Toys in high school

[Jada Sekai]

If I talk to a doll in high school, it’ll make me look more bad right? People already hate me at school, so maybe I’ll make something new to talk about right (in a bad way)? I usually put my head down at lunch or read sometimes. Should I keep doing that instead?

 

[Crossbreed]

When I was your age, I sought out other [Aspies].

If allowed, the only toy that I brought with me was a Frisbee. I once made a rudimentary Frisbee out of a square piece of cardboard.

 

[Papillon]

Well I go to high school and people think I'm weird but I always have my dinosaur in my pocket when I leave the house and school is no exception, when people ask I just say why don't you have a dinosaur and they are just like fair and move on, if you need it and its gonna help you just go for it and don't worry what people think. I know school is hard and people are mean but people are gonna be mean regardless of if you take toys with your or not so theres that

 

[Furelise]

Growing up in mainstream and not special ed, I’m going to tell you right now, there’s a very good chance you will be made fun of or people will laugh. It sucks, and it’s wrong, but a lot of NT and even other autistic kids can be assholes.

It’s ultimately up to you though. If it calms you, I say go for it. That’s most important, what will keep you calm and focused on your work.

 

[ZebraAutismo]

I would brin. a doll when I was at school and now collage and bring it out when stressed but I was lucky to go to a well disciplined main stream school so no one picked on me about it.

 

[onlything]

I always take one of my stones with me. It's little and I can spin it under the table if need arises. If people don't see, they don't laugh.

 

[Butterfly88]

I would recommend bringing a stress ball instead of a doll. While you might like a doll better, you likely won't like how others treat you if they see you with a doll. A stress ball would likely be seen as more socially acceptable.

 

[ZebraAutismo]

I always take one of my stones with me. It's little and I can spin it under the table if need arises. If people don't see, they don't laugh.

My friend does the same. Hers have names and back stories though.

 

[Coupe]

I'm sorry to hear school isn't going well for you...that's really tough.

When I was in high school, I carried a bean bag dolphin in my purse....I never took her out, but the knowledge that she was in there and close by was reassuring. She was just my friend. These days I carry a small Tsum Tsum plush in my pocket, along with some other stim toys/objects like a Tangle toy or a worry stone. If you have a bag or backpack that your doll can travel in alongside you, or is small enough to fit inside a pocket, that might be the way to go. No one has to know your doll is there, then.

That being said, I'm certainly not trying to say that your wanting to bring your doll to school is "wrong" or "unusual" at all - on the contrary, I completely understand your need for that kind of companionship that dolls (and stuffed animals, toys, etc) can give when it is not forthcoming from other people. It's totally fine, and anyone at your school who gives you any sort of trouble over it should be ashamed of themselves. I still have residual emotional scars from when my stepfather found out I'd taken a small plushie of Stuart Little to school in 3rd grade and punished me by locking him in the car's glove compartment overnight. All these years later, I'm still not sure what he hoped to accomplish with that....such an action is more to be expected from your typical school bully or mean older sibling, not a parental figure. Anyway.....

I hope things get better for you as far as school is concerned (and just better in general), and that you're able to bring your doll with you to school w/out a problem, if that's what helps you feel more comfortable.

 

[Bella Pines]

Jada I know that school is a difficult climate when you have aspergers, I was there myself. At the time I hadn't really come into my talents and felt isolated and angry.

Now that was hard enough as it was, without making things worst. You are wasting time on other people, obsessing about them hating you, antagonizing them and deliberately making it worst.

It's not about a doll, or name calling, or even the way they look at you. You are at school to learn, both to study and to begin to understand yourself. What life can you imagine for yourself? How can you get there? What subjects interest you? Look to yourself and not to 'them', I assure you it is much more interesting.

 

[ZebraAutismo]

I'm sorry to hear school isn't going well for you...that's really tough.

When I was in high school, I carried a bean bag dolphin in my purse....I never took her out, but the knowledge that she was in there and close by was reassuring. She was just my friend. These days I carry a small Tsum Tsum plush in my pocket, along with some other stim toys/objects like a Tangle toy or a worry stone. If you have a bag or backpack that your doll can travel in alongside you, or is small enough to fit inside a pocket, that might be the way to go. No one has to know your doll is there, then.

That being said, I'm certainly not trying to say that your wanting to bring your doll to school is "wrong" or "unusual" at all - on the contrary, I completely understand your need for that kind of companionship that dolls (and stuffed animals, toys, etc) can give when it is not forthcoming from other people. It's totally fine, and anyone at your school who gives you any sort of trouble over it should be ashamed of themselves. I still have residual emotional scars from when my stepfather found out I'd taken a small plushie of Stuart Little to school in 3rd grade and punished me by locking him in the car's glove compartment overnight. All these years later, I'm still not sure what he hoped to accomplish with that....such an action is more to be expected from your typical school bully or mean older sibling, not a parental figure. Anyway.....

I hope things get better for you as far as school is concerned (and just better in general), and that you're able to bring your doll with you to school w/out a problem, if that's what helps you feel more comfortable.

I do that with Tsums Tsums and Tangle as well. That’s why I love zippy pockets.