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What Is the Most Annoying Suggestion You Hear (or keep hearing?)

NateSean

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I made a video recently, addressing the challenges my town will be facing in the up coming winter. There's nothing special about it. There are literally more than a million videos like this all over the world, on Youtube. I don't even have what could remotely be considered production value.

But this well meaning person who often responds to my blog said, "You could send your little documentary videos to TV shows".

Oh. My. God! Has it been that simple all along? I've always wanted to be on television, but I didn't know it was as simple as sending my ranty video to a "TV show". Holy crap, I am on my way. Thank you.

It doesn't matter what creative endeavor we pursue or don't pursue, I'm sure we've all heard equally useless (but well meaning) suggestions like this. Care to share?
 
I made a video recently, addressing the challenges my town will be facing in the up coming winter. There's nothing special about it. There are literally more than a million videos like this all over the world, on Youtube. I don't even have what could remotely be considered production value.

But this well meaning person who often responds to my blog said, "You could send your little documentary videos to TV shows".

Oh. My. God! Has it been that simple all along? I've always wanted to be on television, but I didn't know it was as simple as sending my ranty video to a "TV show". Holy crap, I am on my way. Thank you.

It doesn't matter what creative endeavor we pursue or don't pursue, I'm sure we've all heard equally useless (but well meaning) suggestions like this. Care to share?


I've seen it when British people are at a swimming pool - either at home or on holiday - and when one wants to get in the pool there's always the standard "the water's freezing".
It's at this point another person in the pool will say the advice that makes sense later but at the time seems useless - "It's alright once you get in".

The funny thing is when a British person then finally enters the pool and whinges more at how apparently cold it is, they'll take about 3 or 4 strokes into the water (at which point their body adapts to the temperature) before sprouting the exact same advice to anyone else getting in the pool.
It drives me nuts; I just feeling like shouting "just jump in and stop whining!" (And please note I am a British person just in case anyone thinks I'm slagging anyone off).
 
I've seen it when British people are at a swimming pool - either at home or on holiday - and when one wants to get in the pool there's always the standard "the water's freezing".
It's at this point another person in the pool will say the advice that makes sense later but at the time seems useless - "It's alright once you get in".

The funny thing is when a British person then finally enters the pool and whinges more at how apparently cold it is, they'll take about 3 or 4 strokes into the water (at which point their body adapts to the temperature) before sprouting the exact same advice to anyone else getting in the pool.
It drives me nuts; I just feeling like shouting "just jump in and stop whining!" (And please note I am a British person just in case anyone thinks I'm slagging anyone off).
I think this is universal behaviour. People in the U.S. do it as well.
 
The swimming pool.... Hmmm I understand this but moreso I know that it is much much colder getting out of the water, hence I don't go swimming :eek:

But the one thing that's drives me nuts is when people tell me 'to let it go' or 'get over it' when i'm referring to my never ending 'drama' that is more like a wrath to me than anyone.
 
Mine is "That's good enough." Why settle for good enough if better is possible? If perfection is possible, then don't settle until you have perfection. If amazing is a good as is possible then, go for that - always go for the best, never settle for second, third, fourth or just "good enough" - it or you can always be better than "good enough."
 
I think this is universal behaviour. People in the U.S. do it as well.

Fair enough. Michael McIntyre brought it up on one of his comedy shows and it reminded me of when I was on holiday back in 2004 and there were people complaining about the pool been cold then - after getting in - saying it wasn't bad when you were in the water.
In his joke, he said about how people native to the area just get into the pool without a fuss when they want to go in.
 
Mine is "That's good enough."

I despise this one so much. I can't tell if the person uttering it has so little faith in my abilities, or if they're afraid I'll outshine them or something. If a job is worth doing, it's worth doing really well.

In my experience, people who tell me, "That's fine", or "that's good enough" aren't the ones with a dog in the fight, so to speak. As in, you're the one who will still pay for the final result in the end, so why do they feel the need to chime in at all?
 
I've seen it when British people are at a swimming pool - either at home or on holiday - and when one wants to get in the pool there's always the standard "the water's freezing".
It's at this point another person in the pool will say the advice that makes sense later but at the time seems useless - "It's alright once you get in".

The funny thing is when a British person then finally enters the pool and whinges more at how apparently cold it is, they'll take about 3 or 4 strokes into the water (at which point their body adapts to the temperature) before sprouting the exact same advice to anyone else getting in the pool.
It drives me nuts; I just feeling like shouting "just jump in and stop whining!" (And please note I am a British person just in case anyone thinks I'm slagging anyone off).

I'd just say, "you get used to it after a few mins" because that literally and more accurately makes sense given that you don't necessarily get used to it immediately once you get in (unless it's not actually cold to the touch) and the acclomation can take a few minutes to become comfortable.
Mine is "That's good enough." Why settle for good enough if better is possible? If perfection is possible, then don't settle until you have perfection. If amazing is a good as is possible then, go for that - always go for the best, never settle for second, third, fourth or just "good enough" - it or you can always be better than "good enough."

