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The truth about cats and dogs

Kayla55

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In this sitcom comedy series that I want to write, I tackle relationship issues against the NT population, without disclosing my diagnosis....

Ironically we are labelled the social rejects and we do have relationship difficulty but here I tackle the less sadistic side of perceiving what the media never really confronts.

One episode is about a he who has constant lovers quarrels but refuses to sleep on the couch, (I've never seen movies display this frequent issue) so the girlfriend sleeps in the couch.

The next issue is portrayed in humourous way about a guy who puts women down to deal with his deep insecurities, and shows a life like portrayal

The next few series are hilarious about what NT men do when given trouble-shooting situations without given answers....so mostly it's like DIY around house, he can't get it fixed and ways that his personal covers up and reacts to his girlfriend's questions.

Etc.
I hope this is perceived as lightening up your aspie day, realising Hollywood really goes over the top and that it has little bearing on reality.
 
It's all in the presentation. So far, Hollywood and most commercials and comedic shows, tend to present the heterosexual, masculine man as the "butt of the joke" for the purposes of laughs. We went through all that phase for the past 30-40 years, and as a man, it could be a bit relatable, having known a few men doing a few, isolated, stupid, dangerous things, or perhaps a few, isolated, so called, "toxic" behaviors,...but of course, when every TV show, advertising commercial, and movie is doing it for laughs, repeatedly, for years, it gets really old, and all humor is lost. It was never that "what was done" or the "situation" was funny,...No,...it had a much deeper meaning, an edge to the comedy,...and that was the character in the scene just couldn't help it because he was a masculine, heterosexual man. Worse, it was the man who worked with his hands, drove a truck, sat in cubical behind a computer screen, who worked all day in a job he really didn't like, every day, because he had a loyal duty and responsibility to his family. Then, to come home to a family that loved him, whilst making fun of him in some way, every episode of the show.

News flash: If you want to destroy a man,...I mean really destroy a man to his core,...disrespect him for being who he is, a masculine man. Hollywood culture systematically destroyed heterosexual, masculine men, little by little, laugh after laugh, for decades. Never, would you do this to a woman,...just make her the repeated butt of the joke, at a cultural level, for just being a feminine woman.

So, my advice, dig a little deeper into the characters. Situational comedy is awesome when done right, with attention to why the situation was funny, rather than making a "poke" at the character for being who he/she is. Steer away from stereotypes.

I know you wanted this thread to be uplifting, perhaps. Funny perhaps. Encouraging perhaps. Apologies for seeming a bit "sensitive" about this, but seriously, I've witnessed this cultural transition in our media, and our country, for the past 50+ years, and it has slowly picked away at what it means to be a man in our society, and it has had devastating, serious results for men, women, and families.
 
In this sitcom comedy series that I want to write, I tackle relationship issues against the NT population, without disclosing my diagnosis....

Ironically we are labelled the social rejects and we do have relationship difficulty but here I tackle the less sadistic side of perceiving what the media never really confronts.

One episode is about a he who has constant lovers quarrels but refuses to sleep on the couch, (I've never seen movies display this frequent issue) so the girlfriend sleeps in the couch.

The next issue is portrayed in humourous way about a guy who puts women down to deal with his deep insecurities, and shows a life like portrayal

The next few series are hilarious about what NT men do when given trouble-shooting situations without given answers....so mostly it's like DIY around house, he can't get it fixed and ways that his personal covers up and reacts to his girlfriend's questions.

Etc.
I hope this is perceived as lightening up your aspie day, realising Hollywood really goes over the top and that it has little bearing on reality.
Hollywood, the endless mysteries behind it that are hidden, tens, thousands of surgeries to make the people look "better," photoshop, voices never being live for e.g. for Britney Spears, the drama of the Pussycat Dolls worked to death for very low payment, with the rest of the Dolls never being able to use their singing talents they were recruited for but to dance even with zero training... Hollywood knows how to lie to the public, to make this false desirable image and earn big.
 
