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To Stay In The New Knitting Group Or Not To Stay

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Grumpy Cat

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Ok. I'll try to make this problem brief. Me and my friend Mary started going to this new knitting/crochet group a few weeks ago. We thought we would meet people who knew some things that we didn't and learn something. We've went three out of four times so far. I haven't learned anything yet - actually my projects are already more advanced than the others. Then I thought it was just me, but Mary picked up on it too - the woman that started the group has said a few snide comments to me that I pretty much just let roll off my back and went on with life thinking that I might have been making too much out of it, but if Mary picked up on her comments then she really is treating me rude without a reason. I wasn't able to make the meeting last week, but I sent her an email saying I wasn't able to make it and also apologized. At the first meeting, she made a few weird comments about my nursing degree which I thought were strange, but I didn't say anything.

My question is now that I know from a third person that the main woman is treating me different and I'm not learning anything new, should I continue going to the group?
 
What would be the goal of your staying? I don't see the benefit of doing so, unless it's socialization for socialization's sake.
 
Why should you leave just because somebody's picking on you?

Don't let other people dictate how you live your life. I used to do that because I was too afraid to be myself. It is a truly miserable way to live.
 
nurseangela said:
My question is now that I know from a third person that the main woman is treating me different and I'm not learning anything new, should I continue going to the group?
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No- leave. Hobbies should be fun. Look for another group with others who simply want to share a hobby without all the aspects of an uptight social clique.
 
I wish there was an aspergers knitting group... I would go to that!

But - I probably wouldn't stay in that group if someone was not being nice. There are a lot of groups around. Or start your own!
 
I think you should stay if you want to and confront her, even if it dosnt end well you will feel better about yourself for saying your piece , then again some people will never admit to wrong doings
 
To put an end to this drama so no one will lose sleep at night wondering what happened......

I stopped going to the knitting group. I didn't see a reason to keep spending time with people that made me uncomfortable - like it was a competition about everything from what project was being worked on to who had the most prestigious job. I'd rather spend time with Waldo. I still think that knitting and crocheting are meant to be solo activities. Or maybe it's just that I don't like being around fake women. I would probably have a great time in a knitting group of men. :)
 
nurseangela said:
To put an end to this drama so no one will lose sleep at night wondering what happened......

I stopped going to the knitting group. I didn't see a reason to keep spending time with people that made me uncomfortable - like it was a competition about everything from what project was being worked on to who had the most prestigious job. I'd rather spend time with Waldo. I still think that knitting and crocheting are meant to be solo activities. Or maybe it's just that I don't like being around fake women. I would probably have a great time in a knitting group of men. :)
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I wouldn't mind learning to knit, Ibet its relaxing. In Norway neighboring to me many older men who were from fishing men families could knit out of necessity .
 
Andrew_Collins said:
I wouldn't mind learning to knit, Ibet its relaxing. In Norway neighboring to me many older men who were from fishing men families could knit out of necessity .
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That's what my friend Mary said. Knitting was actually started by men because they had to knit their fishing nets. It would be neat if more men knitted, but I think they may believe its too "girlie".
 
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