Therapy or Exercises to Stop Repetitive Speech

[Rasputin]

I was just illustrating a technique to transfer knowledge to a co-worker, and she commented several times about me repeating myself. I just apologized and said it was a bad habit. I know my wife and her sister complain about this all of the time.

Does anyone else on this forum have this problem? Is there any training or therapy for people with ASD to alleviate repetitious speech?

 

[Raggamuffin]

I repeat myself a lot. I don't find it that bothersome. Strange really, as I mask a lot around people.

Sometimes people point it out. It's never confrontational and so I don't feel like I need to change this behaviour. Besides, I grew up around my parents telling me the same stories and discussing the same topics for years.

I'm sure there must be some form of CBT or maybe speech therapy that could alleviate this if you find it bothersome.

Ed

 

[Aspychata]

I definitely do. It's painful. I am working on not interrupting, talking way less, and less joking with bosses and supervisors unless they are on the spectrum. But l listen well.

 

[Mia]

I have that habit, I like the sound of words and often repeat them to myself usually not out loud. It's something to do with the sound of them, and having difficulty pronouncing certain words, so I rehearse them not to mispronounce them. Either aloud or internally.

Liking the sound of certain words and rythms when I speak, I repeat them almost like a stim. My husband does the same and I find nothing whatsoever problematic with that. There's some connection with ASD there, as both of us do it.

Often repeat myself, as my husband lost a great deal of his ability to hear and wears hearing aids. And he often repeats himself as well. I could not find fault with him for that, it would be cruel. As for criticism by other people, you might mention that you repeat to clarify to ensure that they understood what was said as people don't always listen very well.

 

[Rasputin]

I have that habit, I like the sound of words and often repeat them to myself usually not out loud. It's something to do with the sound of them, and having difficulty pronouncing certain words, so I rehearse them not to mispronunce them. Either aloud or internally.

Liking the sound of certain words and rythms when I speak, I repeat them almost like a stim. My husband does the same and I find nothing whatsoever problematic with that. There's some connection with ASD there, as both of us do it.

Often repeat myself, as my husband lost a great deal of his ability to hear and wears hearing aids. And he often repeats himself as well. I could not find fault with him for that, it would be cruel. As for criticism by other people, you might mention that you repeat to clarify to ensure that they understood what was said as people don't always listen very well.

The incident this morning involved someone who thinks very highly of herself, and would like nothing better than to criticize me behind my back to our boss.

 

[Els]

I do that too. The only thing you can do is realize you're doing it, because most likely you don't realize it. And also, try to check about the other person if you can remember it. If the person looks bored, most likely you must stop talking and find a question to ask so that you stop repeting yourself.
Most people think you repeat yourself while you're not, you just add more details - which might be necessary. Don't communicate about the details, find a way to say what's just needed and if it doesn't work the person will ask about the details, or make the mistake he's got to make anyway. If the person was bored while you were explaining something, most likely he/she wasn't listening anyway so it doesn't matter. Try to not explain too much and see if the other one asks questions. Don't bother too much. Just try to simplify as much as possible, unless you're invited to talk about the full thing.

 

[Aspychata]

I don't like to repeat but a question that didn't get answered, l will ask again.

 

[Els]

It's just like this. Just basically communicate like the first picture, even through it's blurry and incomplete. Give the full info (2nd picture) only if the person asks for it.
Some people care about the resolution, others will just care about the "Ps" thing and will find you repetitive if you try to define how it is in high resolution because all the wanted to know was the blurry "Ps" info. It really depends on different people, just try to be attentive to the character of the other person. If you know him/her for some time it's possible to know what he/she will care for and not care about.

 

[Juliettaa]

The incident this morning involved someone who thinks very highly of herself, and would like nothing better than to criticize me behind my back to our boss.

That says a lot about her being a 'nasty piece of work'. Rather than focusing on minimising repeating yourself, perhaps it might be worthwhile working on remembering a few quips to put her in her place when she criticises you next time.

