The Sad Aspect Of Aspergers

[total-recoil]

Just got back from a meal out with my family as it was my aunt's birthday. Normally I never go out with family and prefer to spend time with the dog or studying or riding my bike and so on. Anyway, there I was twiddling my mobile phone, not finding the real enthusiasm to make small talk. It struck me just how alienated I have now become from family and friends and I was thinking that in a way it's kind of sad.
My best friend before he died had aspergers and I recall how strained his own relationships were with his parents. His sister was normal and married someone so moved out to live with her husband and was probably considered normal. My friend's relations with his mother were particularly strained which I suspected was a two-way thing. He was very talented too and had been on T.V. performing as lead guitarist with a rock band many years ago. Ironically he had been actually diagnosed with aspergers by a psychologist but never told me about it and I myself never knew back then that I also had H.F.A.
Anyway, as I said, it struck me as a bit sad to be there with my family but like a stranger. Something else that's odd I think is the aspie son or aspie daughter is always like the " ugly duckling" of the family. My brother always gets help and money given to help him out and is considered normal and successful whereas I get far more ignored and can't recall anyone in my family doing a great deal to help me out. So, the downside is I think it does estrange you from family circles. KInd of sad really but I think by this stage I just accepted how things are and not really sure if anything can be done about it at this point in time.

 

[Gomendosi]

I totally agree with this post, I also have noted the lack of familial attachment as time goes on and I also have a brother that is "the golden child" who appears to get/ have everything.

It is sad after a fashion that we can?t even identify with our own tribe so to speak, but then again, I also believe that that doesn?t have to continue to be the case.
lately I have been trying to repair my relationship with my mother as my father has already died and It dawned on me then that when she [mother] dies I will be truly alone, despite not liking her all that much now I feel I should take what family interaction I can get while I am able, as much as it pains me.

I am of the opinion that it is better to be annoyed and frustrated with a family member or friend now, than be miserable thinking about all I missed out on when they're gone.

 

[total-recoil]

I agree totally. It's good you (like me) are more aware of your mother. This is how I felt and I hope to somehow repair the rift.

I totally agree with this post, I also have noted the lack of familial attachment as time goes on and I also have a brother that is "the golden child" who appears to get/ have everything.

It is sad after a fashion that we can’t even identify with our own tribe so to speak, but then again, I also believe that that doesn’t have to continue to be the case.
lately I have been trying to repair my relationship with my mother as my father has already died and It dawned on me then that when she [mother] dies I will be truly alone, despite not liking her all that much now I feel I should take what family interaction I can get while I am able, as much as it pains me.

I am of the opinion that it is better to be annoyed and frustrated with a family member or friend now, than be miserable thinking about all I missed out on when they're gone.