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It shows on my end. I thought when I posted private YouTube link it would appear if I have that link,or must I send an unlisted link?
It appears as private for me, too. I think you do have to use an unlisted link.must I send an unlisted link
Uh oh, it's set as private, but I'd love to see it. As a computer software guy with few friends, I used to be much more rigid, specific, and technical, but now I try to be more spontaneous. It still leaves huge voids where I have kind of a blank expression. If I'm adopting a character, like "fingergun guy", I look like a totally different person for an instant because it's something I visualized and exerted effort to do, so much so, that I was taken aback by how silly it looked. Though, it's such a ridiculous gesture, I don't exactly desire to master it.Charisma is hard to explain for me. It could be seen by one being briefer like you for this video where you seem relaxed in many ways and where you seem free to be yourself and speak more of your mind, with regards to how you think and feel regardless if informal or like using mostly humor whereby you poke fun at yourself, and like where you express well with hands, face, tone and using other vocal feeling. Or one could be charismatic to me even if very shy looking, acting more inward and holding back much, as that is endearing and mysterious. Then there are those very talkative persons and very free flowing with words, going either from topic to topic with ease, and also those who are detailed about one topic who can attract others .
In my case, although I have the ability to speak short or at length in one-to-one talks, depending on the other's preference or need, I usually try to very precise and organized regardless. Maybe this is just natural for me. I also have less vocal inflection as showing much feeling comes harder to me, much less using humor. Although I am a bit too sick today to do a video (tail end of flu), the video I did last year is below (may have to turn volume my all the way up to hear as my tablet audio then was not the best).
Ok, will try changing to unlisted if the small tablet lets me change that there as my laptop broke months ago where I could access more features.It appears as private for me, too. I think you do have to use an unlisted link.
If you go to Studio -> Channel Content, there's a table of your videos, and you can click the pulldown to change it from "private" to "unlisted".Ok, will try changing to unlisted if the small tablet lets me change that there as my laptop broke months ago where I could access more features.
I can't stand the cynical way that "special" is used in the context of mental characteristics, and I don't even want to hear the term used. It's been many years since anybody came straight out and told me that they were going to dislike me because I'm "abnormal". Instead, they quietly turn around and walk away like I don't exist, which is extremely confusing, and so I never figured out that people saw me differently enough to dehumanize and exclude me that way.Have fun. I’ve been meaning to post more videos where I’m actually talking about something lol. Any suggestions?
And it's going to upset me if people are calling you "special" in the cynical way, which seems very likely given the usage. I don't see anything wrong with you. I don't see anything wrong with the meanings you convey, and that is what counts to me. If your cadence or style is unusual, then that just means that people should be considerate. I think "unusual" should be nurtured, explored, and discovered, not mistreated.
I can't stand the cynical way that "special" is used in the context of mental characteristics, and I don't even want to hear the term used. It's been many years since anybody came straight out and told me that they were going to dislike me because I'm "abnormal". Instead, they quietly turn around and walk away like I don't exist, which is extremely confusing, and so I never figured out that people saw me differently enough to dehumanize and exclude me that way.
Guys like me have much more social pressure to become really inhibited, and I'm glad the world didn't stomp all over your personality. You come off both charmingly unusual and perfectly normal to me, if that makes any sense. You seem very easy to talk to and relate to. I don't see any need for you to be like the rest of the world.
Yes, I understand. It is hard to say though for me if how I express is actually me or how I was conditioned to be, or if it was from mostly genetics. I just know my parents did not tolerate mistakes, and they taught us to fear and not trust, so I and my two brothers became mostly silent. Societal members then rejected and criticized that shyness and briefness more, so I admit I went back and forth between avoiding persons and trying to fit in better.I didn't like my formalistic tendencies. But you get tired of being told you're doing everything wrong, and that makes you try harder and harder, and the hardest way you know to try is to be disciplined, focused, specific, and to plan everything out. That's where I think that comes from. I very deliberately gave that up and unlearned it. I think I had an epiphany when I saw kids calling other people "try-hards" on the Internet. So, now, we're giving up our spontaneity, we're overexerting ourselves, and now people still think we look funny because we're too rigid and we're trying too hard. See? You can never please them, so you'd might as well relax. That's my attitude anyway.
Though, granted, if you're applying for an office job, that's an entirely different situation. I was discussing socialization.
And ultimately, you should be however makes you happy. But I'm commenting from my perspective because I used to present myself more like you are now, and I know what motivated me to be more that way.
Yes, I understand. It is hard to say though for me if how I express is actually me or how I was conditioned to be, or if it was from mostly genetics. I just know my parents did not tolerate mistakes, and they taught us to fear and not trust, so I and my two brothers became mostly silent. Societal members then rejected and criticized that shyness and briefness more, so I admit I went back and forth between avoiding persons and trying to fit in better.
It is great you can, need or want to be yourself after realizing masking was harder or made things worse anyway. It is hard for me to figure out what traits are genetic in.me and which ones were caused by abusive parenting, and as since age thirty five or so I did not feel much intense anxiety, sadness or happiness it could be harder to figure out who I am or want to be now. I do know times I was a very young child laughing and getting really mad, but that seems to have been stomped out by past family and society, and by my attempts to avoid getting too high and low and in avoiding making mistakes.
I do not feel how I am now is causing much effort, but again, I do not feel happiness. A contradiction.