It's very powerful watching someone cringe. Years ago, I was speaking to someone who was eating whilst talking (filthy habit) and I asked him to repeat what he'd said. He replied in a spiteful, cocky tone 'what's the matter, you deaf?'. I replied 'yes, I am and lipreading someone while they're eating is virtually impossible'. He was mortified and was practically on his knees with embarrassment.

Apology accepted. Don't do it again.

Oh, and yes, I repeat myself. And sometimes I repeat words that others have said. It's no big deal.

 

[Rasputin]

I just want to thank all of you for responding. I have learned a lot and made friends since joining this forum. I went from undiagnosed and unsure about ASD to being officially diagnosed and treated to the extent possible in five months.

It's good having a forum where you can ask these questions.

 

[Aspychata]

It's just like this. Just basically communicate like the first picture, even through it's blurry and incomplete. Give the full info (2nd picture) only if the person asks for it.
Some people care about the resolution, others will just care about the "Ps" thing and will find you repetitive if you try to define how it is in high resolution because all the wanted to know was the blurry "Ps" info. It really depends on different people, just try to be attentive to the character of the other person. If you know him/her for some time it's possible to know what he/she will care for and not care about.

I understand what you have defined. But for some of us, we repeat the exact sentence word for word. I have caught myself doing this. Some of it started in an abusive situation where the person ignored me completely. So then it was a habit and l notice l fell a little backwards and fell into it. I am not OCD, like not trying to control anything. It's more like a familiar pattern and l find comfort as l do it (reassuring stim). If a situation feels out of control or stressful, l repeat.

 

[Els]

I understand what you have defined. But for some of us, we repeat the exact sentence word for word. I have caught myself doing this. Some of it started in an abusive situation where the person ignored me completely. So then it was a habit and l notice l fell a little backwards and fell into it. I am not OCD, like not trying to control anything. It's more like a familiar pattern and l find comfort as l do it (reassuring stim). If a situation feels out of control or stressful, l repeat.

I do that too, I repeat things word for word or even repeat the sentence of the other person, or repeat the sentences that we said 5 minutes ago, or repeat "okay" "okay" "okay" while the other person is talking, I repeat myself like litterally all the time when I start a talk with someone.
What I explain there is about not starting a talk. When I don't try to explain something, then I don't repeat anything because I just give an information and I don't involve myself at all. I start explaining only if the other one wants me to, and when I do the other one must be prepaired that there will be repetitions anyway because I can't focus on explaining to him + taking care of how I explain the thing + his own feelings + other stuffs. If I start focusing, I start focusing, and yep, it will be complete, exhaustive, repetitive, and maybe boring.
I just check first it's worth communicating and explaining or if the other one just wants a simple blurry thing and doesn't care much about the repercussions of not having certain precise infos and make a poor job. I don't care for him either, so I just answer, end of story, going back to my stuff, not explaining anything, therefore not repeating anything. I just won't focus on the conversation we're having, and I would do that even more if the person told me I'm repeating myself and signifies he's bored. Well, your problem, not mine.
Someone who doesn't want to hear what I've got to say simply doesn't get repetitions because I won't involve myself at all. My conversations are rather expeditive at the moment, I don't bother unless people show interest, ask their questions, want to know the details and are ready to bear the monologue and repetitions. Otherwise, what I explain is just how I skip repeating myself to people who are obviously not involved.

 

[Aspychata]

The incident this morning involved someone who thinks very highly of herself, and would like nothing better than to criticize me behind my back to our boss.

I hate that when you are just fishing bait for a toxic person who is slamming you down on the desk in front of who they think is important. But one thing l see, is if they are stupid and reefer madness high on themselves, eventually they crash and burn. Because other people do see them full of themselves. In fact the bigger the douche bag, the more people she will slam, and then she is just impressing them with how big her ego is. Like you can go feed her insignificant data, see if she bites, and then goes and tells someone about whatever totally insignificant *fact* that is totally wrong. Then party time when she is gone.

