What are your difficulties working with others? Your strengths?

[Progster]

What difficulties do you have working with others? Also, what strengths do you have?

My difficulties are:

People explaining things to me, or showing me how to do things. I need to understand on my own. I find it hard to listen and process, or think at the same time time. I need to think about how to do something without someone talking to me. I want to think, to understand on my own.

Not having all the information necessary to perform a task, and then people expecting me to automatically know what is going on, or what they are talking about, what I need to do or what their intention is. I don't have the full picture, but they do. It's confusing and frustrating.

People in the group/team trying to dominate me, boss me around and tell me what to do, and not listening to what I have to say.

Frustration. I'm trying to do a task, and then others will just come and take over what I'm doing and not let me finish. I hate this.

Petty politics, social manipulation games that the other members of a team/group play between them. I just don't play these games, don't pick up on them and half the time I have no idea what's going on.

Positive:

I often have good ideas - if only people will let me think, not distract me and listen to me.

I am reliable. If I say I'm going to do something, then I'll do it. Others can rely on me.

I'm fair, will work hard and do my share. I'm almost always on time ( I hate being late, it throws me into a panic!)

Can you relate?

 

[Progster]

because I hate having to rely on others to accomplish something for which I may be responsible.

I hate having to rely on others, too. They so often let you down, or don't take the responsibility seriously enough.

 

[Mattymatt]

Working alone has my vote! This way I am accountable to myself.

 

[Gritches]

I really prefer to work alone, but when that's not possible I have both strengths and weaknesses, some of which are actually both strengths and weaknesses at the same time.

I tend to dominate in group settings. I almost always end up in charge as a result, official or de facto. Good thing is that means I can steer the project at hand in whatever direction I want. It means promotion, it means recognition. Bad thing is that leadership also means lots of thankless responsibility.

From that, other problems can arise. I'm an effective leader, but I'm only as effective as the group allows me to be. If they're like soldiers, I can use them to get things done. If they're like cats, the whole thing becomes like...well...like herding cats, not that it isn't possible but it takes a lot more work to get them to carry out my will than does "Do that." "Okay."

I work fine with partners, but only if I'm partners with a female. A male usually does the same crap that puts me in charge of groups: he usually tries to dominate me, I don't take his **** and bite back 10 times as hard. So usually I just end up fighting with another male. Females seem to understand the concept of a 50/50 partnership.

I think partnerships are easier because I only have to consider the feelings of one other person. So it's 50/50 instead of a 20/20/20/20/20 split. Can't do that. Someone has to be in charge.

 

[Chance]

I prefer to work alone, or with someone I am familiar with (if I have too). I like working with, and being with my cousin. We are more like brothers than cousins, and as we have gotten older we have gotten closer. As kids we were never around each other that much. I wish we lived closer, but it is what it is for now.

I get nervous at work when people watch me... I hate when people stand there and watch me at my desk. I feel like they are looking down on me because in reality they are... I will often tell them to grab a chair instead of stand over me...

For the most part, just leave me alone and I will do a great job, I promise. Keep making me nervous and I will mess it up (not on purpose) or leave it for you to do as you wish.

I don't have much to say, so just don't say anything and we will be okay. Unless you have something that will make me laugh - then always go for it. I love to feel happy, be happy, I just don't want to fake happy. It sucks, and don't tell me complicated jokes that I cant figure out as fast as everyone else, so I wont be there with this stupid confused look on my face...

I'm actually cool with the awkward silence. Its when I (we) break that silence and something stupid comes out my mouth when it gets really awkward (for me anyway)... People say I don't act nearly as weird as I think I do, or as I feel I do... I hope they are telling the truth.

Sometimes I think this is where my concept of how I think I am, glares against how I really am, and I cant fully see past how weird "I feel" in that situation.

Plus sometimes I am fighting a panic attack, or stupid Tourettes, if I get really stressed out and that makes everything harder to hide. I can usually do okay (or fake it-except Tourettes) until I can get out of the situation, and I can calm myself back down.

People who truly know me say they can tell when I am getting "twisted up inside." My cousin can sense it. I never have to say a word, he just knows something has derailed and things are a little freaky for me... He is one of the few people I will sit down and hash through what goes on... Mainly cause he deals with the same stuff on different levels. He melts down (explodes is more like it) and that freaks me out... I shut down and that freaks him out, but we each get whats going on and that helps.

In all honesty his "melting down" is probably healthier because he lets it go, where as I hold it in and mull it over for forever and 4 eternities... geez.

At the end of the day, give me some space and some time... I will give you more than you ever expected... Unless you cant past that I need that space and time more than anything.

