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Weird online “date”

paloftoon

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Matched with a guy who was verified and seemed close to me distance wise according to the app. It seemed all the convo was was basically him making fun of my physical features. He tried to make it sound flirty but it only made me want to meet him sooner in-person for physical touch if he was serious.

I asked him if he was into men, he left me hanging, then said he currently was. But the response was indecisive not wanting to “commit” to liking men and it made me wonder if I was talking to a real person.

He wanted my phone number and I said not until we meet in-person. We traded Telegrams and his first comment was that if I was glad he added me. Like I am second class. Usually I am too negative but in this case, I just asked for a video chat to escalate the potential relationship further. I wonder if the pics were really him or if he was playing games.

His response was if I was suspicious if he was real or not and that he’s not into video chat. I told him plainly that he only made fun of my physicality and wanted to go off the app so soon without establishing something more serious. And I wanted a more intimate, serious connection sooner because of the talk.

If he kept the conversation light and didn’t talk about my physical features so soon, I would have had more patience through this app. But since he “went there” and I wanted that physicality from a man that looked like him, it made me want to push faster.

He replied with no interest in video chat lol and then blocked me some hours after.
 
Let's see...
He looked good to you.
So much so that even when he mocked your appearance,
you interpreted the negativity as flirty/enticing.

He was indecisive about actually liking guys.
He wouldn't video chat.

He blocked you.

This seems like the most positive outcome for the encounter.
 
You don't have to put up with someone to date, because they might not mean bad. If you find someone's jokes insulting and he doesn't get it and continues and you feel bad in his company, then it's enough of a reason to not date him.
 
People are supposed to be on their best behavior when they first meet.

He started off by making fun of your appearance. That's not a joke - there's nothing funny about it.

If this was his "best" he sucks. Kick that one to the curb.
 
That whole situation sounds bad to me. Caveat though, it's a lot easier to be sitting back and looking at the situation from the outside instead of being the one involved in it.

The entire conversation sounds like he was probing for weakness, looking for someone easily manipulated. The fact that he did want a phone number but didn't want to meet in person screams the word Scammer. But even if he was genuine he doesn't sound like someone you really want to get involved with.
 
Thank you all for giving me what I needed to hear!
I hope I can do better, sooner rather than later as it has been 6 or 7 years. Not that I'm trying to force anything, but. . .
 

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