 

[Rasputin]

I hate that when you are just fishing bait for a toxic person who is slamming you down on the desk in front of who they think is important. But one thing l see, is if they are stupid and reefer madness high on themselves, eventually they crash and burn. Because other people do see them full of themselves. In fact the bigger the douche bag, the more people she will slam, and then she is just impressing them with how big her ego is. Like you can go feed her insignificant data, see if she bites, and then goes and tells someone about whatever totally insignificant *fact* that is totally wrong. Then party time when she is gone.

I can tune her out. It would not be in my best interest to say anything. I will be more conscious of and more deliberate in my speech. Thanks for you comments

 

[Gracey]

I can repeat myself, words, phrases, sounds.
It can be comforting for me in the same way some comfort-eat. Same effect I think.

I lack the capacity to elaborate from a different perspective when truly anxious and will likely repeat my first answer, if asked again to explain.
(my answer makes sense to me )

One way around it is to ask which part of my answer they weren't sure about?
I may be able to elaborate on how I arrived at my conclusion/answer if it's broken down into smaller pieces.

If that woman is critiquing the way you speak,
tell her to 'do one' and it's insulting.

If she just didn't understand your idea/answer, ask her which part she didn't understand and how she'd do it differently?

Personally I wouldn't be searching for techniques to change something that isn't wrong.

 

[Thinx]

I don't think anyone would be rude enough to say that unless they wanted to upset you or make you feel undermined. Feedback that is intended to be constructive is not delivered in that way. Maybe next time she says anything unpleasant, you could say, would you like me to help you understand how to offer constructive feedback?

 

[Aspychata]

I can repeat myself, words, phrases, sounds.
It can be comforting for me in the same way some comfort-eat. Same effect I think.

I lack the capacity to elaborate from a different perspective when truly anxious and will likely repeat my first answer, if asked again to explain.
(my answer makes sense to me )

One way around it is to ask which part of my answer they weren't sure about?
I may be able to elaborate on how I arrived at my conclusion/answer if it's broken down into smaller pieces.

If that woman is critiquing the way you speak,
tell her to 'do one' and it's insulting.

If she just didn't understand your idea/answer, ask her which part she didn't understand and how she'd do it differently?

Personally I wouldn't be searching for techniques to change something that isn't wrong.

I am going to follow that: "just do one" (without me). Without giving directions with your middle finger. Lol

 

[Adora]

I have a habit of doing this and my husband has told me that I am repeating myself on a few occasions. Sometimes I may do it if I feel like my point isn’t coming across, but there are times where I do not realise I’m doing it and it’s a habit I have had for years.

 

[Aspychata]

Think now l step back and think, yes, this person is going to sink their own boat. You just count the days and step back. I told a coworker, we need popcorn so we can just watch.

 

[Jumpback]

I’m slightly confused about what people are referring to

I haven’t known anyone on the spectrum personally except probably a math professor. I think that he did repeat short phrases. Like he would say something about sine cosine something and then repeat the exact same phrase a few seconds later. Is the sort of thing that the majority of you guys are talking about?

I have a habit of doing this and my husband has told me that I am repeating myself on a few occasions. Sometimes I may do it if I feel like my point isn’t coming across, but there are times where I do not realise I’m doing it and it’s a habit I have had for years.

Yes, I do this, but not all that often. Or in a sense of making sure someone has heard me

My ex-gf told me I repeat myself because I would go on about the same subject in slightly different ways. Like I think that I have mentioned Edward Bernays on here 3 times. I do this because he is the “father of proganda” and I’ve been thinking a lot about proganda and advertising and social messages. I don’t know if this applies or not. Just curious because I fit this incredibly well in some ways and not so well in others.

Or, maybe a shorter way to put it is that the math professor repeated himself in more compulsive way, but mine is more like obsessive.