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What's Worse: Simple Questions That Dont Need Answered

Gomendosi

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Occasionally I might see something that will get me thinking and that leads to a loop of thought I can?t get out of till I ask someone else either, their opinion or if they can top it, it all depends on how you interpret it so, here goes:

What?s worse?
The scream of the little girl who just found out she won first prize in a Barbie Doll competition and is about to get one of every Barbie Doll there is...

Or

The scream of the mother who just heard her daughter won first prize in a Barbie Doll competition and is about to get one of every Barbie Doll there is
 
Ha!

Well to answer seriously, as someone who works with kids, the scream of a little girl is quite possibly the most annoying sound I can think of at the moment. Just, something about it, ...the pitch and loudness, maybe, I don't know, the frequency...I find it much more annoying than when boys do it, but they don't nearly as often, which probably as more to do with that. Maybe it's just worse because of my Asperger's, because sometimes can give me looks when I react to it, "aw, she's just excited, come on" (although I think I go above and beyond in being patient with it, since I don't think other people generally understand on my level how grating that really can be.)


Although I think if I heard a grown woman scream in that sense, I would probably just be pissed off.
 
I simply can’t decide, that’s why I throw the towel in and have you guys think on it too

Here’s another that got me thinking, and you can put your own here as well:

What’s worse?
Taking ages to cook a nice meal and you somehow manage to burn it

Or

quickly making your favorite sandwich for a snack and you drop it, spilling the contents everywhere
 
I simply can’t decide, that’s why I throw the towel in and have you guys think on it too

Here’s another that got me thinking, and you can put your own here as well:

What’s worse?
Taking ages to cook a nice meal and you somehow manage to burn it

Or

quickly making your favorite sandwich for a snack and you drop it, spilling the contents everywhere

Working hard to cook something and then somehow ruining it...that gets me. It bothers me more though if it's something I know I can cook well, and do often, like if I burn rice...I really get pissed off. But if it's something new or especially difficult, I don't feel so bad.

But to be honest, 98% of the time when I drop food, I just pick it up and eat it anyway.
 
I agree with Kas, the scream of a young child is always going to be louder and more irritating than an older person. I also think it's worse to spend a considerable amount of time cooking something and end up burning it. Whereas if you drop the sandwich it wouldn't take long or much effort to make another one.
 
I am surprised that no one else has any 'What’s Worse' questions, so I will put forward another:

What’s worse?
Working really hard and you don’t get any bonus or acknowledgement for your effort at all

Or

Getting kudos, a bonus or recognition if you know you haven’t really done well enough to earn it
 
I am surprised that no one else has any 'What?s Worse' questions, so I will put forward another:

What?s worse?
Working really hard and you don?t get any bonus or acknowledgement for your effort at all

Or

Getting kudos, a bonus or recognition if you know you haven?t really done well enough to earn it

Either... I'd probably quit my job as well.

If I were to work really, really hard and it would be bonus-worthy they're either abusing my ability to do something exceptionally good, or they have a low standard on other co-workers.

If I got credits for something that wasn't earned, that makes me think they're way to easy to be satisfied, and thus have a low standard as a firm. I really hate a company that is impressed by something and does not look into the process.

But the entire idea of bonusses & praise is some kind of working-ethic that doesn't sit with me well to begin with. Because at some point people will go fast past beyond their personal beliefs and principles and aren't true to themselves.
 
I didn't actually think I would want to answer but a week ago or so we went to an indoor playground and there're quite a few little girls screaming. I almost wanted to thew up, it's unbearable. I mean, one of my kids have quite a high pitch voice but not like that. I guess that's why I don't really like female singers with very high voices that much, I just can't listen to them.

Food wise - nowadays, don't care, can always make another one. a few years ago, that would be sandwich.

not getting recognition - I usually get recognition if I've done something well or reasonably well, otherwise I'm always open for criticism to do the job better next time...if I can. as for being praised for bad job, I wouldn't pay attention to that. I might have had that experience, my reaction to that usually, "yeah, whatever". For me it's like this, I know approximately how well I can do at a current skill level and I want to know if it's worthy other people's attention, if not I can always try to go to the next level. But despite of people's reaction, if I think I've done my best at current level I should still be proud of myself no matter what. that's logical thinking. I've been growing up with my parents unrealistic expectations (they apparently thought I was a genius) so sometimes I get emotionally confused because of that and stop being sure what level I'm on.
 
What?s worse?

Being madly and passionately in love with someone (or just infatuated) and:
Never actually telling them so as to not ruin the relationship you do have

Or

Going ahead and telling them and ruining the relationship you do have
 
What?s worse?

Being madly and passionately in love with someone (or just infatuated) and:
Never actually telling them so as to not ruin the relationship you do have

Or

Going ahead and telling them and ruining the relationship you do have

That's a tough one, cause I was in this situation a month ago.

Eventually I ended up in a relationship with that person. But from what I understood she was not really looking for a relationship for the next year or so (as in "I just need a break from dating and have time for myself") so I didn't really consider it to be relationship material. But as time progressed we got along really fine, we met up a few times (which ended up on a weekly basis to hang out somewhere in the country) and at some point I was like "I like her, but I don't want to mess up our friendship". Yet I am also the one who, if I really like someone, will not engage in a lot of other social contacts. Perhaps that's a bit of a spectrum thing... having to finish things one at a time as well as obsessing over someone a lot. But I just kept contact with her, making some remarks and all within a relationship context, had a talk about how I felt about relationships. Then at some point she figured it was kinda clear that we'd be a (well, can't say perfect) good match and she kinda went along with it, despite her stance where she thought that her break was really needed.

So I think I really need some time and space to think it through. Even though I'm totally oblivious to most hints people drop, I do pick up some things.

Funny thing was, though, it might be for a part cause she's presumably on the spectrum as well, she was worried it would ruin our friendship if I'd say no.

If my interest for someone is really up to a certain level, then I will tell them, because it's really, really annoying to not move on either with or without that person. I can only stop for X amount of time, not months, and obsess over a potential friendship/relationship. But then again I should say... if I have a good connection with someone I might end up talking to that person for 4 to 5 hours each day. Which is why I might not move on that well within a bigger social frame.
 
What's worse: Going to a restaurant and accidentally ordering a meal that you don't like the taste of;
Or finding that same dish is served in such a small portion size that it doesn't fill you up?
 
What's worse: Asking two girls to a school dance who knock you back, leaving you with no partner, when everyone else has a partner; or
Arriving at the school dance with one girl and then discovering the second girl came after all.
The latter situation actually happened to me. Come to think of it I've avoided dancing ever since. :S
 

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