the new undateables series is starting monday,anyone else like it?

[toothless]

i love the undateables,its featured some auties and many aspies over the various series,as well as people with other disabilities or impediments and for me its great to see autists and intellectually disabled people get some happiness.

have you seen it,and do you like it or dislike it?
i recommend downloading it if youve not seen it yet,i hate dating shows but i like this one.

 

[Kirsty]

for me its great to see autists and intellectually disabled people get some happiness.

Yes. It's the reason why I look forward to watching it every time it comes back. It starts again on 2nd January at 9pm. (channel four)

 

[Southern Discomfort]

I've watched an episode or two of it before. I thought it was quite good.

It's a programme that does make me think. Of course there are a lot of people who watch it and feel compassionate towards the people on the programme because of their failed past attempts and difficulties. But there's part of me that what's to ask these people if they themselves would date them, and would they date them without the prior knowledge of who they are given they've just watch a programme about them.

 

[Mr Allen]

I could probably go on it, seeing as the closest I ever got in 40 years to going on a date was going to the Odeon in 1989 with a girl from school.

 

[toothless]

Yes. It's the reason why I look forward to watching it every time it comes back. It starts again on 2nd January at 9pm. (channel four)

oh excellent,another fan! i wish some of those guys would come on AC or other disability related forums and help give tips on dating to our guys who want to date but struggle with it,so far ive never been in a community where a undateable contestant has come online in the 14 plus years ive been faffing about in the disabled community.

thankyou for mentioning the time kirsty! i really struggle with processing all the information from the tv advert,it took me a while to process they were saying it was on monday,my brain seems to seize up and stop functioning after that bit.

 

[toothless]

I've watched an episode or two of it before. I thought it was quite good.

It's a programme that does make me think. Of course there are a lot of people who watch it and feel compassionate towards the people on the programme because of their failed past attempts and difficulties. But there's part of me that what's to ask these people if they themselves would date them, and would they date them without the prior knowledge of who they are given they've just watch a programme about them.

youve got some great ideas there southern discomfort,i know if i wasnt so disconnected to humans and asexual and aromantic id date only people who were different,as they have often 'suffered' in their life from the impact their disability has on themselves in the community and the reaction to it from others, people like that tend to be more open minded i think well in my experience anyway.
there was a girl in the undateables who had tourettes and she shouted things like 'thundercats',if i was gay id see past her tics wouldnt give a damn about them as i see all humans as generic shapes of flesh,she seemed like a lovely person to know, years ago i was walking near a packed bus stop with two support staff and i saw a man in his late twenties holding the hand of a toddler,he was ticcing like mad verbally and physically and i knew straight away he was different and his son obviously accepted him as normal as he never flinched or looked at his dad,but everyone at the bus stop stared at him, i just thought-good for you mate your relieving your tics and not letting your tourettes stop you from being part of society like some people unfortunately do.

anyway....my waffling point is i would only go for someone whose different like the guy at the bus stop, i have been asked out on dates over the years by many people with down syndrome, and intellectual disability but ive had to let them down very gently because theyre usually old fashioned/traditionally minded and werent brought up around sexualities like asexual and aromantic [i have no interest in dating at all but i have wanted to try to see what my reaction would be].

sorry i have gone on to far yet again i apologise, would you go out with a disabled or neurolgically different person if you didnt know their details straight off,southern comfort?

 

[toothless]

I could probably go on it, seeing as the closest I ever got in 40 years to going on a date was going to the Odeon in 1989 with a girl from school.

the undateables is always looking for contestants,it would be well worth a go and could even lead to things like marriage if that was an interest-there was a special episode of the undateables which showed various contestants who were now married or were in the process of getting married, unfortunately i dont think any of them were autistic though it would have been more interesting to see an autistic marriage work out-what with all the negative stereotypes out there, especially when the man is autistic.

 

[Southern Discomfort]

would you go out with a disabled or neurolgically different person if you didnt know their details straight off,southern comfort?

If I was ready to commit to a relationship then yeah, I would think about it. I'd at least give them the time to know what they're like. I would only like to date a person is has a kind heart and morals. I wouldn't want to get in a relationship with someone who judges a lot of other people who they don't know based off what they look like.

There's also the side if they like me, I don't believe that people would date anyone just because they have a disability and it can be hard work to find a partner.

But I'm not entirely sure if I wanted to date someone who also have autism if I plan to have kids one day. I have no problem with the thoughts of having autistic kids but I'm not too sure if I would want the higher chance; I would want to give my offspring a fair chance to have an allistic or not neurotypical development. And from a scientific stand point I think it's better for us all if we diversify our genes when we can.

 

[Mr Allen]

If I was ready to commit to a relationship then yeah, I would think about it. I'd at least give them the time to know what they're like. I would only like to date a person is has a kind heart and morals. I wouldn't want to get in a relationship with someone who judges a lot of other people who they don't know based off what they look like.

There's also the side if they like me, I don't believe that people would date anyone just because they have a disability and it can be hard work to find a partner.

