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Therapy as a married adult

atrocityexhibition

atrocityexhibition

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If this thread is redundant, I won't be offended if it gets removed, BUT:

How many people here are married and have attended therapy for aspie behaviors/tendencies that cause conflict in their marriages (or long-term relationships)? I will be going in two weeks, but I'm doing it more to make my wife happy than anything else.

She knows what she's in for, we've been married for two years, and isn't trying to change who I am or the fact that I am an aspie, but wants me to talk to someone about my organization and normalizing routines and all that.

Has anyone here had any success with non-medication psychotherapy with bad habits/behaviors developed as a result of aspergers? I'm super skeptical, but am doing it to show I'm adult enough to bite that bullet.
 
I applaud you for going in the name of saving your marriage, but I also feel that such a closed mind may not have room for learning. Therapy is not always about how to change your habits, but learning more of how we, and our behaviors are perceived and felt by others. I too attended to save my marriage, and felt as though my wife was the one with the problem. She was, but so was I. I learned a lot about how the things I did made her feel, and I came to realize that I could do things different that would really be a big deal to her. There was much we did not understand about how the other thought and felt, especially with her being an NT.
We have both come a long way, and a marriage I thought was doomed a year ago, has come back to life and is exciting again. We now accept and respect each other, and have ways of dealing with controversy that we both agree are fair. We have rules (or guidelines), and have bot stepped out of our comfort zone, to find that there is much to be explored and enjoyed out there.
I know you will do your best, and I wish you all the luck my friend.
PS. In full disclosure, this is the third marriage for us both, and so we have a lot of experience.
 
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