What do you do with a problem you cannot solve?

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

And you have no answers and it just keeps getting worse and you are sick to death of it.
The toxic garbage you are doing, the worries, the fears and doubts and trauma fears
.I do not know what to do all it seems to do is get worse each day not better.
And then i regret everything

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

I remember the serenity prayer.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

Amen.

 

[kriss72]

And you have no answers and it just keeps getting worse and you are sick to death of it.
The toxic garbage you are doing, the worries, the fears and doubts and trauma fears
.I do not know what to do all it seems to do is get worse each day not better.
And then i regret everything

I know it can be difficult, but it might be an idea to share your thoughts with someone?

 

[VictorR]

As the saying goes, the only "stupid questions" are those which are left unasked.

No one has the answers to everything. But the beauty of any community, such as this, is the ability for one to ask questions they seek answers for, and get suggestions that may potentially answer the question (or direct them to places/people who may).

 

[AndyFBlues]

Some problems can only be solved by looking far outside of the box. It may mean coming to grips with a solution that is far different from what we expect it to be.

 

[Misty Avich]

I just keep stressing and feeling depressed or anxious, and endlessly post here about it.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I just keep stressing and feeling depressed or anxious, and endlessly post here about it.

Me or you?
Life is hard, I have cptsd and I do trauma dump.
I am struggling a lot and just feel Iike I am losing.

 

[NDR2]

I’m sort of dealing with that now with all my medical issues that there seems to be no solution for, and doctors don’t seem to have answers. I’m just persisting. I’m always checking back with them, and I plan to look for other opinions if need be.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I’m sort of dealing with that now with all my medical issues that there seems to be no solution for, and doctors don’t seem to have answers. I’m just persisting. I’m always checking back with them, and I plan to look for other opinions if need be.

I persist but i worry I make too many mistakes because I am very out of control with confusion, feelings and trust and paranoia and get often violent lately because I just want to feel better and am finding it very hard and very exhausted and fatigued.
I feel like some mistakes how do I know I can recover from them, I just want to know I can trust and it will be ok.

 

[Misty Avich]

Me or you?
Life is hard, I have cptsd and I do trauma dump.
I am struggling a lot and just feel Iike I am losing.

It's OK, I was talking about me. I literally do stress and worry and post about it all here.

 

[Masked Man]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Since I don't know your exact situation I can only tell you what I do.

I realize I am not perfect. No one else is either. Human beings are not perfect beings. I'm better than some and not as good as others. And that's okay.

I deserve my space in the world.

People who have low self esteem stomp on the joy of others to make themselves feel better. I cut those people out of my life and recognize them for who they are: losers.

People are not thinking about me and the dumb things I do/have done. I am not the center of anyone's world.

I do my best to regularly engage in things that make me happy.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

In my life I was intelligent enough to overcome problems in many parts of my life. I would not accept limitations. Problems with balance and proprioception? I went into Whitewater Open Canoe and practiced. The only thing I could not solve was my social deficiencies before the age of 28, probably because of the high emotional content. This has created some complex trauma. I now understand that;
- I could feel sad about that damaged young man, but I cannot allow his experiences to have power over the present me.
- I cannot relitigate the past.
- I would like to forgive that younger me for his confusions. but am having a hard time because he should have figured out ways to mitigate his dysfunction.

 

[Rodafina]

I think a seemingly unsolvable problem is an indication to keep on trying, but always trying new things. I know that idea can be disheartening when a problem has persisted for a very long time, but as @AndyFBlues noted, sometimes the solution will be something entirely unexpected (and sometimes uncomfortable).

Some problems persist for a very long time and although we keep on trying to make a change, sometimes we can get stuck trying the same thing over and over again. Typically, this will not work, and a huge variety of approaches and creativity in problem-solving is what can often bring about change at last.

Keep trying. Get different perspectives and consider solutions that you never would have imagined before. Maybe it is a problem where you need somebody else’s help.

 

[Crossbreed]

What do you do with a problem you cannot solve?

Look for outside help.
(When that fails, @Yeshuasdaughter's advice is perfect.)

 

[Shevek]

When Robert Persig was not making any progress at school, he dropped out for a period of "lateral drift." He found one big clue when he was travelling, and the only reading matter was an obscure article in a local magazine.
Some problems I can ignore because they involve too many other people. Others are waiting for a new bit of information, or a new perspective on what I've been studying. One of the essential factors for creative work is an unusually high tolerance for indecision, giving time for more options to arise.

 

[NDR2]

Since I don’t think on my feet very well, I often run into problems I can’t seem to solve. If it’s urgent I ask for help. But with some problems I find that if I just leave it alone for the time being, an answer or solution may come to me later.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I think a seemingly unsolvable problem is an indication to keep on trying, but always trying new things. I know that idea can be disheartening when a problem has persisted for a very long time, but as @AndyFBlues noted, sometimes the solution will be something entirely unexpected (and sometimes uncomfortable).

Some problems persist for a very long time and although we keep on trying to make a change, sometimes we can get stuck trying the same thing over and over again. Typically, this will not work, and a huge variety of approaches and creativity in problem-solving is what can often bring about change at last.

Keep trying. Get different perspectives and consider solutions that you never would have imagined before. Maybe it is a problem where you need somebody else’s help.

I have suffered a long time for most of my life and would like to stop now and have some amazing dreams come true.
I can only persist. I get really scared and feel stuck and extremely hurt.
And worried and actually my heart feels different to my pain but my pain and lack of understanding dictates.
Please all pray and send well wishes.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

Since I don’t think on my feet very well, I often run into problems I can’t seem to solve. If it’s urgent I ask for help. But with some problems I find that if I just leave it alone for the time being, an answer or solution may come to me later.

I am trying for help, my past trauma makes me scared
Please keep me in prayers and thoughts.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

There is a story in the Bible about Hagar and her son. They are cast out into the desert (by a jealous Sarah, who is barren) with no food or water. Hagar and her son's situation was hopeless. They sat down to wait to die. Hagar prayed and, as the Bible says, God opened her eyes and she saw a water source - which had been there all the time.

But Hagar, in her distress, was unable to see the water.

So now, when I pray (ie, talking to God, not listening to God) for a solution to a problem, I pray for God to open my eyes. And amazingly, this works much of the time. If the problem is a big one, such as coping with my husband leaving, it may take a long time or happen in many steps.