What does it mean when someone asks "can I ask you a personal question?"

[Acorn_Elf]

Some lady I know texted me asking "can I ask you a personal question?" So I said "I guess." She never texted back. What could it be or mean? I keep wondering now.

 

[Gritches]

I find it often means, "I want your permission to ask you a question that social convention tells me would offend you, yet I want to know the answer so I'll power through it anyway"

 

[Progster]

I think that she wanted to ask you something personal but changed her mind and so didn't reply.

 

[Coupe]

Hmmm....well, I've always thought that "Can I ask you a personal question" usually means that the question that follows might be of a sensitive nature that should be carefully considered and treated as a private matter - that's just me tho.

 

[Beguiling Orbit]

To me, it means that:

1. They want to learn more about you and further the relationship.
2. They are aware that there are levels of personal boundaries that they should respect.
3. They are not completely certain that they have become close enough friends with you to ask what they're about to ask.
4. They want to remove that uncertainty while respecting any boundaries that may exist.

It's never a bad thing for them to ask that question. Also, even if you say "yes", you still don't have to answer their question.

"May I ask you a personal question?" he asked.
"Sure," she replied.
"How much money do you make?" he asked.
"I'd rather not say." she replied.

 

[Beguiling Orbit]

On the other hand, it may mean that they're just nosy and/or want to use that information against you.

 

[Beguiling Orbit]

[Sigh] We live in a complicated world, don't we?

 

[Kirsty]

Maybe they’re just trying to think of a way to word it without offending you in any way. This often takes time.

 

[Katherine Rawstron]

The word "personal" can mean all sorts of things, from details about your sex life, to your bank balance, what you had for breakfast or your religious beliefs. You can always ask the subject of the question before consenting to go any further, and even if you do consent to the question being asked, it doesn't mean you have to answer it. "I'd rather not say" is polite; otherwise, "Mind your own business" will do!

 

[OkRad]

It means run.

 

[megacomic]

It means they are going to ask something that could be construed as intrusive or offensive.

 

[Buzzerfly]

"You and I both know I'm being nosy, trying to get info that isn't my right to know. Cool with you?"

 

[Acorn_Elf]

Welp. It turns out they wanted to start some drama, so now I'm ignoring them.

 

[Dorkasour]

Drama? How so?