Unable to Connect

[Rheanna]

I am not sure what to expect from this but I am stepping outside the comfort zone. I am 33y/o with one 6 y/o daughter. I have been married for 8 years. The discovery of Aspergers was very recent but with no surprise to me and most of my close relatives. It's seemed almost comical to attach a name to my oddities but I have embraced it. I want to know how people deal with the knowledge of knowing what sets us apart. I also have MDD, anxiety and ADD. A plithera of mental issues. My journey has been long and tough but honestly Aspergers, unlike the rest, came as a relief. I hope to find some understanding and advice I know some things will always come as a struggle but I long to find a way to cope and learn to be involved.

 

[Gritches]

That's a good question, about how we deal with knowing what sets us apart.

As with anything, people deal with it in their own individual ways. I can't speak for others, but I can tell you what I think:

I was diagnosed at 23, but prior to that I had always known I was different from everyone else and I was told I was different. Different took on many forms with different labels, many of them hurtful, but once I found out about Asperger's it was finally the correct label. So what I'm trying to say is that I deal with it by embracing it gladly, along with a healthy dose of being glad to be who I am, what I am, because to be normal is to be unremarkable.

Also, welcome!

 

[xudo]

Welcome

 

[Mia]

Hi Rheanna, welcome. Understanding/knowing has made me less hard on myself. I no longer blame my difficulties on simply not trying hard enough. Can make provisions for time to myself, avoid situations that cause panic and stress, or limit them. Giving me time to plan them out or figure out the least stressful way to do them. Understanding myself, has been helpful and freeing.

 

[Nitro]

 

[Streetwise]

are at the point where you are sick of trying to be neurotypical that is not autistic ,its a common factor in change
i was diagnosed 18 months ago but i suffer!!!! from panic disorder so its an all out war between autism and panic anxiety added to hypervigilance
all thats really changed is Ive joined this forum disappointingly no epiphany

I am not sure what to expect from this but I am stepping outside the comfort zone. I am 33y/o with one 6 y/o daughter. I have been married for 8 years. The discovery of Aspergers was very recent but with no surprise to me and most of my close relatives. It's seemed almost comical to attach a name to my oddities but I have embraced it. I want to know how people deal with the knowledge of knowing what sets us apart. I also have MDD, anxiety and ADD. A plithera of mental issues. My journey has been long and tough but honestly Aspergers, unlike the rest, came as a relief. I hope to find some understanding and advice I know some things will always come as a struggle but I long to find a way to cope and learn to be involved.

 

[Streetwise]

insert you after are ,my erratic writing/ typing -scream

 

[MrSpock]

Welcome. That seems a weird question to me, "...how people deal with the knowledge of knowing what sets us apart." Deal with the knowledge? I use the knowledge to deal with my life and don't really need to deal with the knowledge except in terms of how I use it. Not all aspects of autism will apply to any one of us, once we figure out for ourselves which parts of the spectrum knowledge apply to ourselves we have new tools for self-understanding.

I think you've come to the right place for understanding and advice. I hope you will find this to be true.

 

[NeoPhile]

Welcome to Aspies Central!
I can understand the problem with an inability to connect. I find it hard to make connections with other people. It's normal for aspies. You're welcome to come and make friends here, though!

 

[EstimatedProphet]

Welcome. That seems a weird question to me, "...how people deal with the knowledge of knowing what sets us apart." Deal with the knowledge? I use the knowledge to deal with my life and don't really need to deal with the knowledge except in terms of how I use it. Not all aspects of autism will apply to any one of us, once we figure out for ourselves which parts of the spectrum knowledge apply to ourselves we have new tools for self-understanding.

I think you've come to the right place for understanding and advice. I hope you will find this to be true.

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