The Oversharer

[rach3rd]

Though it sounds like an episode title from Seinfeld, oversharing is something I’ve always struggled with. I simply don’t have good boundaries on what is appropriate to tell other people. For example, I might tell a complete stranger details from a current issue. Strangely, I have no problem keeping confidences. Does anyone else struggle with this?

 

[Aspychata]

Yes. I have struggled especially if stressed out. I try to talk thru my stress which is stupid.

Like talking helps me forget certain daily frustration with people. Trying to exercise regularly again to deal with this.

 

[Luca]

Yes. This is 100% me (it's obvious from looking through my posts on this forum lol). I never stop talking, especially irl, and it drives people crazy. I am generally not very trusting of people I meet in real life, but once I reach a "comfort" place with any new person (it's like those memes that say "I'm quiet at first, but when you get to know me, I never shut up"- that's my reality), I reveal things I definitely shouldn't... especially things that I should probably keep to myself, like talking openly about bodily functions or things like my bra/binder size, or going into too much detail about medical procedures I've had.
I'm way less careful on the Internet... I kinda just blab whatever pops into my head and then I re-read it later and I'm like "Why would I say that?? People are going to think I'm nuts... or stupid." I have very disorganized thoughts, and years of psychological trauma and being physically unwell kinda fried my brain so I don't think at all before I speak most of the time. I speak much faster than I think. When my brain catches up, I usually have a "facepalm" moment... this is why people seem to get the impression that I'm really naive and simple-minded or just dumb.
This post is again proof that I am an oversharer
Edit: Like the OP, I have no issues with keeping things private that people told me in confidence, and I don't talk behind people's backs. This is just a "me" issue lol.

 

[Suzanne]

Yes, I am like this too and also, can keep confidences; however have tended to break that confidence, in saying something that I think is going to help that person and ends up, the opposite.

Due to a terrible experience, involved with me trying to be decent to all, I actually did the opposite and that caused me to realise that I must work on deplomacy and it is working. However, it is hard work, because it is not my nature, but then again, neurotypicals are no different in that respect.

 

[SDRSpark]

Yep, definitely. I'm embarrassed about it, but I have never managed to catch myself before doing it.

Yes, I am like this too and also, can keep confidences; however have tended to break that confidence, in saying something that I think is going to help that person and ends up, the opposite.

I can keep secrets if I know that it's a secret. This is where I screw up. Not knowing that something is meant to be a secret. I guess it's assumed that I'll just instinctively know what's to be shared and what isn't.

 

[Rasputin]

Though it sounds like an episode title from Seinfeld, oversharing is something I’ve always struggled with. I simply don’t have good boundaries on what is appropriate to tell other people. For example, I might tell a complete stranger details from a current issue. Strangely, I have no problem keeping confidences. Does anyone else struggle with this?

I struggle with this also, and am frequently reminded by my wife to not disclose anything. She is the opposite, and shares nothing even with friends. I tend to be too trustful, while she is distrustful of everyone.

I do not disclose information that friends tell me in confidence.

 

[watersprite]

Yes it is one of the reasons my husband would get mad at me. And yet like you @rach3rd I am completely fine keeping a confidence when someone wants that.
I think (?) one of the reasons I share so much detail is to get feedback and perspective. The issue of boundaries is one I struggle with; it seems to go for black to white not enough gray.

 

[Soleil]

I don't think I overshare that much. In most conversations I'm so uncomfortable that I say very little and undershare. In situations where I am comfortable, or in writing (writing is so much easier than speaking), then I have a tendency to go off on tangents if it happens to be slightly related to a subject I like. I just get excited over the chance to talk about it, and I forget that it's not really relevant to the subject at hand.