The aura of confidence

[Turk]

I pretty much am a mirror for society, in that what I see, I project. So it comes as no suprize, when im around confident people, I have a different energy. There is no pressure to drive anything, and it almost generates confidence in me. I admire this quality and its charisma generating powers. At times that I have shown my own level of confidence, people seem to interact differently with me. Theres a real edge taken off the awkwardness of situations. Its not something I can sustain, but it has spiked my interest. Im curious as to whether others have spotted this phenomenon, and whether they think its an Aspie specific effect. I

 

[Ste11aeres]

I'm sensitive to atmospheres and other people's energy. But mirroring it? That's beyond me.

 

[Loomis]

I believe confidence comes to you if you are not afraid and you accept yourself as you are. The opinions of other people are for the most part irrelevant. If you do not care what others think of you it is easy to be relaxed and confident. Self pity and chronic remorse are very destructive. Gratitude, self-acceptance, and living in the present are the best attitudes to nurture.

 

[Vanilla]

Well, I can't speak for all Aspies, but as I also mirror my world, this has helped me with my confidence, as I am surrounded by confident people in my family; especially my sister. I've definitely learned much from her, and probably couldn't have done it without her presence as a template for my own. Growing up, we've sort of balanced each other out.

 

[King_Oni]

Well, if anything I tend to find it easier to pick up certain attitudes when I'm around the right people... but that also extends to where I might pick up the wrong attitudes when I'm with the "right" people.

And while I think I'm stubborn enough to force my own attitude through, especially when around people that tend to air a certain... more "wrong" attitude, to not succumb to the full dose of their attitude (and adapt to theirs), it's exhausting to keep that shield up so to speak.

 

[wyverary]

For me, it depends on the company, and whether I get along well with them to begin with. While I can still be awkward and shy, with certain groups I can, especially, start to pick up on their dialect; that is to say, "speak their language." I'm not sure if that's precisely what this thread is about, but it is certainly one way I am able to "mirror" those around me. Perhaps it's because I've always been good with languages, that I've been able to catch on to their argot, inflection, etc.