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Subtle excuses for not to socialize.

Aalo

Aalo

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I bet we all have done these things to fool people leave us alone. Listening to music, pretending to sleep etc.
What tricks work for you, and what have failed to do so?

For me reading in public is impossible, and pretending would just lead me to stare the same page for suspiciously long. Not that anyone ever noticed, but I think it won't work if I cant do it plausible. Maybe I'd be left alone, but I feel stupid trying to do the reading excuse.
 
I'm not neccesarily a guy for excuses. I've tried a few times to excuse myself for whatever reason, but experience has taught me that I better just tell them I don't want to be bothered. That seemed to work best.

On the other hand, I don't run into a lot of situations where I need to excuse myself for some "me"-time. I'm not bothered in this house and when I'm out I usually have music and shades on, so people don't even try to bother being social with me. Perhaps there's part of it that's looks as well as a reason why people don't bother me.
 
Cell phones are really good for this. I'll text someone, pretend to text, or pretend to check my voicemail. I also always keep my Kindle in my purse so I can start reading whenever I want/need to.
 
SallySlips said:
Cell phones are really good for this. I'll text someone, pretend to text, or pretend to check my voicemail. I also always keep my Kindle in my purse so I can start reading whenever I want/need to.
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I try texting and it almost always fails. Perhaps people feel free to intrude on that around here.

When I run a race I generally put earphone in - so it looks like I am listening to music even though I am not.
 
I shut the door to my room and lock it and listen to music with my earphones so I can't hear if someone's trying to get my attention. I am so tired of stupid and oblivious people.
As for the phone trick, I do that all the time but I'm honest to god texting people or using the internet when I do. lol
 
In the shop I can usually start up a motorcycle or run a power tool but I can't avoid them forever, so I try to redirect them to some other person there and if that isn't possible I'll nicely have them put down their information and help them unload their machine; anything to get them on their way and me back to what I was first doing
 
LOL :laugh:
I just remembered one! This one works the best for musicians. So there was this Aspie in the marching band at my college for a few years and he was absolutely obnoxious. I mean, I felt bad but at the same time he was so opposite of me with his Aspie traits that I just couldn't handle it because I'm high functioning. Anyway, he had a crush on me briefly, and I think he never stopped liking me in that manner. I can just tell with some people. Body language can be soooo obvious. So one day I was at the "table of non productivity" in the music building as the music majors lovingly call it, and he was just driving me NUTS. One of my friends was on the other side of the table, so I glanced over at her, mouthed the words "SAVE ME!" without him noticing, and she just said out of nowhere with a slight laugh "ANNE, YOU SHOULD GO PRACTICE."

IT WORKED. :laugh:
 
Usually I say that I have homework. That one's not really an excuse though. Occasionally, I wear headphones and put the cord in my pocket. There have also been times where I've worn both earplugs and headphones, but turned the volume on my music all of the way up. It works.
 
I don't have any excuses. I don't need them, I just... don't socialise. Well, in fact, in a way, I use my Asperger's as the excuse.
 
I'm bad at coming up with excuses because I don't like to lie. Wish I could just tell people I'm just not up for something and I'll get them next time, but apparently that's rude. The only excuse I ever give usually is "I'm sick". I feel bad about lying anymore than that.
 
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