But I'm not entirely sure if I wanted to date someone who also have autism if I plan to have kids one day. I have no problem with the thoughts of having autistic kids but I'm not too sure if I would want the higher chance; I would want to give my offspring a fair chance to have an allistic or not neurotypical development. And from a scientific stand point I think it's better for us all if we diversify our genes when we can.

I would date an Aspie female, but someone who was otherwise mentally handicapped, all joking aside they'd have to be a bit mad to like a bloke like me anyway, but if they were Clinically insane, that would cause untold problems.

 

[Kirsty]

thankyou for mentioning the time kirsty! i really struggle with processing all the information from the tv advert,it took me a while to process they were saying it was on monday,my brain seems to seize up and stop functioning after that bit.

You're very welcome. I have put it down on my phone calendar and had set the alarm fifteen minutes before it starts. You could do this too.

 

[toothless]

You're very welcome. I have put it down on my phone calendar and had set the alarm fifteen minutes before it starts. You could do this too.

didnt think of that one -excellent idea thankyou,i just have to charge the damn thing,ive left it dead for ages.

 

[Kirsty]

Remember, it's on very soon.

 

[Kirsty]

It's on again tonight at 9pm.

 

[Aeolienne]

I find it striking that none of the participants are told stuff like "You're too young to worry about having a boyfriend/girlfriend", "Relationships come along when you least expect it" or "Just join a club" etc. Because I had all that when I was way older than them.

There was a female student from Loughborough University in the first episode. One wouldn't have thought it would be so difficult to find a boyfriend in such a male-dominated establishment. Unless she has something against engineers? Her loss.

 

[Mr Allen]

Sorry to top an old thread but I watched this last night and have applied to go on it, filled in the thing, and emailed it back, but I just get automated emails back with another application form.

Is there another email address I should be sending completed form to?

I rang up yesterday to apply, but they did say it could be a while before I hear back from them.

 

[Sylar]

I don't think the current series has been as good as the others. I've been rewatching them all on the All 4 app and there were so many memorable people and moments that have been lacking this year. Looking forward to the new catch up episode to see how things worked out. It looks like the poet that has appeared in a few episodes didn't work out with the woman from his writing workshop.

I've seen so many episodes in one go that my mum asked me if I wanted to go on it. I'd like to be set up on a date but I'm not a fan of the idea of the entire thing being recorded and shown on tv. If I'm honest a few of the women on the show have been cute as heck and I'd consider myself lucky to have gone on a date with them. Maybe I should apply... who knows.

 

[Mr Allen]

I don't think the current series has been as good as the others. I've been rewatching them all on the All 4 app and there were so many memorable people and moments that have been lacking this year. Looking forward to the new catch up episode to see how things worked out. It looks like the poet that has appeared in a few episodes didn't work out with the woman from his writing workshop.

I've seen so many episodes in one go that my mum asked me if I wanted to go on it. I'd like to be set up on a date but I'm not a fan of the idea of the entire thing being recorded and shown on tv. If I'm honest a few of the women on the show have been cute as heck and I'd consider myself lucky to have gone on a date with them. Maybe I should apply... who knows.

Go on go for it, don't let the fact it's on National TV put you off, you might find true love!

 

[Sylar]

It's a shame Alex and Eloise split up after 2 years because he said he loved her.

I was rewatching every episode on the All4 app and found out Sam (from series 2 episode 2) had died in 2015. They'd edited in an "in memory of" tribute at the end of the episode which originally aired in 2013.

 

[Aeolienne]

It's a shame Alex and Eloise split up after 2 years because he said he loved her.

There are some people of the Digital Spy forums accusing Eloise of having strung Alex along. I think that's a little harsh, seeing as she probably hadn't had much relationship experience before him. One could say that Alex is as much to blame for not having sensed that Eloise wasn't really responding to him after nearly two years together, but then again if he wasn't that experienced either... Perhaps one could say that they were both victims of societal expectations. I mean, if you had an extroverted Aspie woman dating a man who never initiated affection and left her to make all the decisions, you can bet your bottom dollar that her friends and family would all be saying "He's not that into you" or "You two need to talk, to see where you think this relationship is going".

Sorry if this sound really radical feminist, but I for one would love to see an Undateables set-up in which the woman takes the lead, just for once. It's disappointing that these so-called "remarkable" singletons, for all their claims to see the world differently, are just as constrained by gender norms.

I was rewatching every episode on the All4 app and found out Sam (from series 2 episode 2) had died in 2015. They'd edited in an "in memory of" tribute at the end of the episode which originally aired in 2013.

Is that Sam the Down syndrome actor from Kent?

 

[Sylar]

Is that Sam the Down syndrome actor from Kent?

No, it was Sam the psychologist with dwarfism. She was the extreme sports fan who took her date skydiving. I've not been able to find out how she died, reports just say she died suddenly and unexpectedly so I'm assuming it wasn't a known illness or anything. Sad all the same.

And unless I'm mistaken, I think it was both Alex's and Eloise's first dates ever, or in a few years. I guess they both kind of got carried away by getting along with each other and only seeing each other once or twice a month, they both seemed confused about what the relationship was until he wanted to take it further.