Well I think it really depends on the context and the persons standards. For me I find myself saying this a lot (as oppose to obsessing for perfection) and if this were Christmas wrapping then it turns out I'm not as bad as I think and that it was/is indeed 'good enough' and 'will do'. On the other hand, this is something you never want to hear or say if you're dealing with the house electrics or a car etc as lives could be at risk. Sometimes there's no need to go beyond certain expectations because you're just wasting time better spent elsewhere.

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The kinda things that annoy me is anything that involves my personally named 'inevitability factor' (i.e getting angry at someone and shouting at the, pointless when you know you're only going to apologize for it later- in which case why do it then?).
2) 'Irrelevant conversation'- grannies moaning about things they can't control and wouldn't dare actually try to do something about (so why bother).
3) People who go off on a pointless tangents from a main conversation (which consumes time and bores you to tears).
4) Jokes where people really try to make out they wanna see you or be your friend/lover (if you're like me and will never have love (not that I want it anymore) this is sometimes cruel).
5) People who say they'll get back to you or make a big thing of you both meeting up sometime (if perhaps because it's been years or since school) but never do....why waste your fu*ki*g breathe and get my hopes up then- jerk!!
6) "Plenty more fish in the sea". Bollo**s, if you're failing at love time after time again then it's not about the people, it's about you, stop offering false encouragement!!
7) "I could care less". A damn american sentence which makes no sense because if you 'could' care less, then you must care a little bit. If you 'couldn't' care less, then you don't care at all.
8) "Do I gotta" "Don't gotta be". This is just really bad english passed off under the american language.....eeesh!!
9) "Ain't". There's no such fu*ki*g word as 'Ain't'.
10) "Bear". In a sentence this may be a brit only saying for the less inelligent "I'm bear tired ya know". Bear somehowe means 'really' or 'very'.

These are just some for me.
 
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I can appreciate that The_Hopeless_Aspie_Guy but, I've gotten fed up with people in my life having too much of a "make do" attitude and, giving up at mediocre or barely getting by then winning about not having or being anything or anyone. Being the best takes effort, a lot of it and, even then you may never actually be the best but, you're a lot closer to it for your efforts.

I'll help anyone as long as they are actually willing to try, to put in the effort but, I don't give hand outs, you don't anything or anywhere in this world for noting and no effort, you've got to try and, try hard to accomplish anything great and, 90% of the population could do it, if they would stop settling for "good enough."

Imagine the society we would have if everyone did their best and no one settled for good enough. I think it would be great if that ever happened.
 
Imagine the society we would have if everyone did their best and no one settled for good enough. I think it would be great if that ever happened.

It may be an aspie way of thinking, I dunno. When I worked in shops as sales assistants or brand ambassadors I was always deemed most helpful by customers (especially on the occassions) where perhaps the 'may do' attitude had been used on them by someone either to fob them off with lies (to cover their lack of knowledge of the products) or the fact that they felt they'd tried hard enough to help or tolerate a customer when in reality it wasn't as bad as how they made out to be when they were referred to me. Businesses would certainly have better names for themselves if their employees tried harder, reputations are made or lost on the back of a good or bad service offered by an individual within a large cooperation.
 
I stammer occasionally when I've very stressed or anxious, and one thing that people often say to me when I'm struggling to get a word out is "just stop and take a deep breath". I know they mean well but 1) calling attention to what is happening is the last thing you should do. 2) I suppose you know more about how to cope with stammering than me, a person who has stammered their entire life, and has attended speech therapy throughout most of their childhood. and 3) "stop and take a deep breath" is bad advice, so just shut up and stop pretending you know what you're talking about. Phew :weary:
 
The_Hopeless_Aspie_Guy You may be right, he was pretty obsessed about a few things too, unpopular things at that. I hadn't considered it but, he might have been an Aspie. He wasn't good socially, was extremely focused on his goals or obsession, usually one was related to the other with him. Hmm, it's possible.
 
When you lose something - like your keys - and can't find them, and the only advice you get off people after all the "Is it in your..." lines is "Try to think about where you were when you lost them".

If I knew that, I would've found them already!
 
I seem to hear things that other people don't, like the electric hum of a tv or computer. I constantly have a dull, electronic ringing noise that I always hear. I HATE it. I told my parents about it, and they said it's called tinnitus. I'm going to see a doctor in a couple of months about it, so maybe I can finally stop hearing it. I also hate other sounds too, like the sound of someone typing.
 
"Calm down", "take a chill pill" - anything along those lines. It's stupid. A person isn't going to calm down just because you tell them too. I don't see the point of saying it. It actually makes people less calm.
 
"You need to get out more". I do get out, where there are few or no people.
 
You're so dumb, but sooooooo intelligent!!!!!

Grrrrrrrrr 'YES I KNOW'.

Or, 'for god sake change the record'.
 
"The usage of ain't is a perennial subject of controversy in English. Ain't is commonly used by many speakers in oral or informal settings, especially in certain regions and dialects. Its usage is often highly stigmatized, and it may be used as a marker of socio-economic or regional status or education level. Its use is generally considered non-standard by dictionaries and style guides except when used for rhetorical effect, and it is rarely found in formal written works."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ain't
 

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