 

[Progster]

I don't have much to say, so just don't say anything and we will be okay. Unless you have something that will make me laugh - then always go for it. I love to feel happy, be happy, I just don't want to fake happy. It sucks, and don't tell me complicated jokes that I cant figure out as fast as everyone else, so I wont be there with this stupid confused look on my face...

I find banter in the workplace - or anywhere, very difficult. I just can't do banter, or this expectation to be always smiling, fun, cheerful and sociable to fit in. I don't need, or want to be talking all the time. I just want to go and get on with my job.

 

[Jana Delaney]

What difficulties do you have working with others? Also, what strengths do you have?

My difficulties are:

People explaining things to me, or showing me how to do things. I need to understand on my own. I find it hard to listen and process, or think at the same time time. I need to think about how to do something without someone talking to me. I want to think, to understand on my own.

Not having all the information necessary to perform a task, and then people expecting me to automatically know what is going on, or what they are talking about, what I need to do or what their intention is. I don't have the full picture, but they do. It's confusing and frustrating.

People in the group/team trying to dominate me, boss me around and tell me what to do, and not listening to what I have to say.

Frustration. I'm trying to do a task, and then others will just come and take over what I'm doing and not let me finish. I hate this.

Petty politics, social manipulation games that the other members of a team/group play between them. I just don't play these games, don't pick up on them and half the time I have no idea what's going on.

Positive:

I often have good ideas - if only people will let me think, not distract me and listen to me.

I am reliable. If I say I'm going to do something, then I'll do it. Others can rely on me.

I'm fair, will work hard and do my share. I'm almost always on time ( I hate being late, it throws me into a panic!)

Can you relate?

My difficulties working with others arise from encountering zombies who have been infected with the common virus known as 'groupthink'. Common symptoms of having been infected with this socially transmitted virus include, but are not limited to: inability to think critically, and critically analyse, inability to think for oneself, and an inability to think laterally, creatively. Because group values are often bereft of these useful qualities, when large groups of zombies encounter authentic individuals who possess these qualities they then mob that individual in an attempt to convert them to groupthink. Therefore, if you have these qualities, time spent alone will probably prove rewarding. Look at Temple Grandin. It would take an authentic mind to invent the things she has invented.

There are examples in life of teamwork being a good thing, and on many occasions 'many hands make light work', but this isn't universal. Painting a wall is done very quickly and efficiently by a group, for example, but a lot of theoretical constructs originate from those working as an individual.

 

[WildCat]

I can't think of any advantages of being part of a team. I work best alone, always have and always will. Unfortunately, I've only been in a few situations where that was possible. Not saying I'm perfect here because I'm not with a fair share of screw-ups, but then there's usually someone else screwing up too.

Contrary to popular belief, there really is an "I" in "team"...

 

[Phanelope]

What difficulties do you have working with others? Also, what strengths do you have?

My difficulties are:

People explaining things to me, or showing me how to do things. I need to understand on my own. I find it hard to listen and process, or think at the same time time. I need to think about how to do something without someone talking to me. I want to think, to understand on my own.

Not having all the information necessary to perform a task, and then people expecting me to automatically know what is going on, or what they are talking about, what I need to do or what their intention is. I don't have the full picture, but they do. It's confusing and frustrating.

People in the group/team trying to dominate me, boss me around and tell me what to do, and not listening to what I have to say.

Frustration. I'm trying to do a task, and then others will just come and take over what I'm doing and not let me finish. I hate this.

Petty politics, social manipulation games that the other members of a team/group play between them. I just don't play these games, don't pick up on them and half the time I have no idea what's going on.

Positive:

I often have good ideas - if only people will let me think, not distract me and listen to me.

I am reliable. If I say I'm going to do something, then I'll do it. Others can rely on me.

I'm fair, will work hard and do my share. I'm almost always on time ( I hate being late, it throws me into a panic!)

Can you relate?

I’m going to revive an old thread rather than make a new one. The things listed here are my exact strengths and weaknesses when it comes to “team work”. Nearly every job requires “being able to work as part of a team”. How can I put this into my resume/ job application? I don’t want to say I’m good at team work when I’m not, but I really need a more secure job.

 

[Gracey]

Weakness - communication.

Asking and motivating
Not
Ordering and expecting.


Strengths - dependable , honest, result driven.

Give me the task, I’ll complete it if it kills me. Don’t ‘kin pester me with 16 other requests at the same time.

 

[Progster]

I’m going to revive an old thread rather than make a new one. The things listed here are my exact strengths and weaknesses when it comes to “team work”. Nearly every job requires “being able to work as part of a team”. How can I put this into my resume/ job application? I don’t want to say I’m good at team work when I’m not, but I really need a more secure job.

I wouldn't say anything about my ability to work in a team, I would say that I can work well independently and others can depend on me.