fully able to support my emotional needs. That's where this forum (+ other friends, professional supports) come in. I am so excited to chat with other Aspie adults about life; the beauty and the hardships! I have 3 extraordinary daughters; tho only 1 has an official diagnosis, all are intellectually gifted, and I suspect they all have a place on the ASD spectrum too. I am happy to be here. I feel like I belong:fourleaf:
 
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Welcome.

There is this topic "you don't look autistic" or sth like this where people shared similar "unbelieveable stories". ;) Might be intereting for you.

What's your hobbies?
 
Darius said:
Welcome.

There is this topic "you don't look autistic" or sth like this where people shared similar "unbelieveable stories". ;) Might be intereting for you.

What's your hobbies?
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Thanks for the heads-up. I am interested in parenting, medicine, education and music. I love to read, and used to have other interesting/ creative hobbies, but find myself with much less free time than ever before!:sleeping: My fave thing these days is to steal a little daytime nap!
 
Maiki said:
:relaxed:Most people that know me would never think-- Aspergers-- THAT'S her deal. I fit society's picture of 'productive, successful citizen'. I have a wonderful husband that loves me (and I him) despite our respective faults. He is not so sure that depression, anxiety, let alone high-functioning ASD actually exist. Or, if they do exist, they should never be used as an 'excuse'. Did I mention I love him?! I truly do. He is not fully able to support my emotional needs. That's where this forum (+ other friends, professional supports) come in. I am so excited to chat with other Aspie adults about life; the beauty and the hardships! I have 3 extraordinary daughters; tho only 1 has an official diagnosis, all are intellectually gifted, and I suspect they all have a place on the ASD spectrum too. I am happy to be here. I feel like I belong:fourleaf:
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Welcome! I'm a fairly social Aspie, I often wade into crowds for local events of all sorts, usually to take photos, my primary hobby and obsession... I understand that many Aspies do their best not to be in large crowds... Yet I'm also within that a fairly shy and introverted person, a rather curious combination.

I've had a fairly normal life up to now, just trying to understand what a recent self diagnosis means to me.
 
Nah, as a philosopher on this forum said a few days ago, screw normal, your people are here.
(OK, I'm paraphrasing, but you all get the idea)

Welcome!
 
Maiki said:
Thanks for the heads-up. I am interested in parenting, medicine, education and music. I love to read, and used to have other interesting/ creative hobbies, but find myself with much less free time than ever before!:sleeping: My fave thing these days is to steal a little daytime nap!
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Parenting surely keeps you busy. ;)
What kind of music and reading?
 
Since the very fist moment I joined I've felt that I belong here. So many people on here that I have so much in common with! I'm learning to manage my Asperger's with the help of a psychologist in order to do better in the NT world. I only started going to a specialist recently because I've never been able to manage my struggles by myself. I struggle with severe anxieties (OCD and general), low self-esteem/self-hatred, very bad social and communication skills, lack of maturity, lack of common sense and trouble controlling my emotions. I've always seen myself as weird and different, and so have most other people I've known. I felt like I never belonged anywhere, always being that extra wheel. I'm tired of being alone and pushing people away with my negative attitude, emotional outbursts and constant cycling over anxieties.

I've recently made a few friends but they're not available every weekend to hang out with, and I feel that if I keep clinging to them and buzzing around them like a fly, that it'd push them away from me too; if that ever happens I'll definitely just sink into depression - and I feel like I'm on the verge of depression, I always worry and am only now starting to manage certain types of OCD anxieties. These people appreciate me for who I am and one has no idea just how much it means to me. I'm also very happy to have my parents' love and support, but I just wish I didn't drive them crazy all the time. I never mean to anger or upset anyone. I've always had trouble making friends and for a while there I was actually a lone wolf by choice (only had one childhood friend, he was also socially awkward and might have been on the spectrum).

You said you have a family?? That's awesome. I've never even dated (almost 30 years old) and so many people on here are in some sort of relationship based on my observation from the forum posts. I might go on my first date later this year, not sure - my father wants to introduce me to someone. I spend most of my time working as a software dev and otherwise just doing things at my computer. I don't go out much, don't drink, don't smoke and don't do drugs. That doesn't change the fact that my psychological struggles have made me miss out on so much happiness in life. I've had some special interests throughout my life that kept me happy, which included streetlights, sprinklers and construction sites (only the third one is prevalent right now). I consider myself a boring guy and so do some other people.

I joined this site per the advice of my doc and I should have done it sooner instead of sweeping my struggles under the rug. I'm glad you joined it too, Maiki. I love it here, like we both said - belonging!
 
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