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Suspected, not diagnosed

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Katherine

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My name is Katherine, I'm 23 and I live in the US. The things that I've heard about aspergers over the last few years have all to some extent sounded like me. Last night someone said something that finally made me want to look it up. I took several different online quizes (I know they're not definitive) and scored on the high end for aspergers on all of them.

I'm not really sure what to do with this information. I don't know if it's worth it to try to be officially diagnosed. Or if I should tell anyone (I have already told my husband).

I guess at the moment I just need someone who will understand to talk to.

I've always been very awkward socially. I seem to miss things that others pick up on and I'm very uncomfortable talking with people I don't know well.

I've been told by many people that I rarely show facial expressions, even if I feel like I'm smiling my face looks blank. I don't show it if I'm excited or enjoying something and it really puts people off.

I've always felt a little bit broken, like there was a piece missing and I have almost no empathy for most people.

I manage to fake my way through social interactions sometimes, pretending to be interested in people and things that I know I'm supposed to care about, but it's tiring. I always have to talk myself into going to social occasions, even if I've been looking forward to them. Sometimes it's even hard to go to work because of all the people.

I'm a cashier, which isn't too bad most of the time because the interaction with each person is very short and usually the same over and over again, but even then some people end up looking at me like I'm not quite right.

There are other things, but this is getting to be a rather long introduction so I'll stop for now.

Hello!
 
Welcome to AC. One thing that really helped me as an aspie female was the book Aspergirl's by Rudy Simone. The other thing, was talking to people on here. The main reason for an official diagnosis is would it make resources for education, jobs, or disability available to you. If those aren't things that you are worried about, then its just a personal choice. The problem with getting an official diagnosis, is that it can be difficult to find a doctor who knows enough about asperger's, treats adults with it, and knows how it affects or presents itself in females. Also insurance doesn't always cover those doctors, so it can be alot of work and extra money or travel. But as you learn more about it, and talk to other aspies, there will come a point where you know more than most of the doctors. We are the only ones that know what is going on in our heads, and with asperger's we may have trouble putting words to what we feel, so sometimes it comes it comes down to seeing or hearing something someone else says and going oh wow me too.
 
Thank you for the response and the book suggestion. I really appreciate it.

The reasons you mentioned for getting a diagnosis really aren't anything I feel I need at the moment, so I guess that can wait a while.
 
Hi Katherine. Welcome to AC. I am also a women that has AS. It depends on why you want an official diagnosis. For me it was because it was nice to have the confirmation and the coping skills to learn how to deal with things better. You can also be entitled to help for it. I find that I don't tell people unless I am sure they are going to be more open Talking to other female aspies has been great for me. I hope that is the same for you.
 
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