Thank you everybody

[Shamar]

For the first time in as long as I can remember, I have made it through the social season (mid October through January first) without resorting to antidepressants or wanting to blow my brains out. I believe the reason is all the support I have gotten here, and all the potential support available here. Even counselors and therapists have not been able to manage this. Mind you, it still wasn't pleasant, but the least bad I can remember. I want to thank everybody for the support, reactions, likes, feedback, and comments I have received over the past year. You all made it possible.

Best wishes for the new year.

Shamar, AKA ******* ******* (I still like my anonymity)

 

[Mr. Stevens]

Your signature and avatar always make me smile. I hope you keep coping and feeling good. It's amazing what validation can do.

 

[Shamar]

Your signature and avatar always make me smile. I hope you keep coping and feeling good. It's amazing what validation can do.

Thank you. It has been several years since I last explained it, maybe about time I tell it again. The word "shamar" is an old Turkish word meaning "a slap to the face." I chose it as a forum name because I felt I was always being slapper in the face by society (the NTs). My first avatar was a profile of a face being hit by a metal gauntlet. After about six months, I came across the quote I now use as my signature. It resonated with me to an amazing degree. I realized I was always being judged by what I could not do, rather than what I could. As I wrote recently, do you say a surgeon is a bad doctor because he cannot run a marathon? Do you say an Olympic champion is a bad athlete because he can't carve a sculpture? Yet I was judged and shunted aside because I was unable to socialize, despite my skills as a geologist, geophysicist, and electronics tech. I designed my current avatar as a way of slapping them back.

 

[Aspychata]

Think what has helped me at this forum, are the others (like me), who think the same, and are willing to share their uncomfortable feelings, with fitting in, strangers, stims, social requirements. I feel less alone. Now l step back, gauge my response to poor social idiots who are just provoking period, and realise l don't need to contribute to their troll attitudes.

 

[Thinx]

I'm glad it's been less difficult this year, yes, good point about getting judged based on negatives. So unfair! All best wishes for a happier New year to you.

 

[Shamar]

Think what has helped me at this forum, are the others (like me), who think the same, and are willing to share their uncomfortable feelings, with fitting in, strangers, stims, social requirements. I feel less alone. Now l step back, gauge my response to poor social idiots who are just provoking period, and realise l don't need to contribute to their troll attitudes.

Aspychata, I think you nailed what I was trying to say. I feel less alone here. Again, thank you ....... Friends.