It's all in the presentation. So far, Hollywood and most commercials and comedic shows, tend to present the heterosexual, masculine man as the "butt of the joke" for the purposes of laughs. We went through all that phase for the past 30-40 years, and as a man, it could be a bit relatable, having known a few men doing a few, isolated, stupid, dangerous things, or perhaps a few, isolated, so called, "toxic" behaviors,...but of course, when every TV show, advertising commercial, and movie is doing it for laughs, repeatedly, for years, it gets really old, and all humor is lost. It was never that "what was done" or the "situation" was funny,...No,...it had a much deeper meaning, an edge to the comedy,...and that was the character in the scene just couldn't help it because he was a masculine, heterosexual man. Worse, it was the man who worked with his hands, drove a truck, sat in cubical behind a computer screen, who worked all day in a job he really didn't like, every day, because he had a loyal duty and responsibility to his family. Then, to come home to a family that loved him, whilst making fun of him in some way, every episode of the show.

News flash: If you want to destroy a man,...I mean really destroy a man to his core,...disrespect him for being who he is, a masculine man. Hollywood culture systematically destroyed heterosexual, masculine men, little by little, laugh after laugh, for decades. Never, would you do this to a woman,...just make her the repeated butt of the joke, at a cultural level, for just being a feminine woman.

So, my advice, dig a little deeper into the characters. Situational comedy is awesome when done right, with attention to why the situation was funny, rather than making a "poke" at the character for being who he/she is. Steer away from stereotypes.

I know you wanted this thread to be uplifting, perhaps. Funny perhaps. Encouraging perhaps. Apologies for seeming a bit "sensitive" about this, but seriously, I've witnessed this cultural transition in our media, and our country, for the past 50+ years, and it has slowly picked away at what it means to be a man in our society, and it has had devastating, serious results for men, women, and families.
I read a book on why feminists and single mom's destroy men and it did seem odd, I suppose women even black people are whole Lotta more **** before breaking edge,
Maybe attitude of 'never expecting a women to amount to much More's isn't a concept in male ego of being condescending.
Not nasty but I was surprised to hear men were less tough than nails in that they were never subjected to equal of what done to women before complaining.
Now a melt down probably isn't testosterone but ego in this subject must be...
Laugh: if you tried to milk the bull don't expect complacency!
 
I read a book on why feminists and single mom's destroy men and it did seem odd, I suppose women even black people are whole Lotta more **** before breaking edge,
Maybe attitude of 'never expecting a women to amount to much More's isn't a concept in male ego of being condescending.
Not nasty but I was surprised to hear men were less tough than nails in that they were never subjected to equal of what done to women before complaining.
Now a melt down probably isn't testosterone but ego in this subject must be...
Laugh: if you tried to milk the bull don't expect complacency!
To be clear,...very clear,...there is "bad behavior",...aka, the so-called "toxic masculinity" that needs to go away, for sure. I tend to attribute this to what I call the "beta male", the type of guy who has to pick away at a woman's self-esteem as a means of making himself somehow "above her", to enhance his ego. I have two sisters that men did this to them, and if I ever see them again,... So, please, please do not get masculinity confused with "toxic masculinity" because they are two very different things. There is also "toxic femininity" as well, bad behavior that can make women look bad, as well. We have to separate bad behavior from good behavior. No woman wants a "beta male" in her life, that, I am sure. Men can be "tough as nails", especially if they have a duty and a responsibility to a wife and family. Any couple that has had a conflict over time spent with her and the family,...or the job that supports the wife and family, knows this. Call it what you will, I haven't had anyone describe it accurately, but I would never cross an "alpha male" with a wife and family. He's going to be supportive of his wife, in every way. He's going to be a loving father. He's going to work his tail off, even in a job he hates, because he has a duty and a responsibility to them.

My wife is quite the feminist, herself. She has her career. She makes her own money. She doesn't need me, and yet she hasn't left me, in part,...because I am the guy who has a duty and a responsibility to her and the family. She knows that if the $%^& hits the fan, I am going to be there. Most feminists love to blame testosterone and ego on all this. I can tell you straight up it's something far more than that when it comes to being a good man.

My point in my first post was the cautionary tale of systematically destroying a group of people, even if it's through humor. Yes, if you look at the shocking statistics, men have been destroyed in this society, from suicides to just plain giving up on getting a job, to education, to the penitentiary system, so on and so forth. You've got a large group of men essentially removed from the dating pool, a lot of dissatisfied women and men,...and children, an epidemic of divorce,...it's not good. Both men and women need to be "built up" and supported in order for the "system" to work, and you certainly don't create "equality" by creating a system where one is favored, or even "knocked down a peg" in order for it to happen. Hopefully, we've learned from our past mistakes and start raising little boys and girls with the same level of support, allowing them to be who they are, and not trying to create "equality' by treating each the same.
 
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