Weekend Boredom

[mw2530]

Does anyone else struggle with this? During the week I stay fairly busy with work and spending time on my interests. But once the weekend arrives, I often have nothing much planned and become bored. I end up wasted a lot of time because I either don't know what to do or don't have anyone to do things with. I feel like I've wasted so many weekends over the years. I live in a city of maybe 150,000 at best if you include the surrounding area. So there are some things to do, but not always of the best quality. I am hopelessly single all my life so that adds to the problem. The area I live in is best for families, but not so much single people. I'm not sure if the solution to my problem is to make small changes or a big change like moving to somewhere that has more to do and there are more eligible singles. I'm so tired of being unhappy.

 

[Lichi]

How about traveling outside of your area on the weekends?

When my anxiety wasn’t as bad as it is I would pick one weekend every month where I would go to the cinema or a cafè alone and maybe meet people to keep me company.

You can probably check if there are Facebook groups where people in your area might arrange some kind of a meet up or activity. If you use Facebook the events calendar for what’s happening nearby is a good starting point if you have no network.

 

[Suzanne]

Not bored, but my husband who is an nt, actually gets headaches when the weekend arrives, because he is busy, busy, busy during the week. He knows what he is doing etc and then, come a day off and he is stuck with worrying about what to do.

For me, if he goes out on a saturday, I feel very lonely, although I can go with him, I do not, which of course is my own doing as it were.

I wonder if you planned for the weekend during the week, it might help you?

 

[Gracey]

What would you like to do at the weekends?

If you were to answer ‘not get bored’

That’s too general.
Break it down further.
Do you need a buzz?
Excitement?
Or an activity that’s interesting?
Something that will stimulate your brain?
Social gathering?
One to one?

When you can identify what you’re in the mood for,
You could make it happen.

A weekend is a long time, you get to call the shots, you’re in charge, you get to decide what you’d like to do with your time

 

[Gracey]

If you move to another area, it may be that what you’re feeling now will move with you.

What’s stopping you spending the weekend in another area and returning home in time for your busy week?

 

[Progster]

Perhaps you could see if there are any Meetups near you, or look in the local newspaper to see if there are any shows, craft fairs, hiking, walking or jogging groups, things like that?

 

[Mary Anne]

Volunteer for a social cause, get a weekend job where you meet people, engage in meetup’s, go to the gym, get a hobby, sell on eBay, visit museums, go hiking, take mini vacations and travel, plant a garden, make art, go to art fairs.....there are a bazillion things to do! I have never been bored in my life. I honestly mean that. There is not enough time to do all that I want to do.

I think though you are not “bored” so much as you really are looking for a relationship. That is an entirely different issue. By doing activities you love doing, or work, volunteer, etc- you can meet others who are like minded. People meet and gain meaning relationships in that way.

 

[Sherlock77]

I live in a city of about 1.2 million people

My weekend coming up?

Friday evening will be the annual camera club banquet

Other possible options that night? Go to the local classic car cruise night, a music open mic at a coffee shop, if I wasn't going to the banquet

Saturday daytime there is big car show in a nearby town, that will take up most of the day

Sunday daytime is a big street festival I enjoy

I enjoy classic cars, enjoy public events, I enjoy music, really enjoy photography... So I will be doing lots of photography next weekend...

For me I just simply enjoy a hobby that keeps me active, in a city of 150,000 there should be lots of different things to keep you active, there are lots of different ways but it might take some digging