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Use earphones!!!

Christophe

Christophe

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I don't know, maybe I'm (what's the word I'm looking for...?) unforgiving? Impatient? Heartless?...

I'm not even sure if this is my Asperger's acting up or just the fact that I am very intolerant towards all that is stupid in this world.

But I can't stand it when people start playing games or watching movies or videos on their phones, laptops, tablets or anything else that makes noise!!! BRING HEADPHONES!!!
You are not the only person in the packed waiting room or plane or restaurant!!! Not that I enjoy being in these places or that I am even there of my own free will, but I don't need you and your annoying repeating background music playing over and over and over and over while I steam in my chair wishing I had the courage to jump up look at you in the face and yell out:" for the love of all that is good in this world... Turn that music off before I do it for you!!!"

Am I alone here?

Any tips on how to deal with this?
 
Christophe said:
I'm not even sure if this is my Asperger's acting up or just the fact that I am very intolerant towards all that is stupid in this world.
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It's neither.

I still think it's rude to assume people are interested in whatever you're listening to, regardless of musical preference. Though I guess it's no different than ghettoblasters in the 80's and those eventually went away. The problem with current audio players is that most people carry these things around all day and aren't as clunky as a huge stereoset like that 80's thing.

I'm wondering if there aren't any houserules at whatever establishment you encounter these situations? I usually just run into these situations in the streets and that's the last thing I care about someones music since I either have my own music on (headphones of course ;) ) or I'm on my way and don't have to stick around.

I mean, over here, on public transport for instance, there's a sign that says you should keep music to a minimum or you'll be ejected from said transport. And that goes for plenty of establishments here that just have a simple code of conduct which they will even put up with icons, so even the most illiterate people can understand this.
 
That really annoys me too. I have a little sister that does that all the time, be it with her gaming systems or her tablet. She refuses to wear headphones, either. I think maybe to some level aspergers makes it worse, perhaps, but i think in general its a respect thing for everyone like someone above said. I go to great lengths, even, to make sure that nobody can hear my music through my headphones - i check and recheck them before i actually start listening to the music even at home.
 
One time I was sitting on the porch of a café, and a girl nearby asked me if it would be okay if she played some music quietly on her laptop. I was so pleased that she was thoughtful enough to ask, I gladly said yes. :)
 
wyverary said:
One time I was sitting on the porch of a café, and a girl nearby asked me if it would be okay if she played some music quietly on her laptop. I was so pleased that she was thoughtful enough to ask, I gladly said yes. :)
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If this happened all the time, and we had a chance to say no, it would be great, it's just that I find it so insulting that people can't even take a moment to realize that no one else can see the movie or the game they are watching or playing and that simply... No one else is interested.
The sounds might make sense to them but to someone not included, it is just noise.
 
There are a few people at my work (and of course, my desk is right next to 2 of them) that sing... all the time. Like, one is always listening to music and mumble-singing along (you know what I'm talking about) and the other is just... singing. Every time I ask/tell them to stop they act like I'm being so unreasonable, or my personal favorite, tell me to bring headphones - as if listening to music is the perfect solution to my being distracted by your singing.

I don't dislike music. I just can't listen to music while I'm trying to work, or concentrate on anything for that matter. Especially music that isn't familiar, and especially unfamiliar music that I can't even understand because it's being mumbled. I dislike being distracted. And I dislike when people treat me as though I'm the rude one when I ask them not to sing because I'm trying to actually do my job.

I take a lot of pride in my job, not because it's anything impressive or remotely significant, but because I am very good at what I do. I've worked extremely hard to earn the little bit of a reputation I have, and a lot of that work has involved trying to manually filter out as many potential distractions as possible because my brain doesn't do it for me. It is exhausting, so it irritates me to no end when I'm treated like some kind of office buzzkill for asking people not to sing/hum so loudly when the people around them are trying to work - especially when we all know no one else wants to hear it either, I'm just the only one who will say anything.
 
nova said:
There are a few people at my work (and of course, my desk is right next to 2 of them) that sing... all the time. Like, one is always listening to music and mumble-singing along (you know what I'm talking about) and the other is just... singing. Every time I ask/tell them to stop they act like I'm being so unreasonable, or my personal favorite, tell me to bring headphones - as if listening to music is the perfect solution to my being distracted by your singing.

I don't dislike music. I just can't listen to music while I'm trying to work, or concentrate on anything for that matter. Especially music that isn't familiar, and especially unfamiliar music that I can't even understand because it's being mumbled. I dislike being distracted. And I dislike when people treat me as though I'm the rude one when I ask them not to sing because I'm trying to actually do my job.

I take a lot of pride in my job, not because it's anything impressive or remotely significant, but because I am very good at what I do. I've worked extremely hard to earn the little bit of a reputation I have, and a lot of that work has involved trying to manually filter out as many potential distractions as possible because my brain doesn't do it for me. It is exhausting, so it irritates me to no end when I'm treated like some kind of office buzzkill for asking people not to sing/hum so loudly when the people around them are trying to work - especially when we all know no one else wants to hear it either, I'm just the only one who will say anything.
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I completely agree with you!!! But it has nothing to do with music, music is when the actual singer or musician plays not when some nobody who thinks that by hearing the song on the speaker or in his/her earphones he/she is able to perfectly reproduce the pleasant sounds (including the melody) by singing or mumbling the words.

(Sorry about that, this is a subject I find particularly difficult to deal with.) :)

I sympathize with you, and you are in a rough situation, and I know that what ever you do might or will eventually alienate you from those people. I guess what you have to ask yourself is: do you care if they hate you? Because if it is effecting your work, you could bring it up to your supervisor. Or if it is at all possible, a move to a different location in the office?

Hope this helps
 
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I've recently switched to a different team so I will hopefully be getting moved to a new desk soon anyway. One of them is my friend, and while he wont stop, he knows that when I'm at work I mean business and has learned not to take it (and also the constantly accidentally ignoring him thing) personally. I did ask my supervisor if I could go to a more isolated desk in the meantime if there's one available, and he said he'd keep an eye out for me.

The other person that sings is this girl that actually sits on the other side of a very thin cubicle half-wall type of thing... Every once in awhile I kind of snap at her, but usually every time she starts singing I just clear my throat really, really loudly. I don't know if she's realized I'm doing it intentionally to shut her up or if it's just a gut reaction, but she usually stops when I do that. I don't really care how she feels about it because I don't like her. She's that awful mixture of super unintelligent, yet pretentious.

I really am a friendly person, I swear. ;>.>
 
That is awesome, you should look at her, make a small facial reaction of pain and ask her if she knows the whole song... That usually shuts them up real quick. I love doing that!!
 
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