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The Pure and Tragic Romantic History of Saint Valentine's Day

Yeshuasdaughter

You know, that one lady we met that one time.
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Long ago, The Roman Empire had extended its borders to all the known world. But as it stretched its fingers into further and further territory, it began to lose its grip. What it meant to be Roman was changing. The neighbors and newly conquered citizens were not so happy to be under the shadow of Palatine Hill.

Celtic, Germanic, and African tribes fought off Roman legions, and invaded her soil with ever increasing frequency. Emperors at this point were practically only Year-Kings. Quickly killed off and the throne usurped or bribed.

In the third century, A.D., towards the end of the unified Roman Empire, Emperor Claudius, a paranoid, and ruthless leader, who had killed dozens of senators, and forced hundreds of others close to him to be executed or commit suicide, had found himself with a ring of heathen fire around the borders of his empire.

There were too many wars and not enough soldiers. His solution was grim. Emperor Claudius sent forth a decree that every single marriage in The Roman Empire was to be dissolved, and no new marriages were to be performed anywhere in the empire. All able bodied male citizens were ordered to join the Roman Army.

Enter Valentine.

A quiet doctor who later became a Catholic Priest, Father Valentine was a native of Italy. He would take couples deep into the forest, and there they would be married, with the canopy of stars and clouds as their Cathedral and witnesses.

Eventually, he was arrested for disobeying the Emperor's edict, and thrown in prison. He wrote letters to many of his congregants, and to the couples he had wed, teaching them of the love of Christ, and urging them to stay close to Him, and keep Christ as the center of their marriage, and to emulate Him in all their relationships with others.

He also would speak with the jailer, named Asterious, and impressed him with his knowledge and unconditional love and bravery. Asterious asked Father Valentine if he would tutor his blind daughter, Julia. So, there in the prison cell, sat Father Valentine and Julia. He'd read to her and teach her things that no one else would take time to do. He treated her like a human being, as worthy of education as anyone, regardless of disability.

Eventually Emperor Claudius heard of Father Valentine, and was so moved by the stories he heard of this self-sacrificing priest, that he offered to release him, if he would renounce his love for Christ, and bow to Roman gods. Valentine refused. Emperor Claudius sentenced him to death.

Before he was killed, he sent the very first "Valentine". He wrote to sweet Julia, and encouraged her to stay with her studies, and to keep Christ in her heart. He thanked her for being his friend, and signed it with love, "From, Your Valentine".

So on February 14, 270, Father Valentine was martyred. From the courthouse, he was dragged through the streets, beaten with clubs and stoned by an angry mob, and then beheaded in front of everyone.

The people of The Roman Empire were so moved by the story of Saint Valentine, that it became a trend among young men and women, and among the couples he had wed, to give each other love notes, and gifts on the anniversary of his Martyrdom, February 14. They were always signed in his honor, "With Love, From Your Valentine".

And at the site of his grave, young Julia, who truly loved Father Valentine, had an almond tree planted there. Each spring, the wind would cause it to rain pink petals down onto the resting place of her dearest friend. To this day, the almond tree is a symbol of unfailing love and devotion.

Happy Valentine's Day.
 
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This reminds me of a song of true love of others and what a small thing can do to show it.
It isn't a romantic song. Just a song of loneliness and connection.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

 
The Romans were very based

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Thank you for the history, @Yeshuasdaughter.

My Valentine husband gave me a 5 pound can of toasted pecans, some roasted with spices, some sugarcoated, some plain, and some covered in chocolate. I'll gain 10 pounds if I eat all those by myself. My Valentine to him will be to cook a leg of lamb, a potato gratin, and grilled asparagus with lemon garlic butter sauce for dinner. If I eat that, too, I'll gain another 10 pounds. :eek::):hearteyes::kissingheart:

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone!
 
The version I'm familiar with is that Valentine lived later, under the reign of Diocletian, the last pagan emperor of Rome. Diocletian sentenced Valentine to death, as in your version, but abruptly abdicated before the sentence could be carried out. When Constantine won the throne, he freed Valentine.

It's possible I may be mixing up Valentine with another Christian, but the above is the version I am thinking of off the top of my head. The rest of the story lines up with what I remember-the emperor banned marriage because the empire needed soldiers, Valentine married Christian couples in secret, and was imprisoned for it.
 
The version I'm familiar with is that Valentine lived later, under the reign of Diocletian, the last pagan emperor of Rome. Diocletian sentenced Valentine to death, as in your version, but abruptly abdicated before the sentence could be carried out. When Constantine won the throne, he freed Valentine.

It's possible I may be mixing up Valentine with another Christian, but the above is the version I am thinking of off the top of my head. The rest of the story lines up with what I remember-the emperor banned marriage because the empire needed soldiers, Valentine married Christian couples in secret, and was imprisoned for it.

Actually we were both wrong. It's Emperor Claudius II. There were a few martyrs named Valentine, and different stories told of him. The one I told is one of the earliest documented. When stories are that old, it's hard to tell what is legend and what is history. All that matters in the story is what he did for others, for the sake of love, deep in the forest, his selfless sacrifice to God, who truly is Love, and his love for Julia that was both a friendship and true love affection. It wasn't until after the first millennium AD that priests were forbidden to marry, and had he been released, I like to think that they would have had their happily ever after too.
 
Valentine's day reminds me of all the special men l have met in my lifetime. But that was a beautiful story to read about.
 
Roman? He (Kevin McKidd) looks like a Scotsman to me. :p

Odd that Romans believed red-headed people to be a sign of good luck. Guess it meant they weren't the afternoon entertainment at the coliseum.

Isn't that why Barney rubbed Opie's head all the time?! :p
 
https://www.npr.org/2011/02/14/133693152/the-dark-origins-of-valentines-day
Though no one has pinpointed the exact origin of the holiday, one place to start is ancient Rome.


The Romans' celebrations were violent​


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A drawing depicts the death of St. Valentine — one of them, anyway. The Romans executed two men by that name on Feb. 14 of different years in the third century.
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From Feb. 13 to 15, the Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia. The men sacrificed a goat and a dog, then whipped women with the hides of the animals they had just slain.


The Roman romantics "were drunk. They were naked," Noel Lenski, now a religious studies professor at Yale University, told NPR in 2011. Young women would line up for the men to hit them, Lenski said. They believed this would make them fertile.


For Valentine's Day, the Bronx Zoo lets you name a roach after your sweetheart

Valentine's Day


For Valentine's Day, the Bronx Zoo lets you name a roach after your sweetheart


The brutal fete included a matchmaking lottery in which young men drew the names of women from a jar. The couple would then be, um, coupled up for the duration of the festival — or longer, if the match was right.


The ancient Romans may also be responsible for the name of our modern day of love. Emperor Claudius II executed two men — both named Valentine — on Feb. 14 of different years in the third century. Their martyrdom was honored by the Catholic Church with the celebration of St. Valentine's Day.
 

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